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| | *oungandrestless's profile:hi im a 21 year old canadian woman. i am living with my fiance whom i love and have a dog and a cat. i love talking with people and helping them with problems. i dont claim to know everything and have no real "qualifications" exept that i love everyone and want to see them happy. i only give my opinion on questions but i hope that they help. where i work i am the girl to come to if someone needs advice, and i have always been the "mother" of the group.
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Brother exposed himself to me when we were younger. Did my parents not take enough action?
Q. when i was younger me and my younger brother were very close. we did everything together, told everything to eachother. When i was about 14 and my brother was 13 he was going through puberty and was very confused. one day when we were alone he ...
A. 26 May 2011: hey so new development on this front! me and my fiance had worked past the whole incident that happened with me and my brother all those years ago, and then easter dinner came along. We were at my grandparents house, and everything was going great, ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of cum taste?
Q. How do you get rid of cum taste? I deepthroat my hubby last night and he went, which i was hoping for since i want to try new things, but when he did i gagged a little and swallowed it. Ever since then I cant get rid of the taste in my throat. I ...
A. 23 December 2010: lol well he only suggestion i have is try some acidic juice, some orange maybe. brush your teeth very well and gargle with mouthwash. if it bothers you very much you may not want to do it again, otherwise, you may just have to get used to it. good ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I'm pregnant?
Q. i am 14 years old and 4 weeks pregnant. the father is 19. no one knows should i tell my mom since it was consensual? what about the dad? i have only seen him once that night. should i tell him? would he care?...
A. 23 December 2010: well i cant give you an answer from you point of view but i can tell you my moms story. my mom and dad met at summer camp. my mom was 15 and my dad was 18. what started out as a fling ended up with my mom becoming pregnant. her mom was very upset ... (read in full...)
Can a trust lost be found again.
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for ten years. I have been totaly 100 percent commited to her and our relationship. I have just recently found out that she had cheated on me at the start of our relationship and got caught by the guys wife. It ...
A. 23 December 2010: this is a question only you can answer. i had a similar experiance, where my fiance has cheated on me 2x. the first time was 3 months after we started dating, and he told me a few days later. the second time was with a girl we had planned to have a ... (read in full...)
He says that all I do is bitch at him but I'm just trying to help him!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year... I love him very much and want to spend my life with him... But he doesn't make the right decisions for his life... He's scared of having cancer, but he smokes a pack if not more of cigarettes a day, ...
A. 23 December 2010: im sorry darlin but he sounds very immature. all of his "problems" are self caused and he doesnt sound like he's going to change them any time soon. it sounds like he is using you and your parents. i knwo you love him, but you either need to take ... (read in full...)
Jealous girlfriend , my fault I hit her ?
Q. My girlfriend is bi polar and jealous. She caught me with porn and got really mad about it she wol't let me have female friend and I don't care about that because I don't want her to have male friends so we made a deal no friends of oppisite sexes. ...
A. 23 December 2010: well buddy you need help. you need to break up with her now. justify it however you want as long as she is out of your life. go get counciling because you are an abuser. no man ever has the right to hit a woman, or the other way around, no matter ... (read in full...)
I can't be friends with her anymore because I love her
Q. hi really like this girl who has bf am sure she likes me we hang out alot etc ive told her i cant be friends with her ne more because i really like her have i done the right thing trying to give her a push as i dont like shes happy with h...
A. 4 December 2010: well honey your going to have to wait for her. i would recommend not seeing her alone, as it can only confuse things more for you. if she is unhappy with her bf, she will leave him eventually, and she will be there for you to swoop in and console ... (read in full...)
I think he's been living a double life!
Q. Hi all, it seems my boyfriend of 10 months has been seeing his ex all the time hes been with me. Ive always had my suspicions of her and i know they were still friends. I decided this week to sit outside his house as i knew he was out and see who ...
A. 4 December 2010: honey no matter what he says its over. it happened over text wether he wanted it to or not. and by him goin out with the guys instead of talking with you he showed you where his priorities lie. if he tries to meet up with you, you can tell him as ... (read in full...)
