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18 and not had a relationship......

Q.   Here's the thing I'm an 18 year old male and not to blow my own trumpet or anything, but just to set the scene. I am fairly good looking, I've been told by other people. I'm intelligent. I am also popular I have lots of good friends. I haven't...

A.   20 January 2011: I think that you are the type of dude whose ready to be serious in a relationship. You just havent found the right girl and thats ok it just takes time. I dont think your doing anything wrong. Your doing something right by waiting. You will find her ... (read in full...)

Why do I want to have sex 24/7?

Q.   i am 46 years old not a baby by any means. but all i think about is sex nothing else matters to me but having sex. i was molested as a child several times. when i was married i cheated on my ex and now i just had sex with a married woman who is very ...

A.   15 January 2011: Maybe you just scared that someone gone take it from You since you were molested. I think you need to get counceling.... (read in full...)

A bump inside my breast! Is this normal?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Im a 16 yr old normal teen. I've recently started feeling my breast and noticed there was like a bump inside my breast. Whenever i put my finger on that certain area, i can feel the bump. Im super worried because i have no idea what it ...

A.   10 January 2011: You need to go to a doctor. It could be anything. Don't wait. Go as soon as you can. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Could this be a yeast infection or is it an STI/STD Title

Q.   ok so.... saturday 8th january i had unprotected sex with a guy while i was drunk. It's the first time i've gone back to a guys house after meeting them that night. and ive only slept with 4 people. The thing is i now have an itching / slightly...

A.   10 January 2011: I think you should go to the doctor. Get tested because you dont wanna let it get out of control. Just in case its something major.... (read in full...)

Why are men players?

Q.   Why are men Players??? Why do they have a daytime girl and a nite time girl?? ...

A.   10 January 2011: I think they are players because they havent found the right women to get them in check. They mess with girls that allow them to treat them like that. ... (read in full...)

Why are men players?

Q.   Why are men Players??? Why do they have a daytime girl and a nite time girl?? ...

A.   10 January 2011: I think they are players because they havent found the right women to get them in check. They mess with girls that allow them to treat them like that. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hardly talks to me anymore, but if I dump him then we won't be friends?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend a little over six months. Its gotten to the point where we barely talk anymore. I feel more like a good friend he talks to occasionally than his girlfriend and I honestly don't know what to do. I do not want to lose his ...

A.   8 January 2011: I think you should be honest with him. If yall aren't happy then yall shouldn't be together. Just tell him that you think yall should be friends. It's no point in being with him if he barely haves time for you. ... (read in full...)

I want to become closer friends first before a relationship!

Q.   So i recenetly told the love of my life i like him and he said he likes me too. Were both in the closet (its a secret kinda relationship) almost all my wishes came true when he said he liked me but we dont talk that much. We don't really go out ...

A.   8 January 2011: Just try to commincate more with him. I think yall should come out of the closet. Its nothing wrong with the way yall are. Talk a little more with him and spend a little more time with him. I hope you take a little of mii advice. Sorry I couldn't ... (read in full...)

Why is this man addressing my wife as "my dear"?

Q.   Is it ok if a guy whom I suspect of having an emotional affair with my wife text her addressing her 'my dear...'?? She told me he is interested in her but she is not. And she continue meeting him. Is it alright for her to meet him knowing his ...

A.   8 January 2011: No it's not ok for him to say that to your wife. She did something to lead him on and it's not right. I don't think you should meet him. Just pay closer attention. This seems like it could get a little sticky.... (read in full...)

Is it hard for a girl to end a unhealthy relationship?

Q.   Especially when it's a long term relationship of 5 years. Went through many break ups with bf but patched back. Bf is very possessive and sometimes emotionally abusive. Once, bf slapped her. She went through so much of emotional hurt with bf. Keeps ...

A.   8 January 2011: she needs to get out of that relationship as soon as she can. Its going to be hard for her but if she stays in it he mite end up beating her up really bad. she doesn't need to marry him at all if he is treating her like this.Have you tried talkin to ... (read in full...)

Her smile lights me up inside but I know she won't be mine!

Q.   Well, like the many questions on here, im in love with one of my best friends. Who is also a girl.. I just dont know what to do anymore. I can't stop thinking about her, and i cant sleep at night. When i see her it makes my day, just seeing her smil...

