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writes:I met this girl about 7 months ago and we're really into each other. There's just some things involved. The biggest one being the 900 miles apart. She's 16 and I'm 18, and we know that we can't have sex with each other until she's 18. But she really wants it, and so do I. I'm going into the Air Force (note: she's supports me going into the AF), so that could possibly kill some time, and at the same time, it could bring us closer together. We haven't cheated on each other, and we both know because we keep in touch with each other as much as possible. Texting, talking on the phone, webcam, IM'ing, everything.We talk about a number of things, like our first time together, our future together, our soon-to-be kids, that kind of stuff. I really do love this girl, and she really does love me, and we both can see that. It's only been 7 months and we both know who we want to spend our lives with. Are we really doing the right thing, or are we just crazy?
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reader, CommandoDude +, writes (3 September 2010):
 You're not crazy. But it will take a lot of commitment if you want to remain with her, on both your parts. Especially since you're going into the USAF. (Although, it could become a boon if you can get yourself stationed closer to her).
I am in a similar situation, I've known my girlfriend for about 1 1/2 years, but we didn't start dating until about 1 year ago. We are separated by 400 miles. Things have worked great, even though we have had bumps, there WILL be bumps, and we've had to hide our relationship from her parents.
Like the other guy said, you will have doubts, I have had doubts. You will probably wonder if this is going to work. There will be periods of weakness where you don't think it is going to work, or you may look at other women and feel unfaithful. You'll have to be patient. You might get upset with one another, it is important that you are honest about everything, neither of you can afford to doubt the other.
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reader, alley:)  +, writes (28 June 2010):
You's sound perfect for eachother and realy in love...have sex. It'll bring you's closer together. But dont let it take over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): You are NOT crazy! I'm in a long distance relationship as well, and it works great! The only problem is, is LDRs (long distance relationships) are NOT for the weak hearted. You will miss your girlfriend a lot after spending time with her and then realizing you will have to be away from her for a while.My girlfriend lives 2800 miles away from we. We see each other once every few months. It is something we chose, and that decision hasn't been easy for either of us. However, we both love each other, and we are making plans to live together. In your case, you are still young, so living together might not going to happen for a while, but if you really like/love this girl, I suggest you go for it. Just be prepared for the many, many hardships that will lay ahead of you, and you WILL doubt whether you make the right choice, but if you both stick to it, and have faith in each other, being away from each other only makes you want each other more and more.
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