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writes:i have been hanging out with this guy almost everyday for a month now and we get along great we hang out in crowds so we are alwys around our friends, he holds my hand and kisses me hi and bye and even infront on everyonee, we have fooled around a bit, but when he came down to it he asked me what my deal was i told him i liked him and he said he likes me to but said if im looking for a relationsip he doesnt know what to tell me.. im really confused. am i just going to be a booty call if i keep hanging out with him and doing what we do ?
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reader, junebug  +, writes (18 August 2008):
i totaly agree with tisha she is really smart so just listen 2 her and good luck honey! Xoxojunebugxoxo p.s please dont have sex with him if he cant commimt then dont give that to him.ya know?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 August 2008):
 I don't blame you for being confused, he's doing one thing but saying another. I can tell you something else too, while he's treating you as a girlfriend in public, the other guys will take that as a sign to stay away from you. So he's effectively taking you off the market while not actually completing the purchase, if you follow my analogy.
It may just be that he's being slow and tentative in regards to getting into a committed relationship, but in that case, he should be waiting for the sex too. Since you said you the words 'booty call' I take it to mean that you two are sleeping together?
If you want a relationship, then wait for the guy who will give you one. You might need to distance yourself a bit from this guy, but let him know why. Sometimes a guy just needs a gentle reminder that this great girl isn't going to wait around for him to get off the pot. (Boy, I'm full of analogies, or something else, today!)
This doesn't have to be mean or acrimonious, it's just a simple fact that you two might be at different stages and have different expectations of what the relationship should be. If you want more and he's not ready for that, then it's no one's fault, it's just how the timing is.
But I'm concerned that you might be missing out on dating other guys because this one has staked a claim.
Good luck!
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reader, ask paige  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 hey hun im sorry to tell you but i think so, i mean for one thing 99% of men at that age arent looking for anything else but a bit of arse, and going into a commited relationship really isnt going to be the first thing on his mind. if i was you id be carefull ive liked a guy like your describing once before and he broke my heart when i found out he only wanted me to fool around with and had 10's of other girls fooled as well, just be carefull babe you dont want to be heartbroken by this guy he sounds like he is deffinatly not worth it good luck xxxxx
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