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writes:I have a guy friend that I met less than a year ago. We have kissed once but never have we talked about it since (we were somewhat drunk). He didn't want to go further because he didn't want to ruin the friendship (although we haven't been friends that long). We talk every day (or used to until he began complaining I spoke too much and long on the phone). At the beginning this wasn't a problem since he was ok with it. Apparently later it was a problem or at least it was annoying to him. He only comes to visit me at work when he needs his parking validated (I work at a mall), other than that he can never bother to come by to say hi even if he is there real quick. He always asks me to sit his cat when he's out of town. But he never wants to hang out one on one. Only when I organize outing with our friends. If we make a bet, and he wins he makes it a point that I pay back the bet, but if I win he doesn't . I don't understand what is going on anymore, and if he could be confused or he just simply is taking advantage of me liking him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2019): I'm trying to figure-out why you consider this guy a friend? You're carrying on a one-sided friendship; hoping he'll get a hint that you want a romantic-relationship. He's a dick!
He knows you have feelings, and he's shamelessly taking advantage of them. Disrespectfully, I might add!
Stop validating his parking, stop crushing on him, and stop making bets you know he will not honor! He's making a fool of you, and I'd like to punch him. I'm not even the violent type!
CUT HIM LOOSE!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (10 July 2019):
 Of course he is using you. Not only is he getting you to sve him money on his parking but also look after his cat (I bet he doesn't pay you a penny). As if that was not enough, he "bets" with you and then demands the money HE wins but refuses to pay up when he loses.
What sort of a friend does that?
Refuse to look after his cat. If he comes in for parking validation, suddenly find yourself busy with something else. Refuse to bet with him. YOU are doing all the giving in this "friendship" and he is doing all the taking because YOU ALLOW IT. Be strong and tell him where to go. You can't make people like you by allowing them to use you.
You are worth better than that.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 July 2019):
 He isn't your friend, YOU are not his either. You are an acquaintance that he can USE for cat sitting and parking validation.
Try and say no a time or two to cat sitting or parking validation and you will see just how NOT your friend he is.
My guess is, HE thinks you want more from him, so he stays away from hanging out alone with you, he complains about you talking to much on the phone and he turned you down after you two had kissed with the *lame excuse" "I don't want to ruin our friendship" because he thought it was the NICEST way he could turn you down.
What exactly do you get out of this "friendship"? Someone who doesn't want to spend time with you, rather not talk on the phone with you but DO want you to cat sit (I bet for free) and get his parking validated (to save a few $)
BE realistic. This isn't a friend you describe.
I'd say stop wasting your time on this guy.
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