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writes:im a 27yr old girl thats in a relationship, though i met a 37 yr old man 3yrs ago and have been falling in love with him, he was in a relationship of 15 yrs with 2 kids as do i have, 3 yrs later he has left her and wants to be with me, though he has a family holiday booked with her and paid for and cant stop her from going, i cant cope with the idea with him going away with her, though his mum and dad are going too. he says that i have to trust him that the only person he wants is me, ive told him that its over because of this, im i doing the right thing?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): I'm a 26 years old male.No, you are not doing the right thing. You are blackmailing him into not going into a holiday.Listen, you got to take into account that he has 2 children... I can bet he doesn't wants to see or be with her... he is doing this for the KIDS! For him, his kids are very important. STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING RIGHT NOW. Go and apologize with him, and tell him it is ok with you for him to go to a holiday. You are being very selfish, and jealous. That is a very turn off for a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): What's the worse that can happen?
That he can end up having sex with his partner?
Strange how he tells u to trust him, just like he told his long committed partner to trust that he is not cheating on her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): You are saying that you are having an affair with a man who had someone else, the mother of his children, for three years before he "left" her.
But, despite "leaving" her, he has a family holiday booked, with his kids and her, and you and your kids are not invited.
This places you squarely where you are in the relationship, you are "the other woman" still, not "the woman".
You are still in an affair with an attached man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): He is right, alls you can do is trust him. Good relationships are built on trust. If he wasn't happy with her in their marriage a family holiday together isn't going to change that and make him jump on her. It's a family holiday for a reason, there won't be time for secret hanky panky anyway.
If he deserves you he will remember what he has got and have you in mind all the time. I heard statistically the person left at home is more likely to cheat that a person away on holiday(not that you would). Plan some time with friends on days and nights out to take your mind off it. The holiday will fly by.
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