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writes:I’m back home over summer due to COVID and that has triggered a bunch of memories i hadnt realized i’d forgotten and feel unsafe because of this. The majority of these are from when I was under the age of 10, my mother calls me crazy for still feeling apprehensive towards both of my parents after all these years. Memories include: getting kicked in the SeaWorld parking lot whilst on vacation, hit and threatened over things like spilling water or breaking a glass, my mother telling me I was fat and that I should stop eating, my dad destroying a laptop in a fit of rage because my little brother spent too much time game, somewhat recently hitting me over the head and shoving me backwards off of a bench. Am I being paranoid by working towards permanently moving out as soon as possible? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tinacandida  +, writes (10 August 2021):
 Yes get out as soon as you can. You need to make sure your brother is safe also. Contact childrens services and talk to them. They will go in and do an assessment. Your parents are obviously been abusive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2021): Oh my gosh, sweetheart! Who wouldn't want to get out of that kind of situation as soon as they could?
Eventually, you will; but your poor younger brother is left behind to deal with their tempers. This is such a sad situation; because you are helpless kids subjected to the violent temper tantrums of your parents. Normally, child-abuse has to be reported to child-protection authorities. Your parents actually hit you both. Not spankings, but pushing, slaps, and with objects! Nothing angers me more than when people bully and physically abuse women, children, or elderly people!!! It upsets me so much! Your parents have it in their minds that's discipline; but it's not. They are in a fit of anger (or rage), and lashing-out with violence towards their own children!!! Spilled water?!! Seriously?!! Nothing affects a child worse than telling them they're fat, stupid, or ugly. They carry this with them all their lives!!! Oh, my Lord!
Hopefully, now that you're a young-adult they're less likely to attack; but I can see where you're anxious or nervous about what might set them off. You don't mention if your parents do drugs, or if they're alcoholics; but the behavior you described is typical of people with substance-abuse problems. Not necessarily always the case. It's just how very mean people behave, who have anger-management issues. Now you are old enough to report issues of violence and abuse against you and your brother.
I totally agree with Honeypie, as I frequently do. Get the heck out of there as soon as you can. Even if they don't hit you, they setoff psychological-triggers; and remind you of the worst times in your childhood. You have to walk around on pins and needles!
You are not paranoid. You're traumatized! You're suffering form a mild post traumatic stress; bought-on from abuse. If you have close relatives like grandparents, or your favorite aunts or uncles who might take you in; you could offer to pay them rent when you can find a job. Your best move is to remove yourself from that environment; but lookout for your younger brother. The problem with such parents, is that their children start to resort to violence and angry outbursts; just like they're parents do. I hope it doesn't affect you or your brother in this way.
You've touched my heart. I hope you can find a safer and kinder place to be. I hope they are less inclined to lay a hand on you now. You're a young adult now; and if ever they hit you in the present, it's considered assault. If they hurt your younger brother by hitting him with objects, that too is assault and abuse. Not much can be done if they destroy the things they've paid for. If it rises to the point of injury, or you see your younger brother showing signs of distress; please report it to a family-member you can trust. If you think it's more serious, you have no choice but to take it to the police. No-one should shun going home, that should be a place of love, peace, and comfort.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 July 2021):
 Nope, you are not crazy but I would NOt tell your parents of your plans.
Just work on saving up and moving out ASAP.
Your parents sound toxic.
Make a budget, make a plan and GTFO!
Good luck!
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