Spit or swallow?
Q. When giving a blow job is it better to spit or swollow? My boyfriend of 4 months has recentley asked me to give him a blow job, but im not sure whether to spit or swollow. I've heard it tastes horrible but if i spit, where do i spit? I really dont ...
A. 4 December 2010: ive always swallowed. the key is to bring the tip of his penis to the back of your throat as he is about to come, and swallow it like you would a pill, that way you dont taste it. its less messy and honestly i think most men like it better. noone ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable with him watching
Q. Hi, I'm a little bit nervous about asking this question, but I need some help! See, I'm quite self conscious, and my boyfriend likes to watch me during sex, and it makes me really nervous! I'm not sure what I'm ...
A. 4 December 2010: you have to understand that what he wants to watch is you enjoying yourself. many men love to watch their women masturbate, and also thats why many couples bring video cameras and mirrors into the bedroom. i understand you are nervous and it seems ... (read in full...)
18 and never been kissed
Q. I'm 18 and i've never had a boyfriend, never had my first kiss or anything. I'm off to Uni next year and am hoping to finally meet someone. Do you think guys will think my total lack of experience is weird? ...
A. 4 December 2010: heck no!!! i commend you on it! its a rare and beautiful thing to see someone who hasnt been around the block 20 times! i was 18 when i had my first boyfriend, and we kissed a little but it ended within 2 months, my first serious relationship didnt ... (read in full...)
We are on date 6 plus having sex, I think he might be using me?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a month. We met on the internet, he's been to my flat, i've been to his. We have been sleeping together every time we meet up. We have also been going 'out'. dinner, cinema, art gallery, etc We have lots in co...
A. 4 December 2010: well i dont believe you are being used. i think i agree that you did jump into being sexual with him too quickly, especiall since you are second guessing it now. its good that he isnt seeing anyone else and neither are you, but you have to realize ... (read in full...)
My period started then stopped?
Q. Just before i went to the gym a couple of nights ago i thought my period had started. Im not due on for at least another week. It didnt really come to anything and has stopped completely now....is this normal???...
A. 4 December 2010: it probably isnt anything to worry about. are you on birth conrol at all? something like that may alter your period and cause spotting. i wouldnt worry about it unless you miss your period or something. then you should see a doctor, until then dont ... (read in full...)
Me wearing makeup is going to break us up!
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that if i kept on wearing make up(a bit of foundation: not making myself orange, blush and mascara) he would break up with me. i dont like to not wear makeup because i dont feel confident without it on. i love him s...
A. 4 December 2010: maybe he's trying to make you realize that you are dependant on your makeup. he may not actually want to break up with you at all, only to make you realize you are beautiful without a mask, slight or not. see if he will make a deal with you. if you ... (read in full...)
I'm broke and gaining weight! Help!
Q. so im just wondering if anyone has some tips on losing weight. i dont have the time or money to join a gym or classes, or buy exercise equipment for the home. i do crunches, lunges, squats and push ups at home as well as several other things every ...
A. 3 December 2010: thanks everyone those are great ideas!! im going to try them out. id really like to lose about 10-15 pounds by my wedding so thanks again!... (read in full...)
Brother exposed himself to me when we were younger. Did my parents not take enough action?
Q. when i was younger me and my younger brother were very close. we did everything together, told everything to eachother. When i was about 14 and my brother was 13 he was going through puberty and was very confused. one day when we were alone he ...
A. 3 December 2010: thanks everyone for your answers. they helped alot!!! ... (read in full...)
I texted this "friend" and told her to stay away from my husband or she'd be sorry!
Q. Too Jealous??? Me and my husband have been together 10 years, starting in june of this year we were having problems as i went away to see my friends(female friends) without telling him. Now the problems didn't really start there, i was feeling ne...
