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writes:Hi,I asked a girl out and it took her 1 week to say no. then she began flirting with me alot. is she trying to say somthing and what do i do?... thanks
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 November 2007):
 Maybe this will seem like awful advice to you, but trust me on this one: Tell her to stop the flirting. If you don't, she will continue to play games with you.
Your intentions were clear when you asked her out. Her rejection was also clear (or so you'd think) when she said no, and then only after a week. She made you wait in vain because she wanted you to agonize over her. And now she is flirting, knowing full well she won't give you the time of day.
Whenever you want something with a woman, don't take half-truths or indecision. Yes is yes, no is no. There is no in-betweens. And, if she won't say yes, assume it's a no. And, once she says no, it's no, forever. People have to be clear when talking to you.
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reader, Mothra +, writes (26 November 2007):
You can ask her out again. But she may say no again. But she could say yes.
As far as I can see, you've already "taken the risk" and been knocked back. You have, as far as I can see, much less to lose this time, and if you're still interested you can give it a go.
She might not know what she wants and be ... "unreliable". But it sounds like it's worth a shot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): Well, sadly, I must admit I've done this a few times before. This might not apply to you but whenever a guy asked me out I was usually really flattered- but too shy or just... needed time to think before I could answer.
I usually liked them anyway, which made me flirt like crazy. I guess those awkward moments of asking someone out ruin the fun of harmless flirting.
Not really sure what you should do, but just to say don't give up hope! She probably likes you and might need some time.
Hope that helped, at all. :P - Kirst
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