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writes:My question is really simple. Should I give my boyfriend a 3rd chance to salvage our relationship of 7 years? We've broken up 3 times in the last 9 months, with the final time coming back in June. After our last break up, I met a really great guy, and was seeing him on a regular basis. Seems my ex couldn't get over the fact that I was seeing this guy since they had had a tryst 17 years prior, and my ex just wasn't over him. After a month of dating, my ex boyfriend made a scene at the club in front of this guy and me, causing the new guy to dump me. Yes, I was angry and hurt, and I hurt the new guy as well since I didn't push my ex away. I'm really worried that if I take my ex back, things will slowly slip back to old ways and habits, and I don't want that. I'm too afraid of getting hurt again. Right now, I'm just hurt and really really confused!
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reader, Cyg79 +, writes (5 August 2007):
 If there are problems in a relationship it takes two people to change them. otherwise the one person just sacrifices them self to the others will. You still have strong feeling for your ex which makes moving on more difficult. However, if your already looking at other guys it seems that you have already made the decision to move on, even if your ex has not. I would say remember the relationship for what it was and was not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): wow. gay guys lives seem like a big soap opera to me. its wonderful. i think you should go with wherever your heart pulls you. this guys hurt you and he has to know this. by giving him another chance your giving him what he wants and he knows this. but do u want to give him the satisfaction of knowing he can hurt you all over again?
its your choice just make the one that your heart tell you to. good luck :D
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 Hi there babes,
The big question here is do you still love him?????
If you do then before you give him another chance you really both need to sit down and discuss the things that were wrong in the relationship in the first place other wise the problems will rear their ugly heads again.....
You both have to come to some ageement and deal with these issues first.....
If these problems can not be sorted out then you do have the right to move on without him making a scene, you have to make this clear to him babes......
You can sort things out hun if you both want this to work, communication, understanding and loads of love is a perfect package....
Good luck babes,
Love Donna xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): My answer is even simpler - No. Surely a tumultous past like that is the answer, it won't change and it won't be 3rd time lucky. All you're doing is dragging out the inevitable.
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