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writes:Hi, i like one of my friends and he likes me but i dont know if i want a relationship. I do fancy him but ive got so many doubts and worries that i dont know if its a sign that im not ready for a relationship. My problem is is it that im 19 (soon to be 20) and ive only have once sexual relationship with my first boyfriend when i was 16 and ive only kissed one other guy when i was 17. Im petrified of doing anything sexual with my new friend (including kissing) because its been so long and because im so inexperience compared to him (hes 2 years older). worst thing is is that because im so embarrassed that its been so long, i kinda lied and said ive slept with two people not one. i know this is stupid and that he should except me for who i am and i know he would but it just slipped out. I guess my question is, are all my worries a sign that im not ready for a relationship or should i be brave and just go for it (whenever a guy has shown interest in me, i back away and keep putting it off because im scared as its been so long)?? what should i do?? what happens if my first kiss with him is awful as ive only kissed 2 people and the last time was 3 years ago??? WHAT CAN I DO?????
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (23 April 2007):
To be honest, I'd say go for it. I don't think that the doubts you are having are a sign that you aren't ready, just that you aren't fully confident in being yourself. Maybe explain to him the way that you would like things to work out between you, and talk about your past encounters honestly with him. All of these things I genuinely believe will bring you closer together, rather than have him run a mile
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reader, mitch +, writes (22 April 2007):
Just go for it! It doesn't matter if its been 3 years - a lot of people go a lot longer than that! Besides, it might even show him hes someone really special, given the fact you've waited for 3 years ;)
If you both like eachother, it won't matter. experience or lack of it shouldn't ever be a problem, just help eachother along and be open and ask him if your unsure about anything. As for your small lie... id say tell him the truth asap, just say you were embarrassed etc etc, if hes worth the time, he wouldn't get too annoyed.
But above all if you know you both like eachother go for it! Theres no point not doing so and looking back in a year or twos time when you've lost touch and wondering 'what if?'!
Best of luck with things!
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