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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is a photographer. I was looking at his messgaes and one of his collegues messaged him, i looked and it turned out he was flirting with her and offered her sex. I looked through his other messages and he told another girl that he loved her and fancied her. This devastated me and i cried for ages and he wasn't too bothered. Recently, i look again and he asks the girl he was messaging to be a model for his photography work, he doesn't understand that i think about these incidences every day and he told me to get over it. It really upset me and he doesn't care. He asked if i wanted to leave and I said no. I'm not sure what to do. He said he wanted to marry me.How do I get over this? Am I being too jealous or should I leave?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2011): Hi, you are not being too jealous. He is in a relationship with you, how DARE he offer another woman sex. Just makes me wonder what else he is hiding from you. My guess is, if he hasn't already, he will cheat soon. He tried talking his way out of it by saying he wanted to marry you...
By you putting up with his inappropriate behavior, you are letting him know that he can go behind your back and not have to worry about you leaving him. Demand respect and complete faithfulness... if things don't change then as hard as this sounds and as much as it hurts, dump this jerk and never look back. Maybe you should consider taking a break, and maybe then he will see what he is losing. You deserve a man who will respect and honor you... not some cheating dog.
Best of luck
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reader, Splashy  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 I don't think you're being jealous at all.... You've seen the messages for yourself and honestly no women should be with a man that doesn't respect his relationship...If the tables were turned he wouldnt like if you did those things to him.good luck...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 February 2011):
Offered another woman sex? Dump him. On the spot.
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reader, iloveyhoo +, writes (23 February 2011):
 I dontt think your being jealous ; but because of his job its hard not to be.
would you like him to maybe cheat on you? think of that , you said he was offereing one of his colleagues sex , if hes going to be like that do you deserve him?
just think to yourself would you rather break up with him, or still be with him even though theres a chance he's cheating on you?
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