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writes:Almost in love with my bf after almost seven months...16 hour dates, cooking together, long drives, pet names, always laughing together, sweet moments.we have a 15yr difference in age and that as well as other factors worry me. Our musical tastes are different, I like classical, new age, rock, soul, opera, etc. and he's into techno, 80s, electronica which he plays sometimes when we make love. Ugh! I wish he was able to hang with my friends w/o feeling strange, but then again, I've never met his friends! Is he ashamed? I don't know whats going on. Could a man who drove 16hrs to help you, spend more than $200 on needed eyewear for you, taught ur god-child to read and stayed up taking care of you when sick and plagued with night terrors be playing a bad game? I feel naive. I'm aware I have little life experience but I'm usually level-headed and able to discern various factors. I simply wanted friendship upon first meeting him and kept up communication via phone calls until we went walking and found chemistry. Reply to this Question
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 yeah alarm bells ringing. when someone wont involve you in their life and doesn't want to be in yours apart from meeting up with you alone you have to question the reason why after 7 months...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): Not so sure I agree with Birdy - but I'll caution you this...Let's say everything works out, and the two of you go on your merry way in love, get married, the works.What are you going to do when you're 50 and he's 65!?!?!?When you're 40 and he's 55!?!?When you're 65 and he's 80 or dead!?!?When we're young, and life seems long and full of hope, energy, and possibility, a 15 year age difference doesn't seem all that bad - but honestly, the two of you are in very different places in your lives, and will always be so. That doesn't mean that you cannot have a meaningful relationship, nor does it mean that you cannot enjoy the time you have together, but age differences beyond a decade become problematic in the long run.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 If you haven't met ANY of his friends or relatives after 7 months; there's a good chance that he's either married or involved in some other relationship - you might want to do some sleuthing and find out.
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