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writes:Am I expecting too much too soon??I just met this guy less than a month ago....when he first got my number he texted me non stop....that night we hung out for a couple hours....the next morning he sent me a text saying good morning honey and asking if i slept good....then i didn't hear from him until he got off work that day which was fine....then around the 3rd day i didn't hear anything from him and i had sent him a couple text messages....then later that day i told him to just lose my number cause i don't play games or whatever he was doing....well when i done that he sent me back a text telling me where he had been....so i told him sorry and so on....well the same thing happened the next day and the next.....so once again i told him to lose my number that i don't play whatever game it is he's playing that he can only text me at 7 or 8:00 at night when he wanted....he just said whatever to that....once again about hour later i texted him again and i said i was sorry and i understood if he didn't talk to me anymore....about 20 minutes later he text me back and ask if i wanted to go out of town with him....so i did and we had a really good time at least i thought we did....well guess what the same thing happened today....so i texted telling him if i had done something for him not to want to talk to me i wish he would just tell me plus i left some things in his truck and i told him he could just put them in my mail box if that was the case....still didn't hear anything....so once again and the last thing i sent him i said....really you want to be like this thats cool....after this text he sent me one back saying sorry he was at his ball game....i didn't responsed back....and he didn't try to text or call me after his game....what should i do cause i really don't know what he's wanting....should i just leave him alone and see if he comes around or WHAT PLEASE HELP ME OUT HERE!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks CaringGuy....:)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 August 2010):
Sorry, I think we misunderstood about the 'game' thing. But the advice still stands. Basically he was a bit slow to respond, whereas you saw more. So it's best to just back away for the moment and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto answer someone question i wasn't burning his phone up with text messages it was only like 2 a day......and yeah i've realized i am reading too much into this and i've decided not to bother him and see where it goes from there if he calls he calls if he doesn't he doesn't and i'll take it as a lesson learned!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLet me clarify something no we didn't have sex the first night.....and i didn't mean he was playing a game with me he was playing at his softball game!!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 August 2010):
This would be a bit terrifying to be honest. I seem to remember a girl freaking out on me when I hadn't text after just five hours a few years ago. Needless to say I gently said goodbye to her.
You say he played games, and yet you did play one yourself. Within a few days of him not having texted, for which he had reasons, you told him to lose your number. That will have had an effect on him, and probably pushed him away. Then when you had pushed him away a bit, you told him to lose the number once more. He came back. Then the same thing happened to you told him to lose the number AGAIN.
Not a good sign for either of you, that within a month of you knowing each other, three times you told him to forget, and on two of those times he came back and had good reasons. I'd suggest that now, you leave this man well alone. He will have been pushed away beyond the point of no return, and even if he did, the moment he doesn't text back, you'll play the 'forget me' card again. Maybe he was playing a game. But so were you. And you've both lost for no real reason. Pull away, and just slow down when it comes to texting and contact. There is nothing wrong with a 3 day gap if you've just started dating.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (24 August 2010):
 Ummm, I am not surprised he hasn't been in touch. You've only known the guy a month and your massively over thinking the situation and getting yourself all screwed up over nothing.
Here's the news! No guy wants you telling him what to do. Because he didn't reply to your texts when you thought he should, you got majorly defensive and told him to lose your number. This is manipulation because you absolutely DID NOT want him to lose your number. Then you apoplogise, then you do it again. Then you played the sympathy move with your 'If I have done something to upset you' and the ' I left stuff in your truck'
Lord girl!!! If you had jumped up and down in his face you couldn't have acted more psycho and annoying. He told you he was at a ball game because thats where he was. You told him to get lost!!! twice!!! and you want him to come running...He is running!!!...in the other direction...and I don't blame him.
You cannot control someone by making threats and then apologising and then manipulationg them...IT DONT WORK!!!
Men in general like to do the pursuing, as a woman you sit and wait...and wait some more. If you like the guy, you wait...if your not bothered you walk...you dont go getting all up in his face when you just met him. You made yourself look like a possesive pshycho!!! and he did what almost every man would do...he walked!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 August 2010):
 How texts a day did you send him? Sounds like quite a bit, it's like if he didn't text back in a certain time frame you would freak out on him then apologize. The reason the texts have gone done could be any of the following: he really is busy at that moment, there's less to talk about because you guys texted non-stop before, or he's just not that into you. Leave this one alone, stop texting him because he's only going to tick you off even more.
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (24 August 2010):
 He doesn't seem to be serious about pursuing you.
It seems if you are there, you are there, if not, not a big deal either.
He doesn't put you as an important person in his life, so why should you stick around?
If you think you deserve to be an important person in someone's life then he is not the one for you. He is playing a player game.
Stay away. That's my advice.
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