A.   7 January 2011: I kind of feel like you should telll her how you feel but then again i feel like you shouldnt. If you knw she's going to react badly then you should just try and move on. Im sorry that i can't give you alot of adive. Just follow your heart.... (read in full...)

I like my best friend's uncle

Q.   I like my best friends uncle, he's 23, and we often talk, I know this isnt a crush, I've had crushes and I've never felt for anyone quite as strongly as I do for him. My friends made it clear to me that if anything ever happens that she will refuse ...

A.   7 January 2011: I understand where your friend is coming from. You dont wanna ruin your friendship do you? I think you should tell them both how you feel and if your friend doesnt want you dating him then i think you shouldnt just so that you want ruin your ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to lose weight!

Q.   Help! My boyfriend has a problem with my weight. I think I'm pretty hot though, and not overweight at all. I am 5'6 and weigh 132 lbs. His problem is, I've gained weight since we've been together. When we first met, I was a professional dancer and ...

A.   7 January 2011: thats good he apologized. Just try and forgive him.... (read in full...)

My girfriend's parents keep asking her for more money; should I get involved?

Q.   My girlfriend is from the Philippines, and her family (father, mother brother, and 2 sisters) is constantly pressuring her (they get nasty) to send them money. She has been supporting them for almost 14 years, and she's tired of it. She doesn't make ...

A.   7 January 2011: I think she needs to explain to them that life isn't so easy over here. I mean everyone struggling to make ends meet at some point in their life. But no she shouldn't be dealing with that. If they are calling her names and threatning to kill her ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants me to lose weight!

Q.   Help! My boyfriend has a problem with my weight. I think I'm pretty hot though, and not overweight at all. I am 5'6 and weigh 132 lbs. His problem is, I've gained weight since we've been together. When we first met, I was a professional dancer and ...

A.   7 January 2011: no. if you like your body and you're satisfied with it then you dont need to loose weight for him. don't kill yourself trying to satify him. he's really nt a good boyfran if he's telling you that you need to loose weight. just because you gained a ... (read in full...)

A woman I slept with is claiming she's pregnant with my child

Q.   A woman I slept with a while ago is claiming she is pregnant with my child, however I had not slept with her at least two months prior to her pregnancy. Obviously I have no reason to believe the baby is mine, however she seems to think it is. Now ...

A.   7 January 2011: i know how you feel. but there is a chance that the baby could be yours. if it's someones elses baby then you can gone on with your life but if its yours then you should be in the childs life. you dont wanna be labeled as a bad father. Ithink you ... (read in full...)

Betrayed by my so-called friend, what should I do?

Q.   It all started about two years ago. I had a huge crush on a boy 1 year older than me. He seemed like the perfect guy. He was nice, cute, funny, athletic, and smart. My really close friends all knew that I liked him, and thought we would make a cute ...

A.   6 January 2011: i think u should confront her about it. that was so wrong of her to do u like that.thats not right. i think you should tell her... (read in full...)

Is it possible to repair what has been torn apart?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had been together for nearly 6 and half years. We shared a home for about 5 of those years. Our relationship had always been a good one, but unfortunately, this past fall things started to fall apart. We started to fight more, I ...

A.   6 January 2011: just try and start off where yall ended. i knw yall still really love eachother u just have to try and see. everything will be ok.... (read in full...)

I dreamt of my ex

Q.   me and my ex broke up 2 years ago i'm with someone else now nd he's doing his own thing. We're still cool and all. We speak here and there But jus last night i had a dream about him he was with a cousin of mine nd it broke my heart to see them toge...

A.   6 January 2011: I think that u do miss im but at the same time i think you just need that closure. Its ok to still miss him though... (read in full...)

Is it possible to repair what has been torn apart?

Q.   My boyfriend and I had been together for nearly 6 and half years. We shared a home for about 5 of those years. Our relationship had always been a good one, but unfortunately, this past fall things started to fall apart. We started to fight more, I ...

A.   6 January 2011: yes i think it's possible to fix things with him. Its just goin to take time. Although i do find it suspecious how he started dating the other women right after he moved out. Its just a matter of trust and love. Yall were together for 6years I know ... (read in full...)

Problems with my boyfriend's kids!

Q.   My bf and I live together. I have children from previous relationship so does he but mines and our 1 live in our household. He is military and I'm currently unemployed. He pays child support and does visitation twice a month. His ex is unstable. Her ...

