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After this can I trust my friend?

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Question - (16 August 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 August 2016)
A female South Africa age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Dear Aunts

I have something on my mind that is disturbing me. Saturday night, me and two of my friends got drunk for the first time then suddenly we started talking too much. Pouring to each other our feelings towards our boyfriends. One of my friends was not so drunk like us so she was recording us when we talk. The other friend who was drunk like me out of the blue asked if I gave my boyfriend sex then I said yes then she said good because if you don't give him I will give it to him.

She continued talking about how perfect my boyfriend is, and how her ex cheated on her while she loved him even how she does not trust her new boyfriend. In the morning I was surprised to hear that after all she is the one who came up with the idea of getting drunk so we can all experience how it feels like.

Should I trust her and blame it on the alcohol or start worrying about this girl? She only saw my boyfriend twice but my boyfriend does not know her. Any advice?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (17 August 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntI would be careful trusting your other friend who stayed sober and recorded you both, to me this is sneaky behavior. You should be able to relax with alcohol instead of worrying someone is recording you.

This other girl, well it sounds like she thinks your boyfriend is the perfect man, does not mean you cannot trust her it was probably just a comment that came out wrong.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 August 2016):

Honeypie agony aunt1. I wouldn't trust her blindly.

2. being drunk doesn't mean yo can't control what you say, but people sometimes lose their normal "filter". Which means she DOES have a bit of a crush on your BF. Should yo worry about her? Probably not. My guess is she has build a fantasy character in her head of how a "perfect" guy should be and right now she added 3+3 and got 7 - 7 being your BF. She based it on what she has heard about him from you, so if you are saying only good things (which is fine) she is presuming that he is "perfect". All she really did was confirm that you have BETTER taste in guys than she does.

3. don't let someone record you in the future, unless you are in FULL control of your faculties (which means... not while drunk).

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (16 August 2016):

Denizen agony auntAlcohol only releases what is already there. In vino veritas. I think you know that this person is not worthy of your full trust. Put some distance between you. You don't have to be nasty but you should be cool.

She might have just been complimenting you on your boyfriend but it all sounds a bit suspicious to me.

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