He misunderstood what I said, and became rather distant. What should I do so that he will meet me when I travel to B next month?
Q. I have known a guy since November 2004 during my trip to Michigan through a friend. He texted me everyday. As he stayed in Michigan and I was in New York, we could not see each other but only communicate through sms or he will call me once a week. ...
A. 28 September 2007: From now on, say what you mean, and mean what you say. You're sending mixed, and confusing messages and I think he backed off because he doesn't really know what you want. You are keeping him at arms distance for your own reasons, more than likely ... (read in full...)
In love with my soon to be husband, but can't push away the feelings of lust for other men...
Q. normally i am the one giving the advice but the tables have turned. i love my man and we are getting married next year and i cant wait but i am lusting after other men. i have 2 really close friends who have said that they love me and if anything ...
A. 28 September 2007: Don't get married anytime soon. You have to know the person you're marrying is the ONLY one for you. If you're having thoughts or fantasies for other men, you need to wait. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps harassing me, even though I'm married now. He was also aggresive to my husband. What to do?
Q. My ex keeps harassing me. We broke up 2 years ago, and I am married and have 2 kids now. He treated me like absolute dirt, he hit me, mentally abused me, he wouldn't work, he lied all the time. I gave him 5 years of chances and then I had it ...
A. 28 September 2007: I agree with rcn! Take legal action and make sure the authorities are on alert to his psycho behavior. I think he's OBSESSED and I am concerned about the safety of you and your family. If you get the chance to move, please make sure you have your ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mom I'm not a virgin without freaking her out?
Q. how do u tell your mom who is a massive freaking out person that there 15year old daughter isnt a virgin?...
A. 28 September 2007: I wouldn't tell her. She doesn't need to know. Part of being an adult is knowing when to open your mouth, and when to keep it closed. Once you cross that line and start having sex, it's your business and no one else's. Only a child kisses and ... (read in full...)
My ex has started speaking to me again, and I'm replying to her. But am I just headed for MORE heartache?
Q. My question is this: My ex has started speaking to me again, and I'm replying. But am I just headed for more heartache? I posted a question just yesterday telling how miserable I was (Because yesterday, I really was miserable over the situation...
A. 28 September 2007: Did you call her?....Or did she call you?....If she's the one who called you, then I'd say she might still be thinking about you and may have feelings for you and now that she's situated in college, her thoughts have turned you because she may be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always wakes me up when he is horny. Is this normal?
Q. my bf always wakes me up when he is horny is this normal ?? ...
A. 21 September 2007: Consider yourself lucky that he turns to you for his sexual pleasure. He could just get up in the middle of the night and go masterbate, but frankly lost sleep and all, I'd rather be the one getting him off.... (read in full...)
We're not married but have been together for 20 years. How do I tell him I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him?
Q. I have been with my partner for 20 years, we are not married but have two lovely teenage daughters. How do I tell him I no longer love him enough to want to spend the rest of my life with him?...
A. 21 September 2007: You simply tell him gently, and as honestly as you can. I myself moved out of the home I shared with my man for 20 years in an effort to help him prepare for the possibility of divorce. He still hasn't adjusted, but I have. And I've met someone ... (read in full...)
Why don't I seem to truly like myself, although am aware of my qualities?
Q. Everything about me seems to link to a high level of insecurities and a low level of self esteem. I am unassertive, try overly hard to please others, constantly look for reassurance from males, and i let people walk all over me. However desp...
A. 21 September 2007: It could be connected to your relationship with your Dad, but it's different for every woman. For me, I had a really good relationship with my Dad, and he was very affectionate and involved in my life, but I was such an ugly-duckling when I was ... (read in full...)
Do I follow my head or my heart?
Q. Hi Do I follow my head or my heart? I am with a girl, and do like her, things have been slow since weve been away from uni for the summer hols. I think we get on ok and will have some good times to come, but I don't see if going too far to be...
A. 21 September 2007: My advise is, never settle for "comfortable" when you can have "exciting". If there aren't many sparks with the first girl you mentioned, but you have stronger sexual or attraction feelings for the 2nd girl, then it's the 2nd girl you should be ... (read in full...)
