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writes:I am 16 years old and I have really strong feelings for one of my teachers... I've had these feelings for almost 4 years now. He taught my 8th grade science class and then I had him again for 9th grade bio. His wife also teaches in my school but she's completely oblivious to my feelings towards him even though I talk to her a lot. I'm not sure what his feelings are towards me... I go upstairs to his classroom every morning before school starts and I work out with him in the weight room after school. He sends me mixed signals - he flirts with me sometimes and totally blushes when I talk to him. We occasionally text too... He just recently had a baby with his wife so I don't think he and on leaving her or anything like that.I don't know what to do! I don't understand why I'm so attracted to him. I want him so badly
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2012): - he should NOT be texting you. I'm willing to bet that he knows the effect he's having on you, given that you say he blushes and flirts. He's clearly at fault here for encouraging this infatuation.
- regardless of what you might hear about how it's your responsibility not to wreck his life or whatever, that's not the whole story. If something physical were to happen, it's possible that he wouldn't be charged even IF you tried to take action against him one day. Student-teacher flings obviously reflect badly on the schools involved, so there can be incentive to favour the teacher's side of the story/turn a blind eye. Before going down that road, you might want to ask yourself if you would be okay with that. But honestly, despite the fact that half of marriages end in divorce and the stress of having a baby can put added strain on couples, nothing suggests he's ever going to seriously consider for a second cheating on his wife with you. He seems to just want a little fun. From the sounds of it, you might be wanting more. And if that's the case, this relationship is imbalanced in more ways than one. Frankly, you have your whole life to live and tons of experiences and freedom that he doesn't have anymore. You have the power in the long run. But I don't think you should give him too much power even for a minute.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2012): Don't worry - having crushes on teachers is fine, but once you pursue it, it becomes a problem. He seems to be happily married and you need to respect that. I don't think that you are going to the weight room
Just for him because I too also go to the weight room and I a girl. But just be wise about it and don't turn this relationship physical
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): Keep it as a fantasy, unless you wanna see him in jail, registered as a sex offender for life, leave his baby without a father, ruin his life and his family with attorney fees, and you having to switch school mess up future plans, your aprents freaking out....
Now when you are in college you can do ANYTHING with your professors!!! :D
Thi is a personal experience, my neighbor fooled around with her P.E teacher, she was 17, but he got charged anyway. She was forced by her parents to be homeschooled. It ruined both their lives.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 November 2012):
 You're now going to see a ZILLION responses that are going to reveal to you that your's is a common, youthful infatuation which has NO FUTURE... and which you should chalk up to a pleasant fantasy.....and forget!!!
Good luck.....
P.S. Spend more time studying your subject matter, and less time studying your teacher!!!!!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (25 November 2012):
 You need to not pursue this. Just sayin'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2012): I think you imagine him flirting with you because that's what you hope to be happening, as it would indicate he feels the same about you. The truth is, most crushes are one sided, what you feel for a certain person, they don't necessarily feel for you.
Take a step back and think rationally for a second :
*He's happily married.
*He and his wife obviously have plenty of things in common, otherwise they wouldn't have fallen in love and married to begin with.
*He and his wife have just had a baby and started/expanded their little family together, and have their future planned.
Now let's size up the things you have to offer him :
*You're a 16 year old mid teenage girl who hasn't finished high school.
*You are his pupil at a school he teaches.
*You are too young for him.
*The only thing you probably both have in common is that you both attend the same school but at different ends of the scale (I doubt you have working out in common, I believe you only do that as an excuse to be near him and maybe try to impress him)
*He would lose his valued career, his beloved wife and his precious family if he gets involved with you.
There's actually NOTHING in the above list you have to offer him. They're simply facts.
Why on earth would he risk all what's going for him to be with you? He's not insane.
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