Is the guy I'm dating a sex addict?
Q. I am concerned that the guy I met online and I am currently dating is possibly a sex addict! I've ignored some obscenities and red flags but now I am confused!!! I like him very much but I can't help but to be concerned with his preoccupation with ...
A. 1 February 2014: Id like to thank everyone for their feedback. I'd also like to clarify a few things.
The reason I am I on the fence on his behavior is because we have been very open regarding every aspect of our lives. We've discussed our childhood traumas,... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to go a week without seeing each other?
Q. My boyfriend hasn't seen me for nearly a week. Should i leave him?. I told him that i love him, but i don't like that we hardly see each other sometimes, and he replied saying " I do love you. I've got the confidence in our relationship. Please try ...
A. 27 April 2013: This sounds shady. I agree with unicorn 123. Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Particularly that its strange and questionable that the weekend he gets paid he avoids you. Whats up with that? Make it clear your not clingy but base it more on the ... (read in full...)
So hung up on my ex that I can neither move forward nor ask for closure
Q. Hello, let me just say that I appreciate any and all advice I may receive on here. Three years ago when I was just seventeen, I met a man in his thirties and we spent the next seven and a half months together. I was entering my senior year of h...
A. 27 April 2013: First and foremost, I think that you should consider going to talk therapy. Its a healthy way to release all of these emotions. Please consider this. Now moving forward.... You were deeply impacted by this relationship and thats okay. You are a ... (read in full...)
Its been 18 months since the break up. How long before I get my ex out of my head?
Q. How long til I can finally get my ex out of my head? We were only together two years, during which time we had a relatively up and down relationship, mainly due to circumstances. He was close to his ex which I didn't like, I often put my friends ...
A. 28 February 2013: I feel the same way. I can't stop thinking about my ex. OUr relationship was very up and down and when we were good, it was heaven . Otherwise it was hell. Ive never felt such a close connection with anyone before in my life. I wouldn't dare make ... (read in full...)
B/f can't text me during the work day yet he's on facebook?
Q. I've posted about this before on this site, however the problem is still continuing. Every time I text my bf while we're both at work he just completely ignores me, yet he's on facebook posting statuses, liking pictures, just doing whatever. He ...
A. 28 February 2013: You aren't being petty. If he can post on Facebook he can text u back. very simple. Most employers dont want their employees on facebook or their cellphone. He can text u during a bathroom break at least. ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him because of his behavior. Have I overreacted?
Q. Im in college living on campus with my friends in an aparment and I've been in a relationship for almost four years now and I've finally had enough of the stuff that he put me though so I broke up with him. He has almost expected me to be there at ...
A. 17 November 2012: You're doing the right thing! You're not overreacting at all. Do not go back with him, he will only put you through more of the same anguish.... (read in full...)
I'm sixteen, she's thirteen. Is this too much age difference?
Q. Hey I'm 16 years old. I just came back from hoilday with my mate and his family. Throughout the hoilday I started to get more attracted to his sister. Problem is she is 13 and I'm 16. Her personality is what I like in a girl everything she like I do ...
A. 17 November 2012: No. Go for it!... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend blew off my birthday. His birthday is in a few days. Should I blow it off or at least send him a card?
Q. My LDR boyfriend of 1.5 yrs allegedly forgot my birthday (*actually, I think he remembered 2 days before but decided to be cheap and blow it off). When I didn't speak to him for 2 days, he still didn't try to make it up to me, so I asked him to ...
A. 4 September 2012: Do not send him a card. I would cease all contact without a single explanation. This guy sounds like he is unworthy of your time.... (read in full...)
He broke up and just wants to be friends, I really want him back. What do I do?
Q. I broke up with my bf 1 month ago there wasnt cheating involved though. I had need dating my bf Chad for 2 years he told me we fighted too much and he just wanted to be my friend. Sometimes I miss him a lot so I texted him begging him to come back ...
A. 4 September 2012: Break ups need to be grieved. You are still in the bargaining phase. This is demonstrated by you wanting him back. Its okay. We've all been there. But he has told you his piece. Now you must do the hard thing and begin to accept it. Ive jus... (read in full...)
When its good its really really good but when its bad..its extreme. I need to let go!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now on and off (longest break was a month). Am going through a difficult, heart wrenching time right now because I know it's the end but I find it hard to let go. Firstly, when we met, he was not my type ...
