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writes: My girlfriend (Im almost 18 and shes 17) made me promise not to tell that she stuffs her bra and wants breast implants when she finishes high school. To make a long story short, I was hanging out with my friends (most of them are girls who hate my gf because she can be self-centered sometimes(but she's working on it). The thing is I told them this and then every personal about my gf. Its better for people not to tell me these kind of thing cause I'd end up telling everyone I know. They (my friends) told everyone in our grade her secrets. she found out she was beyond furious with me. She got so upset she her mom and went home early that day. Her friend called me saying she was crying in the bathroom at lunch and needed to talk to her before she decides to break up with me. What should I do about my friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo my gf and me talked about what I did. She said that doesnt trust with personal stuff anymore. We good? She still seen mad.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 You should be asking what should you do about yourself not your friends. YOU are the one with the big problem. You say your girlfriend can be self-centered, I think YOU are self-centered. You certainly are one of the girls aren't you?! Now we have proof that guys can be vicious gossips as well as females.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Just leave her alone. She probably won't trust you anymore after you have betrayed her like this. Whatever possessed you? You should try apologising whatever happens, but the ball should be in her court now as to whether she wants to be with you anymore. I am thinking that maybe you have lied about your age on this as surely by even mid-teens people learn to keep certain things in confidence. You are extremely foolish, to put it nicely, and I hope no-one ever does this sort of thing to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): They were SECRETS. You don't tell other people your gf's secrets - she trusted you to know. How can she ever trust you again? You clearly don't care for her as much as she deserves, otherwise you never would have even considered telling your friends these things. You have a LOT of apologising to do, mister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): You need to sincerely apologize to her and do it in person, not by phone. Do it alone without other people around and pray she forgives you. At this point, well you really don't deserve her--she views you as committing the cardinal sin of "betrayal of trust." Good luck patching it up--you'll need it. Trust me I'm alot older than you. I know how women think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): First of all, you brought it on yourself if she does decide to dump you. So you shouldn't be mad at anyone but YOURSELF. Second, why would you betray the trust of someone you care about like that? It's obviously something she's highly self-conscious about. Let's say you were't so well-endowed, would you like it if she went around telling her male friends the exact amount of meat your packing and how much you needed to put in work??? Didn't think so. Third, either you're really dumb or you did it on purpose to see a bunch of girls go at it when you told your female friends. Girls are competitive and unfortunately catty. If you knew your friends weren't fond of your girlfriend then you had to have known they weren't going to keep their mouths shut about something that would bring her down. If you want to get out of the doghouse on this one, I suggest you crawl back to your girlfriend on your knees and beg for forgiveness.
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reader, VictoriaK +, writes (21 October 2008):
 This is SAD! I can't believe that you being almost 18, can't keep your mouth shut about thing that shouldn't be said. I expect this out of a 5 year old, not an 18 year old. If I had told my boyfriend something like that I would expect him to keep it a SECRET!!! If she wanted anyone to know, then she would have told them herself. It's not up to YOU to make her decisions. You should be ashamed! As for her not talking to you. I think that she has made the best decision for her. When two ADULTS are together, then they should be mature about things. And you saying your girlfriend ( now ex hopefully) is self-centered?!? She OBVIOUSLY is very self conscious. You and your so called "friends" need to grow up, and stop talking about people behind their back. Seriously.
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