New relationship - Am I being silly or what?
Q. Good afternoon all, I will give you a little background regarding my situation. I'm in my 40s and met a wonderful man a couple of years younger back in November while walking my dog. We actually live on the same street and we have been dating ...
A. 22 February 2012: I don't think you're being silly or unreasonable. It seems as though all of this stress may be taking a toll on him, and maybe your relationship has just temporarily been put on the back burner. I wouldn't take it as him being uninterested.
I wou... (read in full...)
Am I gay?
Q. Well my problem is im 16 and male and think i like guys because whenever im with my friend "aaron" i feel attracted to him and when we were getting changed for PE i got an erection when i saw him in just his boxer shorts. Am i gay? And if so how ...
A. 22 February 2012: Many people go through a questioning or experimental stage. It's perfectly normal. You could be gay, as about 10% of the population is, but this particular incident does not necessarily mean that you are. You could also be bisexual. I'm bisexual, ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, pregnant, and I don't know if I should be with the father of the baby
Q. im 16 and pregnant, yes i know your thinking im crazy. But, what im here for is to ask for advice.So im living with my boyfriend and this following month we have two years of relationship. Alright, so during does two years we've broken up plenty of ...
A. 19 February 2012: You are very young to be going through such a difficult thing, hun. I know he seems like the most important subject of your life right now, but you have a baby growing inside you, and very soon it is going to need all of your love and attention. As ... (read in full...)
How can I be happy being single?
Q. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over a girl who has a boyfriend? And any advice on how to be happy being single? I have lots of friends and I'm busy with interests but have been single for 2 years now. I'm not happy anymore. I'm not acti...
A. 17 February 2012: If a woman is taken, you have to let her go. That's a can or worms you don't want to open up. As for finding someone, try going out where there will be women that you can casually flirt with. Maybe have a friend set you up, or go on a group date.
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I don't know if I can really believe what he is telling me!
Q. Hi, so, I have a problem... Well actually I have 2 different situations that I need help with. I'm really sorry if this is long but I DESPERATELY need some advice! Well, my ex and I broke up 2 years ago. But I still love him so much. And he loves me...
A. 16 February 2012: It sounds as though both of you are pretty insecure. Neither of you can handle your partner hanging around with the opposite sex, but yet you both want to do it yourselves. You absolutely have to hold yourself to the same standard that you hold your ... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved nor that I matter to him. What can I do to try to improve things? Because I do still love him.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together three years. In the beginning while we were dating it was the typical crazy gaga love. It was amazing, I felt like a million dollars and so lucky to have found the love of my life. We bought a house about ...
A. 16 February 2012: He sounds like a 15 year old to me, choosing hanging out with friends and texting over having meaningful time with you! Also, it seems as though he doesn't understand that when you go into relationship where there are children involved, you are ... (read in full...)
Painful doggy style...any advice to make it better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together around 3 months. He's been wanting to do doggy style for a while, but when we tried it was extremely painful and tugged on the bit of skin between my vagina and anus. Furthermore, my vagina seems to get ver...
A. 16 February 2012: Doggy is a position that many women find painful because the angle is a bit different and he may often hit your cervix if he is long enough. The positioning of your legs also does not allow for easy penetration.
If you don't enjoy this position... (read in full...)
My parents want me to break up with my boyfriend..
Q. First, i am 15 and he is 16. anyway, my parents have been talking to me lately about breaking up with my boyfriend. we've been dating for over a year! they want me to start dating other people because they think that's its unhealthy for someone my ...
A. 16 February 2012: I don't think your parents understand that telling a teenager to do something will usually backfire. I don't think that it's fair of your parents to try to control your relationship. You are growing into an adult,and you must learn to make your own ... (read in full...)
I am confused in this beautiful relationship we have..Please advisee
Q. I am 29 years old and in beautiful relationship with this girl (30 years old) I met her 14 months ago and like her so much and she is such a beautiful person and very supportive. She has done a a lot for me, we also have a healthy relationship. ...
A. 16 February 2012: If she is a beautiful person that you seem to want to spend your life with, then I wouldn't let her go. A deep and meaningful relationship extends past physical attraction. That is usually part of it, but the most important thing is personality ... (read in full...)
I'm lucky to "get lucky" once a week...
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven and a half years. During the past two months, he has been showing symptoms of hypothyroidism..such as hair loss in patches, dizzy spells, fatigue, and most concerning, lack of libido. We used to have sex ...
A. 16 February 2012: I would certainly suggest that you encourage him to have his hypothyroidism treated. I myself have it, and I feel a million times better after having started thyroid replacement medication. I have much more energy, happier outlook, just generally ... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't working out very equitably
Q. I know I'm a dick for getting frustrated about this and I know that it's my fault, but I don't know what to do. I consider myself pretty good when it comes to sex. I've only had sex with my girlfriend, but I'm usually able to make her cum lik...