A.   3 January 2011: I think he should get custody until she is stable to take care of her kids. I know its hard on you but those kids need to be in ah good home until their mother can take care of them. And it kind of looks like one minute she wants them next minute ... (read in full...)

Should I let things go or wait a while then give him a call?

Q.   It's been about three weeks since I last talked to my ex. We were trying to work things out in our relationship, but we kept having disagreements. The last day we talked, I told him that I didn't want to go to couples counseling since we weren't ...

A.   3 January 2011: I think you should let things go. If he's not answering your calls or text messages then he isn't trying to work things out. I think you should move on.Don't waste your time waiting around on him, just let him call when he's ready.... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend has become a stalker

Q.   there is a kid that i dated in 2008 - 2009 for almost a full year. 5 months into our relationship he cheated on me with my bestfriend, i didnt know because i never paid attention because i never thought that would happen, when i found out i ...

A.   3 January 2011: Tell him that what yall had in the past is over. And that you are with someone else. Change your phone number and email adress. Tell your friends and family not to give him your number. Tell your fiance all about him and how he wont leave you alone ... (read in full...)

Does this mean we're through?

Q.   I was seeing a guy only for a couple weeks. Only had a couple dates. Well last night I texted him cause i wanted to hangout and he was just a jerk, and he has been from the dates. I started getting mad, then i showed up at his house for him to not ...

A.   2 January 2011: Yes yall are finish. He didn't like you that much or he wouldn't have been so rude to you. Time to move on.... (read in full...)

Are we over?

Q.   Have been with my bf for 8 years, engaged for 2 of them. Last month he said that we were having problems and had been for some time. Wanted to work it out but really shows no interest in doing this. I loved him but now I am thinking it's time to ...

A.   2 January 2011: I think yall are over. If he shows no signs of wanting to work it out you should just move on. It's no need to try and fix something that he doesn't want. ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend still in touch with her ex!

Q.   I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 months now. I found out that she is still friend with her ex. We were going through pictures on her phone and she pointed out her ex in one of the group picture with her friends. She told me that they were ...

A.   2 January 2011: I think it's ok for her to still be friends with her ex long as she isn't cheating on you. You should to her about it. Still you should trust her. Don't make a big deal about it to her just be brief. If she doesn't show signs of cheating then ... (read in full...)

I kissed another guy while I was drunk!

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and sometime lately i'v had a crush on one of my guy friends. on night we were at a party and right from the start i felt like kissing him ..after a few drinks my guy friend told me he wanted t...

A.   1 January 2011: The best thing to do is tell your boyfriend. It's best not to hide it from him because then he's going to start feeling like he can't trust you.He's going to be upset with you but atlease you won't have so much on your chest. I dont think it should ... (read in full...)

I have feelings for a girl who is in a relationship

Q.   Help... I have feelings for a girl who is in a relationship. She feels the same for me, she has said so. She would rather be with me than her partner it seems. I'd love to give it a go, but I don't want to get between her and her boyfriend....

A.   1 January 2011: That's sweet. If she already knows how you feel then all you can do is wait. She has feelings for you but she's still in that relationship s she obviously not ready for you just yet. Just keep being friends with her she'll come for you. It just ... (read in full...)

I'm hurting because I don't know where my relationship with my GF is going.

Q.   i've been with my gf for a whole three years and i've had the time of my life. but she gets defensive if i even say his name . she talks to other guys and hugs them and when i ask to see her phone, she changes the subject. i've had a lot ...

A.   1 January 2011: Oh man. She is cheating on you with your bestfriend? What kind of friend would do that. I think you need to let her go. She's obvously hiding something from you. I think its just best if you dont be with her. Find you someone that will be faithful ... (read in full...)

She is all over me one second and then the next shes not. and her ex boyfriend always gets in the way. what should I do??

Q.   im so confused. is she messing with my head or is it just me ?? so basicly i met this girl in my music class at college. we didnt really speak to each other at all at the beginning then we were put in a group together and tbh we still didnt really ...

A.   1 January 2011: I think yall should just remain being friend because it's obvious that she still like her ex and still messes around with him. Just wait until they are really done with eachother. So that you want get heartbroken.... (read in full...)

Why didn't she tell me she was married??

Q.   I don't know what I should do about news I got last night about my partner. We've been together for just over 1 year. SHE'S MARRIED TO A MAN AND LIVING WITH HIM! This explains a lot of odd incidents. Where and how do I handle this mind fck Newyears ...

