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writes:I have two questions. One is is there such a thing as unconditional love between a couple? Cause my ex said I had unconditional twisted. Isn't it where no matter what ur partner does ull always love them and stay with them? Also how can I prevent these trust issues from hurting a new relationship when I get in one again? I don't want to not believe him when he says he loves me, misses me, promises not to leave me but my ex promised all those things and lied about it.
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (11 April 2009):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers. Your all very right. Just right now it really hurts especially knowing its my fault the relationship failed and I had it good with him. But then I went and blew it and am just hoping he wasn't the one I was supposed to be with because he won't ever come back around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): You can have unconditional love for someone - where you love someone no matter what they do - but unconditional love doesn't mean that you have to or will stay with that person either, or accept all of their behavior.For example, a mother has unconditional love for a child. But if her child is a serial killer, it doesn't mean her love requires her to support his/her actions or make excuses for the child or try to cover for her child. The love is still there, always will be, but at some point she'll wash her hands of him/her and let them go to prison.Likewise in a relationship, you can love your partner no matter what. But, using SatinDesire's example, if he beats you or habitually cheats on you, then love or no love, you have to go. Love, as beautiful as it is, is simply not enough to keep a relationship going, especially when that love is at the cost of the love for yourself and your well-being.
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (11 April 2009):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can't see myself with anyone else. Do u think in time ill be able to?
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (11 April 2009):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not that easy. He's my first love and my first everything. We've been together for 11 months. Its all my fault the relationship ended and he won't take me back. I'm gonna have to move on but right now I'm not ready to let go. I'm afraid ill never get over this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): Satindesire is, as always, right on.
"Unconditional love" is not something you come across in high school or college. It's far and away from something you get from a hook up. If you've got the kind of issues you've described, you're miles away from unconditional love. It's not a free pass for his bad behaviour. It's so far from that that if you're asking you're no where near. Move on, girl.
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