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After six years my ex wants to meet up. I'm not feeling too good about this!

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Question - (6 September 2013) 6 Answers - (Newest, 7 September 2013)
A male United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

My partner of 17 years left me for another guy six years ago. During this period she got married and divorced. She has recently contacted me via email saying that she is still in love with and regrets hurting. She wanted to communicate and either talk or meet up to apologise. I am reluctant to talk or meet up. She hurt me pretty badly and I took me at least four years to get over her. We have communicated by email and I have manged to get some answers since I never had any closure. However, I am not sure if this is a good idea. She has not made any contact in the six year period and out of the blue she is asking about my welfare. All this has really rattled me, I would appreciate any guidance.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (7 September 2013):

Honeypie agony auntGo with your gut instinct! It tells you she is up to no good.

She is single and want SOMEONE (anyone) to be there for her and since she hasn't found anyone yet she want back to you, hoping that YOU would be overjoyed for the attention and the chance to be with her again.

Sorry, I'd tell her no thanks and cut the contact.

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A male reader, bronzed adonis United Kingdom +, writes (7 September 2013):

bronzed adonis agony auntIn my opinion she cannot stand being alone, and she has run out of options. Do not let curiosity get the best of you. I would block her from ever contacting you again. Don`t worry about her, she will eventually soon find someone else to be in love with. People like her always do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013):

"She has not made any contact in the six year period and out of the blue she is asking about my welfare. All this has really rattled me, I would appreciate any guidance."

I can only assume she's been dumped, lacks any other viable options, and so is desperate enough to try and weasel her way back into your life as her least-objectionable currently-available alternative by bypassing your brain and shamelessly appealing directly to your ego and your dick.

Don't be a fool. The only person about whose welfare she's concerned is her. If you agree to meet with her, then you're playing right into your hands.

She played you for a chump once by running off for what she thought was a better deal elsewhere. Don't let her do it again, if you do then you'll have only yourself to blame.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (7 September 2013):

If I was you I'd stay away. She is just lonely and she'll probably do the same thing when someone else comes along. It may be tempting to try it again, and under different circumstances I might suggest you to, but not in this situation.

She made her bed, let her sleep in it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013):

Something didn't work out for u and u are the safety net. Or she just realized that u are truly a great man and what was she thinking, after meeting a couple jerks. Take what she says with a grain of salt. A few weeks is one thing to try and live without someone u say u love but several years. Listen to your initiation buddy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013):

If you aren't feeling good about it, don't do it.

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