A. 4 September 2012: This isn't a healthy situation. Clearly, you want a stable relationship. He is not stable. He shows you 2 different sides of himself and your caught in the middle and thats not fair to you. The best advice I can give is to end things. You say ... (read in full...)
Am I waisting my time with this, should I just end things now?
Q. Im going to try to keep this as brief as i can lol I met this guy at a party about 4 weeks ago hes 25 im 20. He asked me for my number which i was was very shocked at because i didnt think he was looking at me like that. During the night we pla...
A. 22 August 2012: It seems like you are very genuine. He's probably playing some games. I wouldn't make this guy the only option. If he asks you to hang out then go, otherwise i would try to hold off initiating contact. It seems he is into the idea of a non-committed ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is into the typical football and drinking culture, he does try and involve me but I simply don't enjoy it! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. He is English, and that means he loves football, drinking and having night-ins with his mates. Being a person from different social background, I don't understand British drinking and football ...
A. 23 June 2012: Honestly if your boyfriend includes you in his sporting and socializing activities you should feel very happy. Its an obvious sign of a healthy relationship.
It sounds like your just not into his scene.
If you aren't happy being included i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is jealous when I dance salsa....
Q. So...7 months ago I started a long distance relationship with a man I met online. We talked on the phone for a month before meeting in person. We have a lot in common and he's very attractive. The problem is his jealousy. When we first started ...
A. 23 June 2012: I believe Kc100 gave you a very sensible answer. She portrays both sides of the " dancing culture" .
I feel you are a motivated educate woman and dance for stress relief. I feel it is admirable, sexy and liberating. I do not feel you should h... (read in full...)
Is it fair that my boyfriend puts his friends first?
Q. Due to my busy work and school schedule, I only have set times 5 hours/day three days a week to see my boyfriend. He has a completely free summer and flexible schedule, so he sees me during those times. However, sometimes he wakes up late and ...
A. 23 June 2012: You sound like a very confident girl and I agree with your opinion. You are a busy woman and your boyfriend should cherish the time you set apart for him. As off as it may sound, I would play the game a bit. Act a bit distant, don't ask him to... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to feel hurt when my boyfriend was late with his usual anniversary gesture?
Q. My boyfriend and I celebrate 100 days, 200 days, and 300 days, 1000 days, etc. anniversaries rather than months/years which is important to our culture. There's even a smartphone app for counting d-days. Anyway for our recent anniversary I wrote him ...
A. 23 June 2012: Honestly, it sounds a bit inconsiderate in his part. You would have to take into account his overall behavior in the relationship. Some men just aren't very good with words. At this age, guys and girls as well love to party, so it's understandable ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her this message on Facebook?
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice on how I need to approach this situation. There is this girl I am attracted to. She gave me her number a long time ago, but when I texted her, she didn't reply. After that, she never really talked to me quite as much as ...
A. 23 June 2012: The fact that she didn't reply to your text back then may be a sign she is not interested.
I do not want to sound negative but I am just going by what you wrote on here.
My advice is to just send her a friend request if you are not friends on f... (read in full...)
I'm feeling a mess, please help!
Q. Dumped almost a year ago , I never got a reasonable answer,(short term relationship), happily single for years before that. I didn't want lots of questions from family/friends in case it didn't work out (guess I was right there...)so said we were ...
A. 26 March 2012: If you have insurance, I think you should consider seeing a therapist (Mental health counselor). Don't knock it if youve never tried it. It seems you bottle things up a lot and if you don't feel comfortable talking to friends a professional is ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss passionately but nothing else. Is that wrong?
Q. I am very religious and my boyfriend of 2 years is not. About two months ago he stopped kissing me passionately because he says he finds it easier to control himself because he gets carried away when the making out it gets hot and he really doesn't ...
A. 26 March 2012: No its not wrong of you to want to abstain from sex. It seems your boyfriend is very understanding. However, it must be frustrating for your boyfriend to kiss you passionately and not have it move forward. Its a tease for him. Odds are he gets an ... (read in full...)
Why does my mom hate me so much?
Q. Why does my mum hate me so much? am so upset? My mum was washing the dishes and I went to get a plate to make a sandwich then she told me to wash it after and I said "that's enough I will wash it" I didn't even finish the sentence and s...
A. 17 October 2011: Do not shut yourself in your room to avoid your family. That is the easy way out. Ask your mom why she hit you. Tell her she makes you feel unloved. If she apologizes, express your feelings .non the other hand if you are neglected at home maybe you ... (read in full...)