A. 15 February 2012: It sounds like this might be a psychological issue that your girl is facing. Many women have problems opening up and enjoying sex because of inhibitions or traumas. She seems to be fearful that you are going to make her hurt. Has she shared anything ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation harmful to a man around 80 years old??
Q. is masterbation harmful for an old man,say 80 years old? ...
A. 11 February 2012: Masturbation is healthy at any age. Trust me, I work in a nursing home and most of them men there have very active sex drives! It's a great way to relieve tension, especially if they are not able to have intercourse.
I say go for it!
Much lo... (read in full...)
Should I pursue my ex again? I cant live without her yet a part of me says its a huge mistake
Q. Hello I am in a lot of pain. My ex broke up with me after a 4 year relation when I immigrated to USA in Feb 2011. She was my life. She ended up with a sorry ecard and the reason being our lots of differences. The whole 4 years were a period of const...
A. 11 February 2012: It is very difficult to break up with someone who you hold so dear, but this sort of thing happens to just about everyone. You feel as though you can't move on, can't live without them. You are truly heartbroken. I've been there and it is the worst ... (read in full...)
Virgin question: So should I be the one to expect more out of a woman who is experienced?
Q. Its becoming more and more apparent everyday that im going to be the only one where I live who is still a virgin. Day by day the chances for me to find a woman who has the same values as me is dwindling. It would be a real bonus I found someone who ...
A. 11 February 2012: It seems as though you have a very negative perspective on sex. It is true that many people are not virgins by the time that they are in your age group, but they do exist. More important than finding a girl who is a virgin is finding a girl who... (read in full...)
What can I do to avoid or discourage this teacher's creepy actions?
Q. There is this teacher in my school who is new this year. I do not have him as my teacher so I don't understand why he constantly tries to talk to me all the time especially in the hallways. Half the time he ends up walking into school around the ...
A. 11 February 2012: Sounds a little creepy, you're right. First off, if he is making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should talk to your principal or school counselor. Tell them that they need to keep an eye on this guy, and that he is showing an abnormal ... (read in full...)
My mind is set to leave him, but I have a suspicion that I'm pregnant
Q. Hello everyone... I'm in a stressful situation and I don't think I'm thinking clearly at all. I need some insight please...You see, I have been with a 35yr old man for two years, (I am 20) and he was the first and all that...I regret that so much ...
A. 3 February 2012: Just because you leave him, doesn't mean that he can't be involved in the child's life. If he is good with children then there is no real reason to exclude him from the child's upbringing, and would even be a disservice to your child.
If you are ... (read in full...)
I feel its my fault for many bad things that happened to my girlfriend
Q. I'm having trouble forgiving myself for something I did many years ago and it still haunts me. About five years ago I ment me fiance in my homeroom class at school. we talked a little bit, but that soon stopped. I met some guys and hung around with ...
A. 1 February 2012: This is definitely a bad situation, but it is certainly not your fault. Sometimes people aren't ready to date their future spouse! You couldn't have known that one day you would fall in love and all that.
Just support her through these tough ti... (read in full...)
Everything seemed perfect before I got pregnant!
Q. hi cupids! im getting a bit fed up and stressed out with this now if im honest! my boyfriend and i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years, because i was only 15 and he was 22, it was difficult to spend time with each other at first! but our ...
A. 30 January 2012: It's incredibly inconsiderate for him to blow you off and not be emotionally supportive like that, but he is also going through stresses just like you are. Women are generally happier about pregnancy than men are, they get that nesting instinct, ... (read in full...)
Urgent! I snooped through my boyfriend's phone and now his mother says I have to tell him right away
Q. Hello, I really need some advice/help fast my as boyfriends mom tells me Im running out of time..JOY! Ok heres what happenned, I live with my boyfriend and his mom for the last 6months. We've had our ups and downs..Im having some stuggles due to f...
A. 30 January 2012: Snooping is never a healthy thing in a relationship. I've been a habitual snooper in the past because of my bf cheating and the trust issues that ensued. It is a strong temptation though. My advice to you is to tell your boyfriend in private, and ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and have never even had a crush on someone!
Q. My problem is that I'm asexual and I'm desperately unhappy about it. I'm now 24 and never in my life have I ever experienced so much as a crush on anyone. I don't experience any attraction, my feelings for other people never go beyond friendship. I ...
A. 27 January 2012: There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you! You would be amazed at how many asexual people are out their. You're certainly not alone, dear.
Asexual people have no interest in sex, but this does not mean that they are incapable of love. You can ... (read in full...)
