Do all married men want to make love to other women?
Q. My problem is I can't stay away from other women. I have been married 9 years and we have two children. I love to flirt and make love with other women but I feel guilty. I am happy with my wife and we have good sex every week (or so). I don't want ...
A. 30 January 2009: Ariel and the anonymous female are correct - if one is not giving 100% to the relationship, it will suffer, on many levels. If a partner is cheating behind the other's back, then essentially they are lying and being deceitful, and when behaving in ... (read in full...)
How often do guys jerk off?
Q. I'm not a guy and I honestly don't understand how men work. I am with my boyfriend for almost a year. For 5 years prior to this relationship he was single. He had to get used to taking matters into his own hands for quite some time. When I first ...
A. 29 January 2009: I am glad I could be of help. After all, that is what this forum is for, to help each other. It is good to get someone else's perspective, esp. if they've already gone through the situation themselves.
Yes, I understand how you feel when you... (read in full...)
Do all married men want to make love to other women?
Q. My problem is I can't stay away from other women. I have been married 9 years and we have two children. I love to flirt and make love with other women but I feel guilty. I am happy with my wife and we have good sex every week (or so). I don't want ...
A. 29 January 2009: Well, we are all different, and I have to respect that much, anyway. Even if the differences are completely foreign to my own inclinations.
Yes, you are correct in that there are many married women who have affairs, sex outside the marriage... (read in full...)
I'm scared he'll run away if I bring it up...
Q. Recently a co-worker I'd invited to my house party hit on a man I had just begun dating. I am not sure what happened between them but something started at least because he did go to her house a few times she said when she blurted it out to me a week ...
A. 29 January 2009: He's being manipulative by making you feel guilty about dating others and making you feel like a player for dating others. He does this in subtle ways, but nonetheless the end result is the same, and this is exactly what he is trying to accmplish. ... (read in full...)
Do all married men want to make love to other women?
Q. My problem is I can't stay away from other women. I have been married 9 years and we have two children. I love to flirt and make love with other women but I feel guilty. I am happy with my wife and we have good sex every week (or so). I don't want ...
A. 28 January 2009: Put yourself in your wife's shoes. How would you feel if she felt and acted the way you do? How would you feel if you knew she was bored with looking at your body? How would you feel if you found out she flirted with other men when you weren't ... (read in full...)
Are my suspicions right?
Q. I am pretty sure that I already know the answers to my questions, but it is one of those things that you just have such a hard time believing until you hear it from somebody else, so here is goes. I met my husband at a new job that we had both just ...
A. 28 January 2009: Your suspicions are correct, and so is Gina. He is a sex addict. And, he is trying to take the focus off his actions and put it on you by saying you're being insecure and that you should trust him. It's a ploy they use in an attempt to get away ... (read in full...)
Step sister pregnant with my child, will we have problems in future?
Q. my mother died when I was 1,after 3 years my father remarried,but my mother was from London,We stay in India,I have a step sister,she is 8 years younger than me.we started having sex when she was 15,my parents do not know about has they are very ...
A. 28 January 2009: Well she is your stepsister, so there is no bloodline there. The only issues you may have are with culture and society in general, as they may frown upon your situation.
I know someone who married his stepsister and they had 2 children together... (read in full...)
I can't believe him, did he ever care about me?
Q. My boyfriend of almost two years cheated on me. The sad thing is I had a feeling he was cheating on me. I kept asking him did he still want to be in the relationship and he would always say yes I am in love with you. I would ask is there someone ...
A. 28 January 2009: Serves him right. I'm glad he lost both of you at the same time. He doesn't deserve to have anyone in his life with his attitude.
How dare he put the blame on you for his actions. You didn't make him do anything - he chose to do what he did. ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I'm bi? At what age does bisexuality usually show up?
Q. Hello, I am a 21 year old male, and I have always thought of myself has 100% hetrosexual. I had my first serious sexual relationship at 17 and have had another serious sexual relationship at 20. I am now in my third serious sexual relationship but ...
A. 28 January 2009: It is normal for a person to notice another of the same sex in an "attractive" fashion. Just as you would notice a beautiful flower, mountain scenery, or admire the ocean. There are things we notice and are attracted to that have nothing to do ... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time didn't work! Help!
