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9 November 2010: So, they are both at it again. Who's at it? My two best female mates and they are doing what they both said they would NEVER do. They are both internet dating...again. Why? I sobbed, looking up at the ceiling in hope of some divine guidance ...
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Internet Dating: We know it's rubbish, so why do we do it?
Q. So, they are both at it again. Who's at it? My two best female mates and they are doing what they both said they would NEVER do. They are both internet dating...again. Why? I sobbed, looking up at the ceiling in hope of some divine guidance ...
A. 13 November 2010: Thank you all very, very much for your comments - very much appreciated!
Lorna and Sarah have already have had some absolutely demented dates - but they are still optimistic - bless..hehe (I'll give them another few months). Lorna also reminded... (read in full...)
Found a picture from a previous relationship!
Q. So I recently found a picture of my girlfriend that she took of herself when she was nude. I know that this is from a previous relationship and that she was with the guy for a while, but it is bugging the hell out of me that I accidentally ran ...
A. 12 November 2010: Retroactive jealousy is such a bloody monster and this is why. The brain sees an image of your loved one with someone else and it reacts as it has just happened. You have the emotional jolt or seeing an image that shows your g/f being sexual and ... (read in full...)
Do I need to approach this girl that my husband is friends with?
Q. hi! My husband is working in a call center for almost 3 years now. We have been married for 2 years and 8 years as gf/bf. I saw a picture of my husband and his girl officemate that is so close and i can't help to ask if there is something between ...
A. 12 November 2010: Hello. The issue you have here is one of distrust and suspicion. Never fun. You have no idea if they are just friends but you have that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that something isn't right
The problem with confronting anyone o... (read in full...)
Inappropriate ex behaviour?
Q. My boyfriend's ex comes to all his important events - birthdays, thanksgiving, Christmas, when his band plays. She is a good family friend but he cheated on her and that's what ended their relationship. I don't understand why someone who has b...
A. 12 November 2010: You two or not going to be able to see eye to eye on this one, are you? Unless you find a way through to understanding EACH other on this, it is probably going to be a deal-breaker.
He has his views on this and you have yours. He clearly has no p... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is sexting other women!
Q. I've been in a 2 year relationship. We broke up last June because he had been sexting a Married Woman. Yes, I checked his phone (1st time) and I found the texts. I broke up with him. He claimed that he had done Nothing wrong because it was only ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello. My brief answer is that you should leave him. He is not going to change.
Infidelity can be desscribed as any physical or emotional intimacy that betrays the trust of a partner. Sending and receiving texts of a sexual nature would come und... (read in full...)
Anybody else out there insecure?
Q. I am a really [REALLY!] insecure person. About everything. My appearance, my body, my boyfriend, my friends...it's ridiculous. And I know when I am rational that I AM being ridiculous. It's all those other irrational times (80% of the time!) that I ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello. Of course there are others like you! Why do you think there are so many counsellors, hypnotherapists, personal trainers, nutritionalists, gyms, spiritual gurus, books, CDS, DVDs, to help people with low self-esteem? (A multi-billion dollar ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I think he came back for revenge.
Q. My issue is pretty strange. Recently, almost two months ago, an old high school friend came back into my life. He started to talk about how in love with me he used to be, and said he still had feelings and had been searching for me all along but ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello Minnie,
Sorry you are in a confused state right now. It is really understandable you are questioning this man's motives and you know what, I would to. However, the most important thing, is that you form a relationship with yourself and nour... (read in full...)
Found a picture from a previous relationship!
Q. So I recently found a picture of my girlfriend that she took of herself when she was nude. I know that this is from a previous relationship and that she was with the guy for a while, but it is bugging the hell out of me that I accidentally ran ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello.
By reading your question, it can been taken a couple of ways. Are you bothered that you 'found' this picture FULLSTOP and the image is a reminder that your g/f had a sexual life before you? Or you are bothered because it was casually tape... (read in full...)
Inappropriate ex behaviour?
