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writes:So I'm in a relationship with another woman and we both have our own places. When I stay over at her place I bring my own towels but not toiletries. If I see she's out I go buy her some. Newayz I noticed she uses the same towel for days at her own place. She recently begin staying over at my place a few days out the month. I have about 15 long towels 6 medium towels and about 30 face towels. I regularly change out my towels since I weekly do laundry. Newayz I noticed my girlfriend using excessive towels like each time she shower or wash her face. It only bothers me bc at her home she doesn't. I haven't said anything bc I'm not her reason. It could be she wants to impress me. How should I handle this Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 June 2014):
 I have to have my own towels in the house too, and if I didn't replace my husband's and son't towels as well, they'd probably keep using them until they disintegrated or something.
I like to replace mine often. Not every day, but every other day I'd say. Face towel gets changed every day and washcloth DEFINITELY every day and I *love* new towels. My mom is a neat freak/germaphobe big time. She replaces washer/dryers when she thinks they've been used enough and wants clean ones!
I like Honeypie's thoughts as well! Why not ask her to throw in a load of towels to the laundry! Saves you having to do them! Plus, the only thing nicer than a fresh towel is a fresh towel still warm from the dryer! :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 June 2014):
 I like Honeypie's idea about asking her to run a load of towels. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2014): I think she's trying to impress me. It's a bit flattering. I guess I won't make waves since it is done to show she is not dirty. I also regularly replace shower curtains. And toothbrush. I take trash out often. I like visitors but not the ones who fly and crawl so I try to be clean. She is a good woman and I am already in the process if getting a larger place with two bathrooms so not to pressure her.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 June 2014):
"Babe, I've noticed that you use a lot more towels over at my place than when we are at yours. Is there something wrong with my towels? Do you just like to use a fresh towel every time you are in the bathroom? I want you to be comfortable and just want to understand why that's happening."
My guess is she is doing what she thinks you do. If you don't want to do that much laundry, hide the clean towels so she has to re-use the same ones. Within reason, of course.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 June 2014):
 I only use towels once. I always have. That was how my mom liked it, and I took over that idiosyncratic habit. I "might" use the towel I wrap my hair up in twice. My husband would use the same towel for a week straight... I just can't do it. He has HIS towels, I have mine.
My guess is, she thinks that how you do it. Or you have lovely soft towels and using a new one every time feels like a luxury.
When she is over ask her to run a load of towels?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 June 2014):
Actually, I think she's doing it to be courteous to you. She may have it in her mind that you are a germaphobe since you bring your own towels with you. She's being a "When in Rome" and giving respect to you and the way you do things.
I don't think you're being petty, just a little bit idiosyncratic when it comes to towel etiquette. I wouldn't handle it any sort of way. Towels are laundry, so unless she's using all 51 of your towels at once, it's not really much more effort for you to wash. She's not leaving them on the floor or on the bed soaking wet. She's not using your toothbrush. Usually, courtesy calls for the person from the house to provide fresh clean towels and bedding for the person visiting, so you bringing your own towels to someone else's house would be like bringing your own sheets to their house. You don't need to unless she has 1 towel in the house. In that case, buying her towels for a gift would be a good idea.
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