Q. hi, i desperately need some advice. I tried having sex for the first time last night, it was with my boyfriend of 7 months and we were perfectly save and everything. There was just one problem, he couldn't get his penis into me. Has anyone else had...
A. 28 January 2009: Your first-time experience is a common one, so don't worry too much. Was it his first time also? That would make it a doubly nervous scenario!
Many years ago with one of my first boyfriends (well, the one I decided to sexually experime... (read in full...)
How often do guys jerk off?
Q. I'm not a guy and I honestly don't understand how men work. I am with my boyfriend for almost a year. For 5 years prior to this relationship he was single. He had to get used to taking matters into his own hands for quite some time. When I first ...
A. 28 January 2009: On one hand it's great that he felt comfortable enough to share this with you...on the other hand, it's TMI (too much information!).
I know just how you feel. Long ago I discovered my fiance does this frequently, even touching himself in front of... (read in full...)
Are my fiance's bizarre behaviors something to be concerned about?
Q. I'm going to try to keep this brief, but I do tend to be wordy. So please, forgive me if I start rambling. I am a 47-year-old female and have been with my fiance for a little more than 2 years now. We have been engaged for a little more than...
A. 28 January 2009: Thank you pvtguy and punkypippi for your responses. I did need some encouragement and support and for some strange reason verification that what I am dealing with here is...strange bizarre behavior, to put it mildly. As upset as I've been, I find ... (read in full...)
Any romantic ideas for welcoming hubby into bedroom?
Q. im recently married to my wonderful man and im having a great relationship.im a very romantic person and sometimes i feel like im run out of ideas . my husband has a very exhausted job "a journalist and correspondant " and i would like to ...
A. 27 January 2009: Sometimes reverse psychology works well too. Try taking the focus off sex. Maybe his sex drive is not as high as yours, which does happen. Maybe his job is interfering with his sex drive. Maybe he does want sex but being too tired can interfere ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend jokes around with friends but then is so quiet with me?
Q. Hi there ive been with my girlfriend for about 8 months and we are very much in love. I love her more than anything and she is the most improtant person in my life. Thing is recently she has started becoming grumpy and crabby quite a lot. She has ...
A. 27 January 2009: Hell no, you are not being paranoid nor oversensitive! It is hurtful when we see our partner behaving in a positive happy way with others but not with us. It makes us think our partner is not happy with us, but is capable of being happy with ... (read in full...)
Are my fiance's bizarre behaviors something to be concerned about?
Q. I'm going to try to keep this brief, but I do tend to be wordy. So please, forgive me if I start rambling. I am a 47-year-old female and have been with my fiance for a little more than 2 years now. We have been engaged for a little more than...
A. 26 January 2009: I absolutely know that he has issues. Boy do I know. Let me clarify that some of his behaviors have stopped, at least as far as I know. But they still haunt me at times. Others are recent (such as the possible cheating and the shoplifting). ... (read in full...)
I suspect my b/f of cheating. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. I need help urgently!! I have been with my boyfriend now for over 2 years. I suspect him of cheating and we going to sort it out tomorrow evening after work etc... He had denied it all and my reason for suspecting him is I know him better than ...
A. 26 January 2009: Unfortunately, once we talk to them about it and let them know we are suspicious, if they are really cheating, they will more than likely deny it, and get better at covering their tracks. Then it becomes even more difficult to catch them at their ... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship and it be sexual but I have problems
Q. Hello I'm 30, male, divorced and I have a dilemma. I want to have a girlfriend, and I would like the relationship to be sexual. The problem is that I also don't want to upset any girl if I like her enough to be interested in her. I have n...
A. 23 January 2009: P.S. - Thanks, Griffo, much appreciated! Very well said yourself!... (read in full...)
Newly married husband looking at porn, I'm disgusted
Q. My new husband has been looking at naked women on Craigslist and now I feel disgusted with him. It makes me feel like we are not special. It makes me feel like he thinks of other women when having sex with him and now I don't really want to have ...
A. 23 January 2009: I keep reading about this dilemma here more and more. And I for one have been through this myself.
It seems that for some women, they are perfectly okay with their man looking at porn, they really are. I used to be one of those women.