Q. My boyfriend's ex comes to all his important events - birthdays, thanksgiving, Christmas, when his band plays. She is a good family friend but he cheated on her and that's what ended their relationship. I don't understand why someone who has b...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello.
I don't think you are wrong to think your thoughts but I would ask you to consider the following:
As well as asking, why doesn't she mind coming to all these events, why not ALSO ask why doesn't your boyfriend mind her coming? Is this ... (read in full...)
One man's whore is another man's virgin. Why is this?
Q. why does a woman, in essence, make herself a "porn star" for one man, and not another? I find this to be the case with my female fiends when they reveal that they suck and screw one partner they know won't be around in their future in every way ...
A. 11 November 2010: I have to agree with 'thewalkin'dude' (again!)
Although there have been many changes in society with regards to women and sex, there is still a basic imbalance. Men are rewarded for their sexual behaviour. The more women they've had the more of ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to get over his office crush with a needy co-worker?
Q. I have been married for 26 years, two years ago my husband took a job in another town, so now we are in a long distance marriage. Every thing was going as best it can in this situation, until a year ago a new single female co-worker arrived, who is ...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello.
On the whole, if it were me, I would be very unhappy about the situation. First of all, the word 'crush' is quite a cozy and gentle word. It makes something seem quite silly and cute. If you genuinely think he has a gentle affectio... (read in full...)
Confused!! After all the mixed signals, he now says we should be just friends
Q. hi well here is my problem ive known this guy or years we met at 9 years old and went out with eachother for a few years, then when i was 13 i moved away. when i was 27 i bumped into him again we are both married with children we were friends and...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello.
It seems that the two of you are playing with fire.
OK, let me try and break this down to the bottom line. You are married with children. Your Ex is married with children. You and your ex have been texting each other, seeing each other a... (read in full...)
Boyfried said he found a skinny celebrity 'hot' and now I feel insecure. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. OK i need help here. When it comes to looks I'll admit it im not happy with how i look (well im not happy about one thing and thats my weight, Im a UK size 22) Anyways I was with my bf the other day and I dont remember how the convo came about...
A. 11 November 2010: Hello. The way to get rid of these thoughts is to recognise that: a) This man is your boyfriend and has chosen to be with you - a real, flesh and blood person. Kiera Knightly is a fantasy figure with the benefits of make-up, lighting, and a... (read in full...)
Please give me a few suggestions as to how I get over this man?
Q. My boyfriend of four months and I broke up last night. He is 17 and I just turned 16. We fought a lot, and now I need help on getting over him. He said that he wasn't happy, and left me. He has made a lot of mistakes in the relationship, in...
A. 11 November 2010: Good for you! Don't be tempted to answer his messages and just move on.
As for his ex-girlfriend, you have to have a sense of compassion for her position. She has probably been as shabbily treated and led on by him as you have. Poor her for not bein... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever come across the male counterpart of a cock-tease?
Q. Hello all. I was talking with someone earlier this evening who told me a story of coming across a 'minge-tease' or the male equivalent of a cock-tease in her recent dating life. I was wondering, if any of you had ever come across this yourselves ...
A. 11 November 2010: Many thanks for your reply! Hehe...Yes, of course, everyone knows about chasing and the game - very true. I didn't mean it on a basic level. What I actually meant to say was - actually being in bed, naked, etc - about to have sex and then the man ... (read in full...)
He traded in his ex's good looks for my personality!
Q. My partner said that he preferred his ex looks wise (she's real pretty) but prefers my personality ( he said she was a bitch and high maintenance). So I asked why he was with me and not her and He replied saying that She cheated on him and used ...
A. 10 November 2010: I have to say that my jaw hit the floor when I read what he said to you. Regardless of the 'nice' way he has said it, it is really inpleasant to hear.
First of all, I am sure you a very attractive woman (and please do not start comparing and cont... (read in full...)
Why did my ex say cruel things to hurt me, or was it to get me to leave him alone?
Q. I will try to not make this too long...my boyfriend told me two months ago that he needed a break after only 4 months it was long distance but not impossible to give it a chance! We had just spent a month together he came with me to another contry ...
