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writes:My ex left me, he strung me along thoUGH. He wOuld tell me that he wantd me back and then he would get with someone else. Yes i fell for it. I loved him, we had a child together. I didnt want to let go. I kept hoping he would wake up and realise what he threw away. He has hurt me beyond words. He used me for sex. He told me he loved me and wanted to be a family just to get into my bed. That is low. I want to move on as i know i deserve better. Its not easy to do. Me and him were together for so long. We built a life, we have a son. How can i ever get past that. How can i stop loving him so that i can let go. He has my heart. I wish he didnt but he does. Help! Plz
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reader, nikki1419  +, writes (7 May 2009):
i am kinda in the same situation. my ex left me with our 4 month old and I went through 5 months of hell. he verbally abused me, didn't care what responsibilities he left me with and yet I couldnt get over him. now 5 months later he wants to try and make things work, i'm scared senseless to trust and believe him. I want to move on so bad but don't want to hurt him by saying even though hes ready to try it might be too late
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Thankyou for your responses and advice. I appreciate it. I will stay strong for my son. Ur both right. He deserves that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): Only time can heal those wounds.. You need to think of yourself and your son. Would you want him growing up seeing you constantly hurting for someone who isn't worth it?? Would you want him to see his mother constantly being emotionally abused by his father?? I don't think so. You have to be strong and concerntrate on your child and his needs. He needs his mom to be strong and confident. Getting over your ex will come in time but for now you should channel all your love and devotion to that precious baby. He should have your heart not that man who clearly isn't worth it. You can't force someone into commitment. And obviously he doesn't want to ne there. So you have to be strong. Try to remember all the pain he has caused you and let that get you strong inside. Harden yourself so you can become independant and one day you'll be able to say it's finally over..Until then be good to that child.. He deserves it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): Just stop and read what you wrote, see what you are telling us about him. Look at your son and would you ever want him to grow up and treat a women like that. If not do not let him see his mother being treated like that from a man. Take time with your son and clear your head, that is the only man you need in your life. You will find someone that you deserve and will treat you right.
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