For oth... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship and it be sexual but I have problems
Q. Hello I'm 30, male, divorced and I have a dilemma. I want to have a girlfriend, and I would like the relationship to be sexual. The problem is that I also don't want to upset any girl if I like her enough to be interested in her. I have n...
A. 23 January 2009: Reading your latest response made me so happy for you - it made my day already in fact! You sound so much better already. I am sure having gotten a job has lifted much pressure off your shoulders. And moving to a bigger city, where some of your ... (read in full...)
My g/f hates my ex wife and its almost destroyed our relationship
Q. Hello, I'm a divorced father of three girls. I have known my ex wife for over 18 years. We vowed to stay friends after the divorce for the sake of the kids. We talk on a daily basis about the goings on with our girls. They are in many activiti...
A. 22 January 2009: Wow, this is a tough one. On one hand, it is great that you have such a civil relationship with your ex, for that is best for your girls. On the other hand, your gf suffers for it. It is difficult to find a happy medium.
I think cutting ... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship and it be sexual but I have problems
Q. Hello I'm 30, male, divorced and I have a dilemma. I want to have a girlfriend, and I would like the relationship to be sexual. The problem is that I also don't want to upset any girl if I like her enough to be interested in her. I have n...
A. 22 January 2009: Well we all care about you and think you are worthwhile - just look at all the responses you've gotten already - you are on the "most discussed" list here!
As an attractive woman, I can tell you that at this stage of my life (latter 40's, but I'm ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my 1st love or walk away?
Q. I have been reading the different stories on love and married men however; I haven’t come across one which is similar to mine. So here I am asking for help! My married man is my first and only love...We met ten years ago when I was 17, we da...
A. 22 January 2009: I agree with everything PastFirst has to say. Don't sit around waiting and hoping for this guy. Don't put your own life on hold for him. I know it seems impossible right now due to the intense feelings you have for him, but work toward getting ... (read in full...)
My husband told me that most men don't like to give oral and he does it only because I like it.
Q. I have been married to my husband for seven years. I have told him exactly what I would like when it comes to oral sex. More often than not, he doesn't do it. He told me the other night that most men don't like to give oral and he does it only ...
A. 16 January 2009: Previous, did he typically satisfy you during oral? Does he get easily frustrated out of the bedroom when trying something new? Maybe he didn't really mean what he said, but got frustrated with the new toy and said what he said out of anger. Is ... (read in full...)
My Own Life Experiences
Q. I have been looking over my answers to posted questions and I think I offer pretty good advice. I do however see a pattern of getting into my own life experiences to make a point. I wondered maybe some might think I am self centered by doing so...
A. 15 January 2009: I have had the same thoughts as you, so I understand what you are saying. I've decided that in some cases I will hold back sharing my experience (not necessarily any rhyme or reason to this), but in other cases, sharing can help the other person ... (read in full...)
I was molested as a child, how can I confront that person?
Q. Dear every1, First of all happy holidays : -) ... when I was younger "my cousin"( this boy my brother and I grew up with that lived in our building.. I'm 18 and he's been my "cousin" for like 13 years now) when I was like 7 I remember him touc...
A. 15 January 2009: The feelings of being turned on during the incident can cause feelings of guilt and shame in the future, if they haven't already. Feeling turned on is a natural physical reaction. But, there is a conflict there, since you know what he did was ... (read in full...)
Can someone truly be forgiven?
Q. I had a one night stand while in a relationship. It wasn't planned and in no way could be considered an emotional betrayal. The following morning, having realized what I had done and what I stood to lose, I confessed. Fortunately for me, my ...
A. 15 January 2009: If he is snooping around, spying on you, questioning you about your whereabouts, who you speak to on the phone, who you are texting, checking your phone, checking your on-line activities and e-mails, checking your mail, then no, he still does not ... (read in full...)
Anyone had sex on a first date that turned into a relationship?
Q. I just wanted to know if anyone has ever had sex with a guy on a first date and it turned into a relationship? Men and Women please both answer. Thank you....
