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writes:A few years ago i done something really stupid. I lied to my ex and told him I was pregnant to stop him splitting up with me for another woman he had met. I was totally in love with him and really didnt want to lose him. However, the plan didnt work. He still wanted to split with me. So I had to fake an abortion.We didnt speak again after this. He had told me that he just wanted to forget it and he wouldnt tell anyone. However, I have recently found out that quite alot of people know about it in my town where I live. But now Im in a new relationship with someone and have a new 2 month old baby. Im terrified my boyfriend will hear it or worse my family. I got in touch with my ex and told him stop it and he admitted he had told a couple of friends. I really want to tell him the truth but what sort of person would I look like faking a pregnancy and abortion? Im so ashamed as it is.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (19 June 2010):
I think thats actually quite sick and obsessive. Thats how it will make you look if you tell him
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Hope he doesn't find out. If I was a guy and found this out, I'd be running very quickly in the opposite direction from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): Don't tell him. You may think you are doing the right thing, but in reality, deep down you would be telling him only to make your SELF feel better. There isn't really an advantage to him knowing the truth. The harsh reality is that it will make you look crazy and like a liar.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 June 2010):
From a male point of view, I'd be pretty terrified and hugely angry if I found out it was a lie. You'd look bad. Better not to say anything at all.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 I suggest you don't tell your ex. Don't come forward. But, tell your current boyfriend what happened back then, so that if he hears the rumors he will know what to think. Try and leave your family out of it. I'd not tell your family unless you knew they had heard and they wanted an explanation.
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