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writes:I am attracted to much older men (20 - 40)...is it because i have been looking for a father figure (i do get along with my dad but dont see him that often) I dont like any boys at school...i prefer the male teahers to be honest...This guy the other day (would said he was in the forties) was flirty with me so much and i was flirting back...friends have said that i flirt with any boy...same with singers ect i prefer the older ones but girls at school like the teen boy bands ect...so what am i looking for would you say? And i am 15 by the way x
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 well honey it is normal to be attracted to older men especially since the boys your age are just that, boys. but please, please be careful and wait until you are OLDER to act on these feelings. you are still very young and have alot of things to experience, not to mention you are still below the legal limit and it would be illegal for a man over 18 to date you. wait until you yourself are an adult and can truly make your own decisions about your life choices. you dont want to get yourself or any guy in trouble. i know that you feel attractive and love the attention they give you, i do too, its part of being a woman! but dont act on an impulse. it will get you into trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Psh, I thought that I was the same. I felt like I was only attracted to older men. Then I realized i just hated all the guys my own age.
Your best bet, and the best way to not get hurt, would be to find someone MATURE! Seriously, there are quite a few guys who are mature for their age. If you can't find any, I suggest you wait. Right now, if you act on your desires with older men, its rape. Your man would be labeled as a child molester, if he wasn't already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Yes, it probably has to do with a lack of a strong father figure in your life. Beware, because older men, like the guy in his 40's, can sense this and take advantage of it, even if they don't really understand what you are looking for.I have close friend who had this problem, fell for a guy in his 30's or 40's, and he quickly did a whole lot of stuff for her, treated her like she was a queen, then when she felt safe and he got her out of sight of everyone he raped her...just like that. Then made her think it was her fault.She never forgot it, he never served a day, and there wasn't anything anybody could do about it when she got the courage to tell someone.Watch yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): It is nature. You are programmed to be attracted to men that will likely be able to provide the best protection and survival for yourself and any children.Once upon a time this meant the strongest and best hunter, as you would get protection and food regularly.Not anymore.Now those instincts turn to the most financially secure man you can find. These tend to be older, as they have more time to set themselves up.However, long past is the time when these instincts needed to be adhered to for the survival of our species.I would suggest disregarding any feelings, or desires for such older men for the time being, especially teachers.Just find a younger guy who isn't a total douchebag, they exist (I was one), but you clearly are looking int he wrong place.Flynn 24
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