My wife is always putting me down. Sometimes I hate her, But I love her, if that makes sense. What can I do?
Q. ok here you go: I am married with children. Love my kids to death. I love my wife, but not as a wife. That may sound confusing, but let me explain. She is not a nice person at all, she constantly downs me and talks to me like I'm meaningless...
A. 18 September 2007: Well don't die, that won't solve anything and it will leave your kids devastated. I assume you've talked to your wife about her abusive behavior and to no avail? I'm wondering if she'd consider entering into couple's counseling? If not, I would ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but I keep having dreams of someone I knew 20 yrs ago! Why is this happening?
Q. I am in a commited relationship. yet i keep having dreams of someone i knew about 20 years ago. At the time i was too young for him. Then we moved away. So i have not seen him in 20 years. why am i having these dreams now?...
A. 17 September 2007: Maybe it's God's way of putting them on your mind because they are going through some trials and hardships right now and maybe you need to be the guardian angel that is praying for them to get through whatever it could be. I always think things ... (read in full...)
I'm begining to think he doesn't find me attractive anymore. He seems to prefer girls on tv!
Q. please help, i moved in with my boyfriend about one month ago.we have been dating for four years now our sex life has been great.i wen't ot bed the other night and he was still up. well i got up to go to the bathroom and found him masterbating, to a ...
A. 17 September 2007: Think about the way some of these girls look. How do you compare? It could be that he was initially attracted to you because he didn't want to be alone. Maybe you were stable, funny, sweet. Maybe it wasn't based on his attraction for you at all. ... (read in full...)
A guy in my dorm says his body is mine to explore, no commitments. What does that mean?
Q. I am in college and just met a guy two weeks ago who lives two doors down from me in my dorm. We have gotten pretty close in the past two weeks with great conversations and I even started giving him back rubs. I have to admit that at I really like ...
A. 17 September 2007: Then you probably need to tell him this before things get more physical and emotional. And maybe spend less time with him if you can. He's obviously attracted to you, and interested in having sex. If you're not feeling the same way, then you need ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to know my every move and who I've been talking to. Is this normal???
Q. My girlfriend and I of 9 months have recently moved in together. She feels as if I am lying to her if I don't tell her EVERYTHING I do. From who I talk to, to emailing an accquaintance to who I had lunch with. Am I in the wrong for feeling ...
A. 17 September 2007: There must be something fueling her suspicions. It could be that in the past, she's been hurt by an unfaithful mate and she's looking for signs in this relationship so she can bail before she gets her heart dashed to pieces again. It could be ... (read in full...)
She wants a divorce, but I still love her. And the thought of being a part time father tears me apart!
Q. My life has just fallen apart. After 9 years of marriage and being together almost 15 years, my wife has told me she no longer wants to be married to me. We have had a tough time over the last 4-5 years after my son was born, my wife has suffered...
A. 17 September 2007: There's a couple of things to consider. If she's battled with depression before, is she on medication for it? And could this simply be a flare up of her depression that's clouding her feelings for you? The other thing to consider is that she's ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend over his ex?
Q. Is my boyfriend over his ex? We've been together over a year, living together for 6 months, but he is still in contact with her through texts, email, and occasionally phone (She lives in another country). Thing that bothers me is he hasn't told her ...
A. 17 September 2007: I'd say he's not over his ex yet and like someone else mentioned, he's keeping his options open, that's why he hasn't told her he has a girlfriend now. God forbid, she might stop contacting him then. There's a few things you should consider. #1 ... (read in full...)
I've been married for 17 yrs. Am I in love with a young girl at the church?
Q. I am 40 and my wife 39 and we have been married for 17 years, about a year ago a 21 year old girl came to my church and i can,t get her out of my head. am i in love with her? it is driving me crazy....
A. 17 September 2007: No, you are simply infactuated and probably having some lust also. You are at the age where you are trying to recapture your youth and virility. You see your wife as the same-ole, same-ole and you're probably craving something new and exciting. ... (read in full...)
