We are both going to different uni's next year-and he wants to be single! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and we have been good friends for 7 years - we met in secondary school and have never been in a relationship with anybody else. I love him to bits. We have been really happy and are in love, but now th...
A. 24 April 2007: If you love someone set them free..... University really can be a very testing time for any relationships, as it totally changes the comfort zones to which you have become accustomed for the past five years... I do know relationships that survive, ... (read in full...)
My ex's married best friend tried to kiss me but I said NO! Now I can't get him out of my head...what can I do?
Q. hi everyone. I'm in a very difficult situation. ok here goes. i have just split up with my bf of 4 years a few weeks ago but was still in love with him. every since i met him his best friend became my sort of best friend because we have a very ...
A. 24 April 2007: Wouldn't be a good move to get involved I don't think. Sounds to me like he has overstepped the boundaries of friendship there and to go down that avenue would most likely complicate things further with your ex, regardless of what he is doing.
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Im worried that she's blowing all her money on crap that she doesn't even wear! How can I educate her to save for our future?
Q. My girlfriend earns a good wage considering shes 16 and works 12 hours per week and each month she blows the whole lot on clothes! As she works in a clothes shop in a shopping centre she has easy access to any shop up to four times per week, and ...
A. 24 April 2007: Just try to relax and let her enjoy the money that she is earning. There is plenty of time for saving at a later date - it doesnt sound like she is getting into unmanageable debt so if clothes are the thing she likes most, then let her have that ... (read in full...)
Can we get back that connection we once had?
Q. Could The Connection Come Back.. Im 16 years old and this boy who i like has just turned 19.. About a year ago we both liked each other but nothing happened between us because he had a girlfriend and things seemed complicated.. and plus my pare...
A. 24 April 2007: Connections often come from doing a lot of exciting activities together. Anything is possible, but probably the best option is to try to spend as much time with him, and then see if that chemistry is there or whether you like the idea of him more ... (read in full...)
Where could I go to meet some guys? Any tips?
Q. Hi, I'v posted here before and it was great help ! I was wanting some advise, I'm a 19 year old girly, and Its hard for me to get to bars and nightclubs on a regular basis as friends work and I don't feel safe to go out on a night on my own. ...
A. 24 April 2007: There are a range of places to meet people, and I always find that encounters occur when you are least expecting it, so always have your eyes peeled!
Do you work or are you often in a setting where there are a lot of males (university, college ... (read in full...)
At school, people think I'm a geek and no girls fancy me, Any advice?
Q. HI, im 14 and i have curly hair that i hate and makes me look stupid. Also at school loads of people think im a geek and no one has ever fancied me:( all my friends are getting girlfriends and im not, i know im young but plz plz help!!!...
A. 24 April 2007: High school really can be a cruel place (and I know that because I finished going back to one last year to teach!) What you have to remember is that other settings will not always have the same politics as the high school situation, and the 'in ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but I can't stop thinking about him! Any ides to help me stop doing this?
Q. I Cant Get Him Off My Mind.. Theres this boy who i like.. i have liked him for a while now.. we had a little thing that went on in the past but i blew it with him.. but theses days i just cant get im off my mind.. all i do is constantly think...
A. 24 April 2007: I remember a few years ago there was one girl who I knew I wanted to be with, and was fairly jealous when she was with everyone else. The only way that I eventually got over her was by getting out there, playing the field a bit and proving to myself ... (read in full...)
Been single for over a year...why is it so hard to find someone?!
Q. I've been single for over a year and quite frankly im PISSED about it! I've had little flings with people but nothing more and its doing my nut. Why is it so hard to find someone?! I dont fancy anyone i REALLY like and it just seems impossible to ...
A. 24 April 2007: I think sometimes if you feel annoyed about being single for so long, that can give off the wrong vibes, and often make potential partners feel unvalued. Often patience is the key to things, really get to know people before just rushing into things, ... (read in full...)
She still seems really into her ex!
