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writes:my boyfriend wants to get me a dildo for valentines should i be mad at that or hurt over it idk what to think of it as?please help
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reader, missm83 +, writes (12 February 2011):
 best gift ever! :)
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reader, DakotaFleming +, writes (12 February 2011):
I think its a compliment that he wants to get you this gift.It means hes so into you and wants you to show him how you use it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): It suppose if you & he plan to use it together that would mean it would also partly be about his pleasure and therefore a little selfish but that's the only reason I can think of against it.
It seems far more likely that he wanted to get you something that's a bit different and fun. It's definitely not a not big enough issue to get hurt, angry and upset over. Especially as you've already talked about it with each other and you've mentioned you want one!
So, no if I was in your position I wouldn't be at all offended and depending on the people, yes it can be a very good gift for Valentines Day!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (11 February 2011):
 So you want the dildo, and have talked about getting one, but just don't want it for Valentine's? But Valentine's is the day for romance (ad sex), so many couples give and get sexy gifts like lingerie or flavored lotions or take bubble baths together. In his case, he's getting you something to use during sex, instead of something to wear before sex. It may make you uncomfortable, and if so you should tell him, but it's not technically inappropriate to get you a gift to enhance your sex life that you've mentioned wanting on the holiday for celebrating relationships. And as Blonde68 mentioned, it's moe thoughtful than a cliche dozen roses and some chocolate (and a lot more fun).
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): It's cute and original, and might be kinda fun!
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 Me? As a woman? I don't actually give a damn about Valentine's Day, so it wouldn't make any difference to me. If you're very serious about it and want him to make a romantic effort, maybe he could tie a ribbon around it?
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (11 February 2011):
Ok.... well I personally would be very happy...and a nice change from flowers or chocs etc..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): Please don't mad at him. I have been married 19 years and have gotten some pretty strange things for gifts over the years. I just smile and say you get me the best gifts (as I watch a big smile spread across his face). I can see the love behind each gift ,like the red bobble that is suppose to be a heart, the pea green teddy, the pots that have glass lids that I said looked neat one day, ext. These are the things that we look back on later in life with a smile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWould you, as a woman, be hurt or mad that your boyfriend got you a dildo for Valentine's Day? Because of the day that it is, how would you feel if that's what you received?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well its not that i dont want one because i do, and we have talk about it many times and we both actually been wantting one, it would be lots of fun,,,what i am asking is that a good gift to get ur gf for valentines day????/ thats realy what i am tryn to understand is that sumthing OK to get ur gf for that kinda day and weather i should be ok with it or feel bad about!!
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (11 February 2011):
 I'd be honored.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (11 February 2011):
You're asking our advice on whether you should be mad or hurt for him wanting to buy you a dildo, but more importantly, how are YOU feeling about this? At the end of the day, its what you feel that is important... if you don't want one, then you must tell him... if you do want one, then enjoy it!
I had one bought me for a birthday present one year, I was quite excited however, as I knew we would both get some enjoyment out of it.
But seriously, if it is something that you are really not in to, then I think it is best that you tell him. He isn't the first guy to buy his girlfriend a gift like this, and most certainly won't be the last.
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reader, howcomehoney +, writes (11 February 2011):
Wow, that's, like, so romantic. Whatever happened to dinner and flowers, eh? "Happy Valentine's Day, my love, I offer you Fake Penis."
Anyway, though, why does he want to buy you a dildo? Have you two talked about this together, or did he just think it was a good idea on his own? I wouldn't be insulted by it, but use it as an opportunity to open discourse on your sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): He probably thinks that you would enjoy it, and knowing the visual nature of men, would also probably enjoy watching you use it. It's a sex toy designed to impart pleasure, and that is what he wants for you. If you want something else, you need to clear the air with him.
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