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anonymous
writes:Hi, I have had a crush on this girl for almost a year. I am FAR too nervous to tell her, cause I'm a girl too! Can you give me an idea on how to tell her without making her feel weird, yet making it known enough that she understands? Any help that isn't complete crud would be appreciated. Thanks
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reader, Ayame-chan +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Hi,
I'm the original poster of the question
(when I posted the question though, I was too lazy to make an account)
and I just want to say thank you all for the advice! I will combine all of your advice and try to slowly start a relationship with the girl. Again, thank you so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): hi... reading what yur going thru, i feel the need to say, theres nothing wrong with how u feel, and who yur feelings are twards.... if u are redy to let her kow how u feel, you should tell her, but make sure u let her know that if she is not interested in a relationship with her own gender, you would understand, and not be desperate and herrass her, or stalk her, or anything.. if she is not up for a homosexual relationship, tell her you two can be friends, and she doesnt have to feel weird, or acward.. i think your should tell her, when your ready, but if u are really in the will to letter know how u feel about her, heres what i think your should do: in any way you can, tell her this, or sumthing like it: "i've known you for a year, and with that being said, i've experienced some strong feelings about you. also, i dont want you to feel acward if your not interested. i just wanted to let you know how i feel, and i want to know if we can still be friends." ...i hope this can give you some type of clue, or some kind of help to what you are up against, and i wish you the best.. and by the way, i am not a lesbian, ....im just a girl..i have a wonderful boyfriend.. and i happend to know somewhat about relationships, and liking people.. i have never liked a girl, but i have many many friends who are gay, and lesbian... thank you and i hope i have supported you with my response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): if you know shes lesbian also then go for it. she could secretly have feelings for you also but is too scared to tell you. but if you know shes hetrosexual then maybey you should let her go untill youve learned to handle any rejection and even social stigma ......... ah feck it . tell her any way and chalk it down to experiance , your only young once ! its not the end of the world.
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reader, Waderex +, writes (12 November 2009):
You are in a very hard predicament.
I am no expert in same gender affection but having had gay friends, I know that coming out is a very hard thing.
Be HONEST. It WILL HURT. However, have faith, it will strengthen you over time. There is NO way of avoiding the pain, it is like military basic training, just experience it and grow. It SUCKS but in the years ahead it WILL be worth it.
Have Faith for now and judge the results in 5 years. What I offer is hard, I know. I understand. Please just have Faith for now and judge later.
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