A. 3 December 2010: all i can say is you guys may need to get counciling as a couple and as individuals. this woman may have been making up alot of it, or she may have been flaunting it in your face. and if he was willing to go behind your back to see this one woman it ... (read in full...)
My trust issues are driving him away from us!
Q. I am a zulu girl dating a congolese man. He has two sons i have 1 daughter. I have trust issues sometimes i take it out on him,fight with him and accuse him of painful things. Lately he is withdrawn from me and my daughter, he spends very little ...
A. 3 December 2010: you need to deal with your trust issues before trying to reconcile with him. youve hurt him, and youve been hurt, so you need to get that figured out before you can be in a healthy relationship. ... (read in full...)
She said she loves me but doesn't want to be in a relationship
Q. i have a great female friend, she is my best friend. we've been out twice but a couple of years ago. we have amasing chemestry, I asked her out about 2 months ago, but she said that dispte loveing me she wasn't really interested in a relationship, ...
A. 3 December 2010: she may not want a relationship because she is more interested in experimenting her sexuality right now. pushing her and begging her will not make her more ready to have a relationhsip with you, it may only push her away. if you really truly care ... (read in full...)
It's a little dusty down there!
Q. lately i feel like a born again virgin. I am only 24 and havn't had sex in 6 months and usually this wouldn't annoy me but not i think about it i just don't know what the problem with me is. Am i being to picky or do guys just not find me attracti...
A. 3 December 2010: hon theres nothing wrong with a little dry spell, a girlfriend of mine is 25 and hasnt been with a man since she was 17. she was tired of being with dirtbags just because she wanted a good lay. im not saying your like that or that any guy youve ... (read in full...)
She's aware that I have a thing for her but yet she ignores me when I say "Hi"?
Q. A year ago I fell in love with this girl at my school. Long story short she knows I like her. Well, a week ago she talked to me for the first time and had a short conversation, and then later I friended her on facebook and she accepted the friend ...
A. 3 December 2010: well honey it may mean she's just not interested. if she knows you like her but hasnt acted on it, she may be enjoying the attention without ever intending to give it back to you. i actually did this a few years ago to a friend of mine and ended up ... (read in full...)
My best friend is pregnant, I wish it were me!
Q. Let me give a bit of history, my best friend (lets call her Tammy) well Tammy and i have been best friends for five or more years, she is practically my little sister. We have always had the plan to get pregnant at the same time. We where always ...
A. 3 December 2010: honestly its going to be ok. you may find mister right tomorow! lol but seriously just because you wont have kids at the same time does not mean your children wont be friends. children dont care about age as much as we do, so even if there is a few ... (read in full...)
Problems when it comes to sex. Also, I can't help but check out my boyfriend's friend.
Q. Hey Cupid. Q1. Okay so i have been going out with my boyfriend for about one and a half, maybe two months now. we have tried sex, including oral and using your hands but anytime he does anything (this happens especially with the hand using part)...
A. 3 December 2010: have you tried other positions or just missionary (him on top) sometimes its just about finding the right position. or maybe you need to realize that your not really that into this relationship. i dont know all the ins and outs but it sounds like ... (read in full...)
We opened up and shared dark secrets, although his might have been better off left in the closet!
Q. Well, I am 19 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend who is 21, and we have been dating for 2 years, and altogether I've known him for about 5 years. Recently we opened up and told "dark secrets" He told me about how he use to be friends with this ...
A. 3 December 2010: dont worry about it hun. obviously you guys have a good relationship with eachother. he trusts you enough to tell you something that no man would ever admit to. yes it happened but he ended the friendship when his friend pressured him for more. what ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident and feel more sexy?
Q. Any tips for confidence? hi I've started dating a guy and we have great sexual chemistry between us. Thing is I've rescently put on a bit of weight and with it lost a bit of confidence. any tips for having more confidence in my sexy self?..he m...
A. 3 December 2010: it sounds like your more insecure about yourself than anything. ive felt the same way but then i realized it was because i suffer from seasonal depression. im not saying that you do, but every girl goes through this feeling sometimes. ive gained ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my first and my last.
