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writes:When I was in high school, I went to an all boy school. There was this kid, Zackary, who we sometimes bullied each other and at other times, we would get along. I never understood our relationship in high school.As adults, we are both still single and we are great friends (we don't bully each other anymore) but we never talked about our dating/sexuality. In high school, we both dated girls. We went tent camping together this past weekend. We fished, went hiking and did other outdoors stuff. We had a few beers and when we went to bed (in our tent) and we talked some inside the tent and out of nowhere, he ended up kissing me and than apologize. On our way back home, we barely spoke. I tried calling him a few times but he won't answer or respond back to my text messages. The fact is, I did enjoy him kissing me. I always thought I was straight, but now I am unsure. I do not know if he is gay, bisexual, bicurious or whatever. But no matter what, I still want to be friends and be able to do things with. We have a lot of things in common (we actually have more things in common than what I do with my other friends) and I enjoy his company. Any advice on what I can do to help save our friendship or what to do with the fact that he kissed me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2021): Just let things be for a bit. He's embarrassed that he crossed the line, and not sure of what you're thinking about him. You've attempted contact, and you should just let him know you're still friends any given random opportunity.
Don't push. He's probably not sure of what he did himself; and he's grappling with his feelings, and maybe worried about how all this will effect the friendship.
A kiss doesn't always mean too much. It was in the heat of the moment, and alcohol was involved. Things will be a little awkward for awhile; but I don't think you've lost a friend.
Just send a simple text, and tell him "everything is okay!" Then just let it be.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 July 2021):
 I would simply text him and ask him:"Are we good?" That you value his friendship above all.
As for the kiss, I wouldn't bring it up unless he did but I would also STRONGLY advise that you don't start thinking about experimenting with this guy. If he is your friend, romance stays out of it.
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