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*ARE1961
writes:boyfriend of 8 years is verbally abusive to me and when he drinks it worse he is all about himself doesnt have a job hasnt in 3 years moved in with his mommy mind you hes 47 ii did everything and anything for him and i feel used i own my home work 2 jobs and he does nothing but collect unemployment for 3 years cant hold a job i have gotten him many, he walked out so many times i cant count anymore and came back over and over he has gotten in trouble with the law i was the one there for him thru it all from day one he smokes crack and takes prescription drugs in excess and was not very intimate or sexual all these years im sure he also does street drugs he biploar and not on meds he has explosive anger towards me and only me and i am the only one there for him besides his mommy so why would he treat me this way he argued with me 5 weeks ago because i didnnt answer my phone at 2 am i work since then he hasnt called me not once he acts as if im dead to him how can someone who says they love you not acknowledge you for 5 weeks i did nothing to deserve this and i wont be the one to apologize for something i didnt do i am the only one who stood right by his side thru it all and treated him like gold why would someone throw away someone whos so good i admit i have faults but i never go out i work alot never drink never did drugs never cheated always there for him and also should i keep up the no contact???? because im tired of apologizing for things i havent done he always places blame on someone and its always on me doesent he realize what a good girlfriend he has no one would ever go above and beyond the way i did for him what should i do contact or no any feedback i would love
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reader, KARE1961 +, writes (14 September 2010):
KARE1961 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe called last nite at 1230 am i didnt answer because i am doing nc im sure he will try again when he needs something and i cannot be his door mat any longer i was for 8 years i,maybe mommy threw him out and he needs a place but 5 weeks is a long time to just walk out and intentionally inflict this kind of pain on me without any regards or feelings for me and not even thinkin twice that is the cruelest thing anyone can do to another on purpose and like all you guys say unless something seriously happened to him theres always a way to get to a PHONE and call the person
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): I have no idea whatsoever why you would want to stay with this guy. When he comes begging you to give him another chance, slam the door in his face and never look back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Okay so I know that you care for this man...but I dont see why. What is in this relationship for you?
I'm reminded of a joke I heard one time. A man goes to the police department and says, I need to report that my wife is missing. The policeman says, "Can you describe her please?" The man replies, "Yes, she is 5', weighs 300 lbs, very thinning hair, no teeth, she talks very loud because she is almost completely deaf. she reeks of urine because she is incontinent and refuses to wear depends....eeeerrrm...on second thought officer, just forget it!"
Now I know that isnt funny to you right now, but thats what your post sounds like. I just dont know why you would want him back. good luck, mal
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Good, he's gone. Change the locks. It seems like he solved your problem on his own by leaving. Why on earth would you want to get him back?!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Let's see. This guy
1. Does hard drugs
2. Abuses prescrption drugs
3. Is verbally abusive
4. can't support himself
5. has a criminal record
Don't you think that by extricating himself out of your life, he did you the biggest favor you've ever had? Why do you want him back??
Cut him loose and don't let him contact you. You're dead to him? GOOD! He's dead to all good society with a record like that!
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reader, Moonstreak +, writes (11 September 2010):
Hello maybe you should try and find a new man. Maybe you would be happier just a suggestion.
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