Q. My girlfriend of 8 months and i have grown very close. However, she still has a admittedly "deep" tie with her first "true love". She still talks to him on the phone about twice a week (probably more if she didn't know i thought it was a little ...
A. 24 April 2007: Exes can be a real barrier to relationships. I think from everything that you have said in this case, its likely that she still has very strong feelings for him, and for all she has tried to get him out of her head, does not feel prepared to do ... (read in full...)
We agreed to split up... then had hot break-up sex!
Q. me and my ex just split up last nite we agreed were better off as friends. we have 2 daughters he was willing to try but has desided not to as he didnt think it would work but before he left we had sex we just couldnt stop ourselfs and after we sat ...
A. 24 April 2007: I suppose that sometimes physical and mental emotions can differ quite dramatically. Perhaps he wants to keep the physical side of things there but feels that the relationship has got too heavy for him to deal with? Either way, I think the main ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose our friendship, but I have fallen for my good female friend.
Q. i have a very good female friend. i like her so much. she is shy, and hasn't been in relationship for years due to it. it's come to a point where i'm thinkin about her all the time! i want to know if she would consider dating me? how can i do t...
A. 24 April 2007: I suppose that you could put it in a note if you were reluctant to speak to her face to face, but then there is always the problem of wondering when she has read the note, whether she is ignoring you etc. On the plus side, it would give her the ... (read in full...)
Are all my worries a sign that I'm not ready for a relationship or should I be brave and just go for it?
Q. Hi, i like one of my friends and he likes me but i dont know if i want a relationship. I do fancy him but ive got so many doubts and worries that i dont know if its a sign that im not ready for a relationship. My problem is is it that im 19 (soon to ...
A. 23 April 2007: To be honest, I'd say go for it. I don't think that the doubts you are having are a sign that you aren't ready, just that you aren't fully confident in being yourself. Maybe explain to him the way that you would like things to work out between you, ... (read in full...)
He said he can't cope with work and our relationship at present.
Q. We're in love with each other but we can't be together... Me and my boyfriend Alex* split up this week. The reason we split up - he couldn't literally cope with the stress of work as well as the relationship. I told him that if he didn't love ...
A. 23 April 2007: What is it particularly about work that makes him feel that he can't be with you? Surely if things are that bad, the emotional support that you could assist him with would be a very good outlet for him. It seems to me like there is something ... (read in full...)
Is he really looking forward to seeing me or only because I got in an accident?
Q. ok so heres the thing , last year in the summer i met this really nice guy who i really got on with and we would chat and talk and go pub , so anyway we decided to be sexual and we started to have sex , so anyway i started to fall for him aft...
A. 23 April 2007: Sometimes it can take something to judder peoples feelings into action. The girl who I have been engaged with for two years, it probably took her being ill to make me realise 'oh my god, it means the world to me that she is alright'. It was him that ... (read in full...)
Should I drop her or make it work?
Q. Shall i go for make or break? theres a girl ive been talking to for ages, and im not sure how she feels, but i'm sure i can make her feel the way i feel about her if i can show her what im like away from the computer (we talk on msn, rarely see each ...
A. 23 April 2007: A wise man once said that there is one thing worse than failure, and that is not actually trying. I think you need to just go for it, who knows you might get a positive answer... (read in full...)
My parents don't approve of my boyfriend but I really need their support!
Q. I am 21 years old my currently ex bf is 27. there is no problem with the age difference, it's my parents. We were engaged to be married next year and everything was going fine until he proposed. after that we stopped doing any thing and i felt that ...
A. 23 April 2007: Very difficult one, and I can empathise entirely with issues with parents having had major problems with my fiances parents from the moment that we got engaged. I suppose what I'd say in this case is that he needs to win them round. Are they ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfriend at all because of some lies he made to me in the past.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been togther for 7months, and when I met him he had two male lodgers. During our relationship they both moved out and around 6weeks ago he has replaced them with two others....one of which is female. He never talked to me ...