I am a sex addict and I need help!
Q. Hello. My name's Anon and I'm a sex addict. In the past I'd always been skeptical about the existence of sex addiction as a medical condition, in contrast to addictions to alcohol, drugs or gambling, but now believe it to be true and accept that ...
A. 27 January 2012: In my opinion, this doesn't really sound like an issue of sex addiction, but maybe it is. Only your doctor/psychologist can say. I think that you temporarily lost your self control. The one night stands and hookers of your twenties seem to have been ... (read in full...)
After being heartbroken, I finally met a wonderful woman! But I am out of shape and could ruin my chances at love again! Help!
Q. it has taken me a long time to get over my ex. I have at times been very down and reached a point where i almost stopped going out. I just stayed at home ate and moped. A year later i have realized that i have become a mess. I have lost most if not ...
A. 27 January 2012: Everyone goes though hard times, and sometimes that means that we gain weight (sometimes we have such a nice time that we gain weight too!). Most people go through this sort of slump, and food is a very easy trap to fall into for comfort.
What ... (read in full...)
Her ex and the father of her child has no idea about me!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 5 months, her ex had to move into hers for reasons I won't disclose for about a month. I was cool with it the because I trust her. Any way he's moved out now and I found out he has no idea about me, w...
A. 26 January 2012: I can't tell you her motivation for her not wanting him to know about you, but some possibilities may be that he's jealous and dangerous, she still sees some sort or chance of being with him, or that he would object in some way that could complicate ... (read in full...)
Porn woes!
Q. Looking for a male perspective; in the throes of a wonderful new relationship and I'm the happiest I've been for years. The emotional side of the relationship is perfect and the physical side the same. I'm very open-minded!! The only niggle I have ...
A. 26 January 2012: I understand where you're coming from, I think. Not many women enjoy knowing that their guy is getting his rocks off by looking at other women, especially if you're sexually available and willing. Why does he need porn if he is attracted to you?
T... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and my ex boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a realationship with a guy since 7 months. We both love n care for each other truly. I am very happy bieng engaged with him. . . But there's a new problem coming up. Before this relationshp, i had an ex boyfrnd. That time i broke up ...
A. 25 January 2012: Sounds like your ex is jealous and is finally seeing what a gem he passed up! You're obviously quite a catch. I think it's extremely awesome that you and your ex have had the ability to remain friends, as this is very difficult for most people t... (read in full...)
Why am I angry with my boyfriend?
Q. This is a tough one to explain, where do I start. My father was very abusive, controlling and walked all over my mother, and I grew up watching this. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I am 18 and he is 15 years older than me. Things were ...
A. 25 January 2012: I'm not exactly an expert, but I have found that many people get frustrated and angry at their partners when there is something going wrong inside themselves. A negative feeling about yourself or something in your life that is frustrating you may be ... (read in full...)
I just got married and am not interested in sex!
Q. hello please advise me; i am a newlywed with just about a month in marriage. i got married as a virgin but since then i have been having trouble making love to my husband; i am simply not interested. what could be the problem and how can i overco...
A. 25 January 2012: One mistake that many couples make is jumping right into intercourse. Try some foreplay; exploring eachother's bodies and finding those little tricks that turn eachother on (my fiance loves the insides of his elbows and wrists kissed). Women often ... (read in full...)
I miss him but don't want to come across as clingy
Q. The guy i like a lot is definitely still in love with his ex. It was obvious, cause it was his status on facebook today. I'm worried about him, cause he gets pretty depressed when he thinks about her. Should i ask him if he is okay? But before y...
A. 25 January 2012: I absolutely believe that striking up casual conversation is not clingy behavior. Friends do this all the time. It is also very sweet of you to console him when he is going through emotional distress over his ex. My biggest concern for you is that ... (read in full...)
Please help me get past my trust issues
Q. I just can not get the thought of my boyfriend cheating out of my head. In May 2011 he started lying to me http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-suspect-my-bf-is-cheating-and-need.html It is now January and i still can not move on. I love him and i ...
A. 25 January 2012: I've been with a cheater and felt like even though what he did was awful, I couldn't live without him. This is not the case. I got fed up and left him, and now I am happily with a partner that would never hurt me like that. You deserve much better, ... (read in full...)
Will he make a move?
Q. I told my friend that I liked a guy in our college class and I am convinced she told him (although I will never know for certain) because he is making more small talk, teasing, and I caught him looking at me a few times. I hope he likes me too? ...
A. 25 January 2012: Sounds like he does fancy you! But why wait? If you have feelings for this guy, then you should go for it. Our society makes us women feel like we need to wait for the man to make a move, but a lot of guys like a woman who has the courage to go ... (read in full...)
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