Q. Heeey, im quite young and have been in a relationship for nearly 5 months, we're both virgins, and i really do want too loose it too him and he wants too with me. Is it bad that i can actually picture a future with him? Getting married? Having kids? ...
A. 3 December 2010: actually your not too young for this at all, your at the age where most people start thinking about love and marriage. i commend you on keeping your virginity this long, and him too! thats actually quite rare in this world. i agree with realist, ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and attracted to much older men
Q. I am attracted to much older men (20 - 40)...is it because i have been looking for a father figure (i do get along with my dad but dont see him that often) I dont like any boys at school...i prefer the male teahers to be honest...This guy the other ...
A. 3 December 2010: well honey it is normal to be attracted to older men especially since the boys your age are just that, boys. but please, please be careful and wait until you are OLDER to act on these feelings. you are still very young and have alot of things to ... (read in full...)
Too much sex...how can I ask her to tone it down?
Q. Ok so this is an odd situation. Me and my girlfriend just moved in together. And we we were having sex like 7 times a week. And we used condoms everytime, and I brought up the pill and having more sex. She said ok and she went on the pill and we ...
A. 3 December 2010: have you tried introducing toys into the bed? i know some guys are intimidated by them (my guy was for a long time) but if your getting worn out you can still satisfy her without actually having sex. you can also go down on her or finger her, ... (read in full...)
I don't know what I'm doing when it comes to pleasing him!
Q. What can I do to "pleasure" him more? His been the only one I have EVEN had a sexual relationship with, so he is understanding at the fact that I have not a clue what I am doing. But I want to prove that I can be mind blowing. What do I do to make ...
A. 3 December 2010: honestly hun you just got to let him teach you! my fiance was my first and the first few times i really sucked at it but slowly i began to learn. now he says i give the best blow jobs in the world and hes happy he got to teach me to do it exactly ... (read in full...)
He's 24 years younger than me, can this work?
Q. I am seriously involved, we are moving in together next week, with a guy 24 years younger than myself. We are madly in love, can this really work out long term? We have a lot in common, our values, hope and dreams are very similar. Any help?...
A. 3 December 2010: hey who ever said you have to be the same age for it to work? some ppl may look down on this because they are confused, no it isnt the norm but who cares?? there are many relationships like yours that work out better than more "normal" ones. good ... (read in full...)
Almost two year old wont listen what do I do
Q. My almost two year old is driving me crazy she wont listen at all. Ive tried spanking time out everything even when i spank her and tell her no i say this is why u got in trouble i dont want u doing this anymore she still does it. Help idk what to ...
A. 3 December 2010: lol i know its hard right now but one day you will look back on this fondly. she is two and just figuring out she has an opinion, even if she cant really speak it. she is going to defy you and test her bounderies. i commend you on actually punishing ... (read in full...)
How do I catch my orgasm?
Q. Dear readers I have a serious problem and am unsure what to do, I lost my virginity at the age 18 to the person that I will be soon marrying. I also took his by the way and for starters were actually pretty great at it and are in to trying new thin...
A. 1 December 2010: i have the exact same problem!! only i cant stand him playing with my clit for too long, it just starts to hurt very soon and i get bored with just penetration. my poor man plays with me for so long and instead of getting turned on i get bored and ... (read in full...)
Admit it guys, you're fantasizing about the girls in porn, the rest is just excuses
Q. I have opinion's I’d like to express about male sexuality. Porn. I understand that not all girls have an issue with it, just as some guys don’t watch it. I often hear of guys feeling like they have to hide it from there spouse. "what they don’t know ...
A. 1 December 2010: im in a relationship that had an issue with porn. we started out watching it together to get in the mood (it was more for him i dont like it much) but then it got to the point that he was blindfolding me during sex so he could do it and watch it at ... (read in full...)
I don't know about this relationship...any advice?