I plan to have sex again, but I have some questions.
Q. I lost my virginity on 1/2/10 since haven't had sex again till this date. I hate sex because is very painful and I shed a lot of blood. My question goes is, it going to be painful this time? Is my hymen still intact? Finally can someone contact ...
A. 21 May 2011: Sex will hurt for the first few times, eventually it will stop bleeding and hurting. You can contact HIV from oral sex or "'sucking penis" as u put it... of course your partner will have to have HIV in order to pass it on. your best bet is for u and ... (read in full...)
She's hijacked my life and I feel like an empty shell!
Q. I bumped into an old school who has just returned from travelling and started a new job in the same clinic as me. I was surprised as I have been working here for several years and she didn't mention it in any e mails. She moved away to Australia 3 ...
A. 18 May 2011: WOW, that is a hell of a situation u got there honey! Hang on, and do not cave in. You can make minor adjustments, go to the gyms on days she isn't there, or switch to a different local gym. You need to heal, if you can go on a vacation to take your ... (read in full...)
Woes of dating
Q. I was talking with this guy for over a week and then suddenly he stopped texting/talking. I assume he was busy with the jobs that he has. I texted him yesterday and he texted back today. Should I respond back? Am I being to uptight?...
A. 18 May 2011: Let him come to you. Men like to chase, even though thats not what women want to put up with. Let him keep reaching out to you. If he doesnt, dont get hung up on him, go out and meet other guys that will take you out on a real date! Busy isnt a good ... (read in full...)
What does he see me as? Does he like me... I am so confused.. please help.. I'm in desperate need.
Q. met this guy the other weekend. and I have been running into him at this nightclub I am usually out with my friends. everytime we see each other we get really touchy, we have amazing conversation, we almost hooked up, but I am not that kind of...
A. 18 May 2011: I think that u must wait until him and his girlfriend are really broken up. Otherwise, that could get messy. Dont get involved with him when hes with someone else. Thats shady on his part. Dont cuddle, let him feel u up or anything of that until u ... (read in full...)
He says there is no chemistry between us,...
Q. im close friends with a guy and we was talking the other day and we spoke about dating, he said 'to date someone you have to have a chemical reaction and i dont feel that with you' he said i had lovely eyes and a brilliant personality but couldnt ...
A. 18 May 2011: Honey, you have not done anything wrong! He was just honest with you. If you want any hope in feeling better about this i have a few suggestions 1- Don't "always be there" you are not his mother. Nor, do u want to be. 2- dont be worried about a girl ... (read in full...)
Why is he pulling away from me when all I want is to be there for him??
Q. hello everyone, please I need some advices from you, I am in a relationship with a guy 3 years older than me, I am 21 years old, we have been together for about five years now, he knows that I love him I show him my love in every possible way, I ...
A. 18 May 2011: You say you need a way out but you say u love him and don't want to pull away? The only way to fix this situation is to stand your ground and give him space. You should use other support groups for now - like your friends and family.
He will com... (read in full...)
How do I get my hubby to tone it down a little?
Q. Hi, i need some advice. My husband speak loud. He said this is his normal way of talking. Im trying to get used to it. The problem is im having now a nervous attack. Only one little loud thing i got totally nervous. I try hard to explain that to ...
A. 18 May 2011: Do you mean your husband has a very loud way of speaking or that he yells at you constantly? From what I get it sounds like a mixture of both. His voice shouldn't scare you...a startled response is a symptom of anxiety. You seem a little anxious. ... (read in full...)
Why am I dragging this on?
Q. Okay, over summer break I went on a vacation to another country, where I met a boy who we will call Carlos. He was basically my vacation boyfriend, and to be honest I did and still do have feelings for him. During our time together, we did hook up. ...
A. 18 May 2011: Its hard to make these decisions when you have feelings for the person. My honest advice is to try to move on.
If he lives in another country it's a very difficult relationship to work out. He already lied to you from the very beginnin... (read in full...)
Swollen vagina normal after anal sex. Is this normal??
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend twice tonight and the he really wanted to try anal so I let him (this was my first time at anal) after he finished I put his hand down there to finger me and he said I felt really swollen so I checked and struggled to get ...
A. 18 May 2011: The swelling with both the anus and the vagina can be due to the intercourse. The friction has probably irritated it them. The Vagina can swell do to the rough intercourse as well as the anus itself. As for the anal sex, your anal canal is not ... (read in full...)
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