A. 15 January 2009: Everybody's different, and every situation is different. I think it's better to wait, as that makes it all the more special, and you don't want the sex to be the focus or the driving force of your relationship. I think it's better to get to know ... (read in full...)
I spy on my mother and think I'm going to advance on her
Q. I know this probably isn't normal behaviour so I am hoping someone will assure me it is fairly common. See, although I have a girlfriend and have had a few girlfriends down the years, I cant help feeling sexually attracted to my mother. Every ...
A. 15 January 2009: I am glad to read that you would not force yourself upon your mother as we all interpreted. What you share is shocking. But, don't think of yourself as a f*ing monster, as this would be self-defeating. Do think of yourself as someone who needs ... (read in full...)
Unemployed but want to meet others
Q. hi, never used anything like this before, so here's my situation, i'm currently unemployed, and thus due to a lack of money I find it difficult to go out, do new things, and more importantly, meet new people. what would be the best advice of ...
A. 15 January 2009: That's what I was going to suggest - volunteer work. Mostly women do it, so you'll be surrounded. Even if most or all of the other volunteers are married, you'll still get practice interacting with members of the opposite sex, and there will be no ... (read in full...)
Three years and he still calls me by HER name
Q. HI. I am having a similar problem to one problem that I just read. My Fiance called me by his ex wives name. AGAIN!!! First time we were in bed in the A.M. and he said "H" go make my coffee. Now my name is "P". Those names are nothing alike. Second ...
A. 15 January 2009: I think he's being insensitive. How would he like it if you called him by one of your ex's names? He wouldn't like it one bit. Sometimes tit for tat works wonders, though I don't necessarily condone it. But, sometimes, it's just what the doctor ... (read in full...)
He shagged like a porn star in his affair!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 14 years, with 2 kids. He is 40 I am 37. For a long time (possibly always) our love life has not been right. He is very highly sexed, and would want to make love every day, and several times a day if ...
A. 15 January 2009: I don't know how you did it, but I give you much credit for sticking with him and trying to work it out, after finding out about the affair. That is something I don't think I could do personally, but who's to say for sure if I had 14 years invested ... (read in full...)
My wife is gorgeous & I hate men looking at her!
Q. Ive been married to my gorgeous wife for 7 years. Im very insecure about other men eyeing her up in public. When we go out she looks amazing, the trouble is this makes me feel very uncomfortable as im constantly being hyper-vigilent to see if any ...
A. 13 January 2009: I wonder if your wife mentioned to you that these guys "ogle" her b/c she wondered if you noticed. I wonder if she wanted you to acknowledge it, b/c she wondered whether or not you cared that they do this? Someone who is so confident that they ... (read in full...)
She's telling me things about her past in small doses..do I tell her just to spill it all ?
Q. This isn't a difficult story but it does take some explaining. I met a woman a little over a year ago. This was online, not in real life. We talked for about 6 weeks and decided to meet. Things went very well. From the start they did. We had much in ...
A. 13 January 2009: I think you have a need to know, and have a right to know. Not that everyone has to reveal every single skeleton in their closet to their partner. But these are major, major experiences she's had, and make up to some extent who she is today. It ... (read in full...)
Embarrassing noises after sex!
Q. ok.. this is a little embarrassing, but it's to do with when i have sex. Sex in every position is really good and fine.. what i am asking about is when i have sex doggy style.. i enjoy this style the most and so its my favorite to do. the thing...
A. 7 January 2009: I don't think there's a sexually-experienced woman around who hasn't had this happen! I always laugh when it does happen, and I know it will probably happen after "doggy-style" in particular. Actually, we both laugh, b/c it does sound funny, like ... (read in full...)
Why did he come after me when he's married and now I'm upset!
Q. Just what does a man want in a potential mate, be it his choice to get close to a girl at work when he is married, why does he overstep into the realm of saying "i love you more than that flirtation',rub and touch on her, seek her out, ask her ...
A. 7 January 2009: Some men want to have their cake and eat it too...such as this man. Yes, he was, and still is, attracted to you...but he's married! That ultimately for the most part makes him unavailable, when it comes down to it. Yes, some married men do leave ... (read in full...)
How do talk to your partner about something you found out by snooping?
