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writes:I'm certainly not the first and I won't be the last to have this problem, but I can't stop thinking about sex. It's terrible! It started all of a sudden at the beginning of this month, and since then I haven't been able to concentrate on anything else. I've hardly done any work at college even though my coursework deadlines are fast approaching; it's as if all I want to do is get married and make babies - literally. I can't understand it at all.To be fair, I don't have much of a life outside of college (and I'm not particularly enjoying my actual course at the moment, but that's another story), so I'm wondering if boredom could be a contributing factor. And to make it worse, my lovely boyfriend and I are an LDR , so... you get the idea. I'm still a virgin at the moment because we decided to wait (it's been 10 months now), though I don't think I can bear to stay that way for much longer. I'm beginning to wonder if having sex will make it better or worse though. I mean, once I start, will I ever want to stop!?I guess what I'm really trying to ask is if there's anything I can do to get rid of some of the energy - apart from the obvious, because I've done that. How do you drag your focus from your body and put it elsewhere? I'd be really grateful for any advice... I'm desperate (pun intended!) :P x
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reader, synchrohobbit  +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Are you thinking about sex, or are you thinking about getting married and having kids? These are two entirely different things. If it is the latter it would seem that your current frustration with school is contributing to wanting a life as a mother and wife, which might sound wonderful in comparison. On the other hand, you are a young woman and your body wants you to have sex. Now. and often. Most societies still don't consider women sexual beings who get horny and want to have sex for the sake of it, but the reality is that we do. A long distance relationship is very difficult in this situation, but I honestly think you guys should have sex. Doing it once won't help, but getting it out of your system on a regular basis will definitely free up your mind.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Hardly do I think that you need a doctor, but indeed, it's hormones raging. Quite natural, don't you know. Although you infer that masturbation has not abated your desires, it may be due to techniques, but at your age, the sexual urge is prominently and understandably on the mind. Solutions other than the obvious are unknown, but if you do discover something effective and benign, please let me know and I can possibly sell it in America!
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reader, supermum +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Going on the Pill if you are not already on it may help your hormones settle down a bit. Aside from that, it is about learning to deal with it and still having a life outside of those thoughts. Your college lecturers will not be very happy with 'sex on the brain' as an excuse!
It is probably just your age and new thoughts etc, and no doubt will settle down, but it may be worth having a chat with your doctor if it is affecting your life that much xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): It has to do with the fluctuation of hormone levels in your body. I go through periods when I'm very horny and all i can think about is sex and then can go for weeks without being horny at all. Don't worry, this is just a faze, it will pass.
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