Is he just giving excuses not to go to bed with me? I feel unloved...
Q. i have been married for 3 years now. we have children from previous marriages who live with us. I am very upset as my husband sleeps on the sofa most nights. he gives a variety of reasons for not coming to bed. "cramp, checking something on the net,...
A. 17 September 2007: Yes you should be worried. He's either having an affair, going through some kind of depression, or has lost his sexual attraction for you. Pick a night and send the kids packing for the evening. Surprise him with a nice dinner and then tell him ... (read in full...)
How can you get the man you love to want sex with you again?
Q. We are a couple in our 30's. Together 4 years. No children, no stress, nice home and nice jobs. Sex life non existent.. well maybe once a month. You would think he was the female of the two of us. There are no sexual issues, not impote...
A. 17 September 2007: I'd say he's lost his attraction for you and he seems fine otherwise, because he enjoy the stability your marriage provides for him emotionally, but sexually it's not there anymore. This happened to me and I stayed in my marriage for a long time, ... (read in full...)
He is being very cautious with me, and I'm holding back.. is it cause he's hurt or cause he still has feelings for her?
Q. Hi Folks, I need your help.. My head is near away.. and i don't know what to do.. I came out of a relationship about year and a half ago.. so this new man.. is the first in a long time due to the last one being a complete head wrecker.. The...
A. 17 September 2007: No you're probably not wasting your time, but you're going to have to allow alot more than 5 months. He is probably being cautious because he's been hurt in the past. He may not even know for sure how he feels about you yet. Some men are slow ... (read in full...)
Married for all the wrong reasons. Met a soul mate in someone else. Pls help.
Q. Married for all the wrong reasons. Met my soulmate in someone else. Please help....
A. 17 September 2007: You didn't give alot of info.here but I think I know what you're going through. I married at the tender age of 19, the guy didn't really knock my socks off, but he was good to me and easy to be with. He was totally in love with me. I was ... (read in full...)
Really like this guy, but I lack confidence. What can I do?
Q. Hi there, bit of a juvanile question but here goes. Im 32 years of age and there is a guy I like he works in my building (large building) and I notice him on regular occasions in the canteen or in the lift etc, I have never spoke to this guy and ...
A. 3 August 2007: Perhaps you just need a new look and a couple of new digs for your wardrobe to get you over the hump of not feeling confident. Then when you meet up in the lift, say "How's it going today?"....and then the next time you see him, ask him if he wants ... (read in full...)
how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men?
Q. hi. i'm single and just cant find a guy. i'm a nice girl but even the guys in my life dont want me- even those i've known for a while. no-one ever hits on me or notices me. how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men? i want to get ...
A. 3 August 2007: Don't rush. You're bound to make a wrong choice and end up with heartache. Be patient.... (read in full...)
She gave some details to some relationships, now when we make love I get that picture of her and some other guy...
Q. My girlfriend opened up and told me of the 9 sexual encounters she had over a period of 9 years, two of which was from a long term relationships, but the others were to fill in the void and get even to the steady guys she had. She had sometimes been ...
A. 3 August 2007: I think many of us respond the same way to the discovery of our love's previous lovers. My first husband's ex-wife was this tiny brunette with long hair and when I'd run across pictures of her I always felt a pang of jealousy because she was ... (read in full...)
I want to know if I were to ask her out and she says no will it ruin my friendship with her?
Q. I have a female friend that I have liked since I met her, I want to know if I were to ask her out and she says no will it ruin my friendship with her?...
A. 3 August 2007: Only if you let it. Otherwise, if you don't get terribly hurt over her "no" you should be able to carry on as usual.... (read in full...)
How the hell can you lose weight and look slim and also lose the man boobs?
Q. dear cupid This is a question for the ladies, "what do you lot think of a guy that has man boobs that are bait?" and I have another question to any male that was fat and lost it all, how the hell can you lose weight and look slim and also lo...
A. 3 August 2007: I suspect if you lose weight, you man boobs will also reduce in size. Try weight lifting to firm up the boobs and turn them into pecs.... (read in full...)
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