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writes:I work at a fastfood place and my coworker likes me and i like him but he has a gf but he doesn't know that I know he has a gf. He's super cute I gave him my # and I gave him a hug. I wanna get to know him better. I also wanna do "stuff" with him ( I have these urges)I don't want to have sex with him I just wanna fool around. But my question is: Does this mad me a bad person, knowing that he has a gf and still talking to him and wanting to fool ARound with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Now I'm starting to feel really bad that I have all these feelings for somebody who already has a gf. I'm also mad that I can't have him. Him a nd his gf have been dating for 7 months and I can't compete with that. And lastnight at work he promise me he would text me but he never did. I feel so stupid and angry! But everytime I look at him I get I good feeling inside. I don't know what's going on.
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reader, Esme7655 +, writes (12 February 2011):
Not bad, or stupid, it just makes you vulnerable. He's bad news if he wants to f*ck around with other girls, when he has a girlfriend already. You will be a challenge for him, if you decide to refuse, and he will pursue you, or get bored and look elsewhere. If you decide to mess around, use condoms, he's not a safe bet!
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reader, velo  +, writes (12 February 2011):
No. Having urges doesn't make you a bad person. Its how you behave that determines if you have integrity or not.
Everyone feels attracted to someone who is "taken" from time to time. But according to the current laws of society it is not acceptable to act on those impulses.
From a personal point of view - I can tell you that if you throw yourself at him he would probably respond (men are powerless to a woman's charms). But it's unlikely to be a long-term affair. Ask yourself what you want out of it. If you want him to yourself... don't go there.
However, I think it's ok to let him know how you feel. If he chooses to break it off, that's his decision. If he says that he is committed to his GF... leave it there.
Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Maybe not a bad person, but surely a not too smart one.
You are only letting yourself wide open to be used- and disrespected, because guys have no respect for girls who act like you.
I am sure that, if all you need is fulfilling your sexual urges, you can find several other attractive SINGLE guys to fool around with.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 Yeh, it kinda does.
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