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writes:I've been looking for a relationship since I was 15 and after a first awkward date at 17, I simply stopped pursuing women with intentions of a relationship. I feel like I'm so inexperienced that no woman would want to be with me.All the women I know and some of the ones I fancy are in similar social circles both at home/college (where I had asked out about four girls) and at university (where I have asked out one girl).I am concerned that by putting myself out there and asking out a few girls that know each other means that they talk amongst themselves and make it even less likely for me to be successful. Especially if I'm rejected or act awkward because I don't know what to do.I have no evidence this takes place and perhaps I'm being paranoid and vain to even consider they would talk about me, but it has been on my mind and asking women directly is really desperate.I can't say I'm not desperate because as time ticks by I desire a relationship even more. It's a ruthless circle even though I'm normally secure and confident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2013): Hi I'm 17 and can tell you that you have to be sweet and don't judge a girl on her looks. I'm not good looking to some guys at my school, and I'm bullied because of it. I'm small and sicky and have lots of zits and and pale, not good looking in most books. And some guy made a bet, who can make me fall for them faster. So the first one started, webs dates, and I told he things and I opened up. And he just told me the bet and so that he fell and love with me, not on my looks but on me. And been dates from that day on
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (11 April 2013):
You don't need to know a girl to ask her out. Why don't you try talking with a girl while waiting in line somewhere or whatever. If she turns you down no big deal.
I realize that you're not just out for sex but I want to tell you that the guy I knew who got laid the most in my entire life did so because he didn't have an ounce of fear in his body when it came to asking girls out. I even saw him get slapped (I have no idea what he said) and it didn't deture him.
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