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writes:hello all, i am 15, 5'11", 170 lbs. and can't seem to get a boner recently...It started a few weeks ago I guess. I have a UTI where it hurts to pee, it's gotten A LOT better now but it still hurts when i just finish emptying my bladder.The other night I was at a party and was drinking and smoking some weed. I wasn't wasted and I was still very in control of myself.I started making out with this girl that i like and eventually we made our way to the bedroom, after more making out she told me to put on a condom. As soon as I unwrap it.. *bllzzz...* no more boner.I was flaccid the rest of the night and very dissapointed.. There I was, about to lose my virginity and BAM.... no more boner...Since i've had my UTI its been difficult to masturbate as I am not completely hard when I wank but I am only chubbed and still floppyish (i.e. unable to stick it in her)it was very emberassing and it worries me.. I can't even masturbate now and I don't get random erections through the day like I used to!!! i have another shot with her but I don't want to fail again!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2011): okay, im pretty sure the initial problem was due to nerves.. Now I just have soo much anxiety about it that I can't even masturbate etc.. I am going to try meditation and remind myself that it was just a little slip-up. no worries. But if that doesnt work I don't know what I should do!!
Her and I are gonna go see a movie soon and we both agree that that night never happened.. Fresh start. but I want to be able to get erections before the time comes again! My UTI is all better.. now its anxiety :(
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (15 June 2011):
Hi there. If you haven't seen a doctor about your UTI yet, you need to do that straight away.
UTI's if untreated, can go further up into the kidneys, which can be much more serious.
So don't delay seeing your family doctor for any longer. It's important.
Then that problem will be fixed.
You are already uncomfortable because of the UTI anyway, which probably doesn't help the erection issue.
As far as losing or not gaining a full erection, it's possible that your mind has taken over now. You are probably feeling some anxiety about it, and the more you worry about it the worse it gets!
When you do worry about a minor problem like this, it becomes more of a problem than the actual problem. In fact, it takes on a life of it's own.
You worry about - "Will I get an erection today?" - so then you can't relax, and you just don't even get into the mood at all. If you are not in the mood because you are all tense about something, believe me it just won't happen.
It's not wise to be trying to have sex when you have the UTI, as you could pass it on to her.
Why not go and see your doctor about it - the UTI - get it treated and when you see your doctor, tell him that you are failing to get an erection. The UTI might be playing a part.
Please see your family doctor as soon as you possibly can. Don't leave it any longer.
The 2 problems are possibly interrelated.
By seeing your doctor you are on the path to a normal sex life.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (15 June 2011):
 hmmmmm one word Doctor! but in the mean time you can try drinking a ton of coffee and keep your hands out your pants for a few weeks
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