Q. Well I just got done talking to my gf and she seems to not want this relationship, she always changing pictures, and then she told me her dad does not want her to stay with me for even 2 weeks. Then she wants to blame me for getting offended...
A. 1 December 2010: well bud it sounds like shes too immature for you. i dont know how long you guys have been together or how old you are but she sounds quite childish. she has no right to be offended when you have been hurt and probably embarassed by having this ... (read in full...)
Desperate to have sex with older guy.
Q. i am dating this 21 year old man. we have been together for about 8 months but it was in secret any ways most people know i am seeing him but there was a point when people called me a liar etc. they also said that he was to good for me. wel...
A. 1 December 2010: hey sweetheart i know what your going through must be hard. but i first need you to ask yourself why were you dating in secret? is it because your parents will be upset? i understand how that can be trust me. i know you feel like an adult who can ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I have been fighting since day 1!
Q. i have been with my fiance for 2 years. we have been fighting for our relationship from the start. our parents dont approve because of religious differences and my friends thought it was a rebelion against my parents. 3 months into our relationship ...
A. 1 December 2010: sorry there seems to be a missunderstanding in my message. Me and my fiance arent the ones fighting eachother. We are mostly fighting our families so we can be together. His family is JW and mine is christian. even though we dont follow either ... (read in full...)
I'm entitled to explore my sexuality but I don't want my boyfriend to join in!
Q. I have a boyfriend who I love, but.... I've always wanted to try being with a girl. It's something I want to do on my own, so would it be terrible of me to do this and tell him afterwards? I came close to doing it last year when I first entered ...
A. 30 November 2010: hon you need to be honest with him. this is obviously affecting your daily life and probably your relationship with your man. you need to explain to him how you feel. i think he has the right to want to join but he may respect the fact you want to ... (read in full...)
My friend is putting alot of rules on me making it difficult to see my boyfriend
Q. Ive posted quite a few questions about this guy...well things flourished between us and we are now a couple. He is about 6 years older than me and has two kids and an ex wife. He also works with me. I never thought we would see each other out side ...
A. 22 April 2010: its hard to tell if she's jealous or just being over protective. it sounds like she doesnt want you to get attached to this guy and get hurt, wich makes sense. but she needs to realize that you are a grown woman and can make your own choices and ... (read in full...)
How can I control my feelings towards him...?
Q. hi my old crush has a gf who goes to my school and I never got the courage to tell him how i feel. However i tried my best to get over him and now i keep on seeing him and the butterflys are coming back and i really dont think i should like him ...
A. 30 March 2010: hey i went through a veeeery similar situation with my fiance. we have known eachother for a few years from work. while we were working together i realized i had fallen for him. but just after i came to that realization he got a gf. i was ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? My boyfriend wants to take a break
Q. My boyfriend of 4 and half years wants to take a break with me for several reasons: 1. He said he hasn’t been happy for a long time. We argued constantly, at least once or twice a week, for stupid things. Part of it was my anger issues, and othe...
A. 20 March 2010: thats a really hard place in life, and i hope i can help. you guys have been together for a long time, so there is something there, you have to believe in that. maybe the best thing to do is a trial seperation. set a time limit. one month. where you ... (read in full...)
Now he hates me! Where do I go from here?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 7 month, both families support it we like each other. i realised my guy was cheating on me, he rather got angry when i approached him, and later said he love me, so i shd worry about that. we now hate each other. he ...
A. 20 March 2010: hunny you have to accept that this was over a long time ago. if he was cheating on you during your relationship, he didnt truly love you and never will. im very sorry that things ended that way, but you have to cut your losses and realize your ... (read in full...)
I hate his best friend!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, with the exception that I utterly dislike his childhood best friend. His friends from college, however, I love. The problem with his best friend is that I believe he's no good. When he comes to our house, ...
A. 20 March 2010: you have to remember you guys have only been together for a year. he may love you but he's not willing to give up his entire past just for you. thats his life and the people he grew up with. he may not be willing to give up the fun part of his life ... (read in full...)
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