A. 10 November 2010: Hello. Sorry to hear about your break-up and sorry to hear about being heartbroken.
First of all, I am glad to hear that you will not be contacting this man again. He sounds full of love and happiness, doesn't he? Whether he did sleep with the... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and now I don't trust him
Q. I had a wonderful marraige for the past 16years. On the 14th year I discovered that my husband is cheating on me, we tried to resolve it, when I was gaining trust on him, he did it again and again almost four times and that crippled me emotionally ...
A. 10 November 2010: Hello. Sorry you are having a hard time. There is no real easy path through coping with a cheating partner. There will be all the emotions that go with the dicovery- rage, resentment, depression, shock, confusion and uncertainty. There is also the ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting to speak to my family ever again??
Q. This is a very complicated situation that has been around for many years. It is a long story but I will keep it as short as possible. Please, I really need advice so badly with this before it ruins my life even more. My father was an extremely vio...
A. 9 November 2010: Hello. I have to say that you really do have my sympathy.
They say you can't choose your family and you know what?You don't have to like them, if you don't want to. I had a friend, who was a Christian, who would say to me: "I love that man with... (read in full...)
Internet Dating: We know it's rubbish, so why do we do it?
Q. So, they are both at it again. Who's at it? My two best female mates and they are doing what they both said they would NEVER do. They are both internet dating...again. Why? I sobbed, looking up at the ceiling in hope of some divine guidance ...
A. 9 November 2010: hehe....KC..I am DELIGHTED it has gone well for you and I wish you all the very, very best!
DIRTBALL...many thanks for your comments and I also wish you the very best of luck!
Cheers....x... (read in full...)
Could someone please explain his actions?
Q. Please can you help me decipher what is going on in this man's head and where did it all go wrong? Sorry, if it's long but I need to document all the facts. A year ago I meet a man through a mutual friend. He adds me on Facebook and sends me a m...
A. 9 November 2010: ....you could add him to the 'HUH??' list. The 'HUH??' list covers all dates, romances that go extremely well (no matter how long or short they are) and then, for no known reason, you never hear from that person ever again. It really is a time ... (read in full...)
Please give me a few suggestions as to how I get over this man?
Q. My boyfriend of four months and I broke up last night. He is 17 and I just turned 16. We fought a lot, and now I need help on getting over him. He said that he wasn't happy, and left me. He has made a lot of mistakes in the relationship, in...
A. 9 November 2010: Hello. Sorry to hear about your break-up and I know how hard it can be.
Firstly, I have to agree with 'thewalkin'dude' - just delete the number, remove all social networking sites. You are going to have take a deep breath and mean bloody business... (read in full...)
My wife's been going out with her ex!
Q. Well I guess my story is not much different than so many on these forums. It is somewhat comforting but also depressing how much of this goes on. Here is my story...my wife of just over a year, recently admitted to me that she was still seeing a g...
A. 9 November 2010: I am sorry you are going through a hard time. Sometimes I think people don't always realise that an emotional infidelity can be just as painful as a physical infidelity.
There are quite clearly issues that need to be discussed and, honestly, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me out of blue.
Q. Hi My bf broke up with me yesterday said he does not want to get attached to me and like to start dating other girls. i am feeling very depressed, couldnt concentrate on anything. I called him twice and he swiched off his phone. please someone h...
A. 9 November 2010: Hello Sweetie...So sorry to hear about your break-up. I am sure all of us have been on both side of a break-up and being on the receiving end is just miserable, especially when you just did not see it coming. You are not alone in this feeling and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has broken my trust....
Q. Hi everyone. I am hurting at the moment. My boyfriend has broken my trust and has done the worst thing anyone could ever do to me. I though he was a good guy. I told him about my past sexual abuse by father and he told his family about it. I can ...
A. 9 November 2010: Hello. Sorry to hear that you are hurting and sorry that you feel betrayed by your boyfriend and so very sorry for your father's appalling treatment of you.
Sexual abuse by a parent can leave so many emotional scars. One of them is a sense of... (read in full...)
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