A. 23 April 2007: I wouldn't say that your fears are wierd, and its quite unfair of him to make that comment and in doing so belittling your feelings. You certainly arent the only person in the world who would feel uncomfortable with it
I wouldn't say that moving a... (read in full...)
My partner hates me and doesn't trust me because of some lies I've made in the past.
Q. I have been with my partner just over a year now and things have changed, due to me telling him white lies! he says he hates me and doesn't trust me. ...
A. 23 April 2007: Lies often aren't a good foundation for a relationship, and you can probably appreciate some of his concerns. All you can do is try to explain to him why you weren't honest on these things, and reassure him that you would never lie to him on the ... (read in full...)
I have signs of an alcoholic and I have kissed other women though I have a girlfriend whom I love very much.
Q. The last 3 weeks i have been going out with my mates and seriously taking drinking to another level. I feel like i am now bordering alcoholism. The reason i post this is that whilst i have been out i am being a really bad and different person. On ...
A. 23 April 2007: If you feel that you have problems with alcohol, and it seriously is giving you doubts about the true you, all I can recommend is that you get support on this. It is a horrible demon to have to face alone, and there are an array of groups which can ... (read in full...)
I'm friends with the girl who is cheating on her boyfriend, whom is also my friend. What can I do?
Q. I have a friend. Shes been with her boyfriend for five years. She has cheated on him a few times before(im talking more than a kiss). Recently shes been seeing a guy behind his back for the last three months. She has no intention of breaking up with ...
A. 23 April 2007: Its quite a difficult one, as there is every possibility that you are going to get stuck in the middle if someone gets hurt.
First off, if you were to tell him the truth, would he necessarily believe you? Love can do strange things to people i... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose our friendship, but I have fallen for my good female friend.
Q. i have a very good female friend. i like her so much. she is shy, and hasn't been in relationship for years due to it. it's come to a point where i'm thinkin about her all the time! i want to know if she would consider dating me? how can i do t...
A. 23 April 2007: I suppose its in the how you ask things really. Maybe you could just try and put the question as subtly and non-threateningly as possible. Make it clear to her how much you value her friendship whatever happens. And if she is worthy of your ... (read in full...)
Can sex save a relationship?
Q. Can sex save a relationship? I love my bf to bits but things are really bad at the moment we not having sex yet but are thinking about it (its his first not mine) but i don't know if we should or not can sez really save a relationship please help we ...
A. 23 April 2007: If things have got to that stage, I'd doubt that sex could save things, and much more likely just complicate things further. Someone once said that men need sex to feel close to women, and that women need to feel close before they are able to have ... (read in full...)
How many have had their long distance relationships work out?
Q. Hi all out there its just a quick question but how many of you out there have had long distance relationships work for you. I have never had one before and I have met a guy who doesnt live miles away bout 2 hours in car or hour half on train but I ...
A. 23 April 2007: They certainly can work, but it really depends on trust, honesty and both people being fully committed to making them work. Indeed, there are some massive advantages to such relationships - firstly its a real incentive to make the times when you do ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have just broken up because of his parents.
Q. Me n my bf hav just broken up cos of his parents. he is the first guy i've had sex with n the only guy i hav ever loved should i keep fighting for our relationship or just give up. we were together a year. sum1 help!...
A. 23 April 2007: I definitely think that you should fight for it.
I've had constant problems with my fiances parents throughout our two year relationship. We're talking some pretty serious things here, like threatening to have me beaten up while I was in work, an... (read in full...)
How much physical affection is normal in a relationship?
Q. guys: how much physical affection do you think is 'normal' in a relationship? is there such a thing? i mean, is there a limit below which, if it ain't there, the girl should just get the hint that whatever the other signs might suggest, ...
A. 23 April 2007: I think it depends entirely on the people involved in the relationship. Some people are quite 'touchy feely', whereas others can for whatever reason be uncomfortable with that form of physical proximity. Sometimes it can be far too easily to try to ... (read in full...)
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