A.   1 January 2011: She played you. She hid it from you because she knew it would hurt you. You need to break up with her. She's not the one for you. Go and find you someeone special that wouldnt ever do this to you.... (read in full...)

Why after 4.5 years does my girlfriend tell me "its not working"?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been with my girlfriend for just over 4.5 years. We have done everything together and even talked about engagment. Then 2 days ago just after Christmas we went to a family wedding. It went realy well she was happy having pho...

A.   1 January 2011: I'm sorry to hear that. I think she was seeing someone else while she was dating you. Did she explain to you, why te relationship isn't working? She only wants space so that the new man can come around. I know your heartbroken but you just have to ... (read in full...)

I love him but he's always lying!

Q.   Hey guys, So me and my boyfriend of 1yr 8 months broke up in november. The last 3 months of our relationship was a LDR because the army moved his family 4 hours away. He was my soulmate, he understood me, made me laugh and smile. I loved him so m...

A.   1 January 2011: I don't think you should give him another chance. He has lied so many time it would be hard to believe him again. I think you should just move on and find someone close to you instead of being 4 hours away from you.... (read in full...)

I don't trust him! I'm so afraid my boyfriend will cheat on me!

Q.   I have a big problem with in me emotionally and mentally. I am so insecure,jealous, or so afraid my boyfriend will cheat me. whenever i am on relationship and if i know he is in love with me, i start to investigate, asking so many questions and ...

A.   1 January 2011: I know you reaally love him. He's just upset. Try not to call and sms so much. He will come around and realize that he can't be mad anymore. It just takes time. It's going to be ok.... (read in full...)

I don't trust him! I'm so afraid my boyfriend will cheat on me!

Q.   I have a big problem with in me emotionally and mentally. I am so insecure,jealous, or so afraid my boyfriend will cheat me. whenever i am on relationship and if i know he is in love with me, i start to investigate, asking so many questions and ...

A.   1 January 2011: Well first you have to start trusting him. If you dont trust him its gone make him feel like you dont trust him to go anywhere by himself cause you think he's cheating. If he really loves you and he gets so upset about you thinking he's cheating ... (read in full...)

I love her, can't stop thinking about her, but she hates me. I need advice please

Q.   I'm 14 going on 15 and there's this girl i really like, only thing is she hates me, and i don't know what to do next. I think it's because first of all i got my mates to ask her out, and second when she said to them that she wouldn't go with me, ...

A.   1 January 2011: You should back off a little. If you annoy her she is going to continue to hate you. Just back off a little don't speak to her regularly. Then see what happens. See how she's feeling about you not speaking to her as much as you do. Other then that ... (read in full...)

My BF has rejected me because he has a 'mental bock' about my previous relationship

Q.   Currently my ex-boyfriend broke off with me as he says he has a mental block re my past relationship which lasted for 5 years. I was with a guy who was married and when the previous relationship started 5 years ago we were friends and then we had a ...

A.   1 January 2011: He is confused about what he wants. I can tell he really loves you. He will come around and realize that he loves you too much to eva let go of you. Just give him some time... (read in full...)

Is he just sweet talking me or is he in love with me?

Q.   My boyfriend tells me I'm the only girl he ever thought was beautiful, all the time, he tells me he thinks NO other girl is even close to cute and I'm the only girl he ever found beautiful. Is this true? Or is he just sweet talking me? Or could this ...

A.   1 January 2011: I think it means he loves you.... (read in full...)

Is he cheating again? Girl friend of his sent him a porn link

Q.   Hi all, Happy Holidays everyone. I haven't written on here in quite some time, and well of course it's regarding my boyfriend and the cheating matter. I've just come back from my holiday which was away from him for about 12 days. He did some trav...

A.   1 January 2011: He could be cheating. Or he might just like watchn porn. I think you should watch him closely for sign of him cheating... (read in full...)

Troubled relationship has become perfect but should I trust him?

Q.   Am the one that told u b4 that had fight with my bf we were 2gether 4 2 years we fought and he scared me with msgs and said bad words but know am back with him i 4gave him and know hes totally different hes calm gentle and truly romantic cn he ...

A.   1 January 2011: He can't change that fast. I think you should've went your separate ways. He could easily turn on you. Be careful ... (read in full...)

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