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writes:Hey cupids, i hope someone can help me. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over three years now and I'm afraid I've just fallen out of love with him. I still love him, but I'm not in love with him.And its really difficult because recently I've started having feelings for someone new who I only wanted as a friend. I feel like everywhere I look someone wants something from me and I feel so smothered. But I cant leave because I'm afraid that if I leave and truly realise he's the one I wont be able to do anything about it cos he wont take me back. We're the best of friends but a lot of the time I just dont have the same intamite and relationshippy feelings I used to. I see him more as a big brother now and I dunno what to do. As you can imagine, I'm extremely confused. I cant stay. I've been feeling trapped and unhappy for a long time and all I want is to be free. What do I do? I dont wanna lose him forever but I know I will if I leave. Help! X
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reader, leo3  +, writes (22 September 2009):
 omg i just came out of the EXACT same situation. i completely understand how you feel. i just made the decision to leave my bf and see what happens with the other guy. i went back and forth with it forever an it was tearing me apart. but look if you have lost feelings for your bf then dont settle because you're afraid you'll regret it. ill be honest it is not easy especially when you still love and care for him, but just remember that if you two are meant to be you'll be together in the end, but if you dont feel it right now, dont stay. as hard as it is, i do feel free, i dont feel stuck anymore. go with your gut. and ask yourself...if you stay with him now, will you grow to resent him later on?
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