Q. question: how do you handle a situation in which you learn information about a partner that upsets you, but can't approach them about it because of the way in which you learned the info? for instance, reading a girlfriend's journal and find...
A. 7 January 2009: I think no matter what you will need to bring this up with your gf, b/c otherwise it will forever be in the way, always there lurking in the background, until it is dealt with.
You can preface it by admitting that you realize what you did (snoopin... (read in full...)
Stretch marks & cellulite--any advise?
Q. Hi there, I know this sounds like a really daft problem but here it goes ... Im a 20 year old girl, have a bf who i love but were going on holiday together, weve been on holiday before but only to places where you wear covering up clothes. this ti...
A. 7 January 2009: If you attempt the suggestions posted here and they do not work, or do not work in time...well, I have similar issues with my body. When we go to the beach or to the pool, I wear a one-piece bathing suit, and also a sarong around my waist, which is ... (read in full...)
Father gave power of attorney to sisters and its causing problems
Q. This is a family relationship question, which i hope is okay to ask? My father seems to have given all the power (powers of attorney and management) of the family house and what has happened to my mother, etc., to two of four sisters because he ...
A. 7 January 2009: Is your father still of sound mind? Can you discuss your concerns with him? Can you point out the superficiality and insensitivity of some of their actions and ideas to him? It is a good idea for a parent to give P.O.A. to one of their grown ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering with bi polar disorder...
Q. Hello all - I have posted before and just really need some encouragement. I suffer with bi-polar disorder and I'm having a very rough day today. As I'm writing I'm crying because I feel so overwhelmed with EVERYTHING my depression my family, house ...
A. 5 January 2009: I hope you can find encouragement and hope in the words that others have posted here. Just to let you know you are not alone, I too suffer from bipolar. I hide it well much of the time from those around me. My fiance knows when I am not doing so ... (read in full...)
He keeps promising to change but then goes back to not trusting me!
Q. I will try to keep this brief. I have been with this guy for almost 8 months. Things are either better than I ever imagined a relationship to be or I feel worse than I have ever felt in my Life. He went through a bout of depression a few...
A. 5 January 2009: He is too suspicious and paranoid. Not excusing it, but it could be a by-product of his depression. He needs professional help, counseling, therapy, whatever you want to call it. He may need meds also. It will take alot of time and hard work on ... (read in full...)
Some questions to single mothers...
Q. Single mothers please help. I am a single mother with children in elementary school. I have been rather close with this new guy. He is very caring, nice, etc. I think I love him and he does me. We have done some kissing and making out. We are to the ...
A. 19 December 2008: It is absolutely okay to have sex with him. It's not as though you met him out at a bar and want to bring him home for a one-night stand (though that would be okay too, so long as the children were not witness to it!).
You have already started ... (read in full...)
I haven't been introduced because I'm black!
Q. I guess I am just needing objective opinions on this matter. I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. We have been living together for the last 5 months. I have 2 children and he is very involved in their life. We are our own family. We do ev...
A. 19 December 2008: Until you meet them, this will continue to plague your relationship, and will only grow worse over time. This needs to be dealt with and gotten over with. You've been more than patient - you've waited long enough. Now it's his turn to do ... (read in full...)
Will his puppy lose its sight?
Q. Hi you lot, Need some advice really. My son has a lovely new little puppy. He let his mate look after it for him while he was at work, and the friend took the puppy round to his mate who has 3 cats. To cut a long story short, the puppy got attack...
A. 19 December 2008: That is so sad and heartbreaking. But you know what, animals are like children - they are so resilient, and adapt to their disabilities quite nicely.
We once had a rabbit that we rescued from a pet shop that my husband at the time worked at. The... (read in full...)
Allowed to stay for a couple of hours then home by myself on the train while fiance stays!!!
Q. Could you please help me! I am going to my fiance's works night out, but he's only allowing me to stay for a couple of hours! He said I have to get the train home myself while he stays at his friend's house. I think he has plasnned to meet up when ...
A. 17 December 2008: I know I would be suspicious. Doesn't add up, doesn't sound right. Ask him pointblank why he does not want you to stay. You have a right to know - you are his fiance! This is the man you are supposed to be spending the rest of your life with! ... (read in full...)
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