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Pain after foreplay, sometimes after masturbation, and always during sex.

Q.   I am turning to you, Dear Cupid, because I am growing exhausted. I have been having sex for a few years now and have had a few different partners. But I've honestly never enjoyed it like I suspect I should. I feel dry and in pain almost imme...

A.   12 February 2010: Ive never douched before in my life... (read in full...)

Pain after foreplay, sometimes after masturbation, and always during sex.

Q.   I am turning to you, Dear Cupid, because I am growing exhausted. I have been having sex for a few years now and have had a few different partners. But I've honestly never enjoyed it like I suspect I should. I feel dry and in pain almost imme...

A.   11 February 2010: I do remember my doctor asking if I had ever been tested for diabetes, Im not sure that I have however, Ive never had any other symptoms. Ill ask next time I see her.... (read in full...)

I want to please my girlfriend more, should I buy her a vibrator?

Q.   Hey, I want to buy my girlfriend a vibrator for this Valentine's Day. I want to please her in different ways; kisses, caressing, massaging her breasts, going down on her, penetration, etc. And, well, now I wanna buy her a vibrator for a change. ...

A.   11 February 2010: My fav: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-maxi-wanachi-waterproof-massagager-14638.aspx it can go fast or slow, and doubles as a regular massager, you can't go wrong! (also waterproof!)... (read in full...)

I have a crush on a man-whore and want to loose my virginity to him!

Q.   Hello im 13, and 14 in a few days i have this big crush on this boy and he has one on me, but he is known to be a bit of a man slut if you know what i mean. well he has had sex a good few times, i really want to loose my virginity to him, he is so...

A.   11 February 2010: if you are too scared to ask your nurse for pills you are not mature enough for sex. having sex means you have to be mature enough to ask for pills, go to the OBGYN when you need to, and in case of emergencies, hold your head high and ask for the ... (read in full...)

I admitted my past to him, now he wants to date other girls as well as me

Q.   bout six years ago, I had a really, really close male friend who I was head over heels for. We were friends with benefits for a while. I thought - as a typical, inexperienced 15 year old girl - that this would make him fall for me. It didn't, ...

A.   11 February 2010: Everyone has a past, though I'd probably refrain from volunteering such information in the future. Tell him you were just young and curious, it meant nothing, in fact its almost laughable now.... (read in full...)

I've never been kissed and worry that I'll be bad at it

Q.   So this guy and I have been talking for a few months now, and hung out twice. We both like each other, but are not dating yet. The thing is I am 17 years old, and have NEVER been kissed!!! I kissed boys when I was like 5, but Ive never been truly ...

A.   11 February 2010: I had my first kiss at 18. Tis easy to pick up ;) Don't try to hard, just relax, it will come naturally. I am actually really proud of you for not being kissed at 15-16, most other 15 year-olds on this site are moving on to more age innappro... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants sex for Valentine's Day but I don;t know how to tell him that I think we are too young.

Q.   im 15, i just turned 15, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 1/2 months, things have moved really fast for us, we kissed after 2 days, made out after one week and started 'doing stuff' after about 2 weeks, since valentines day is coming ...

A.   11 February 2010: Here's how. 3)Tell him that it cost $7,000 on avg to raise a child. 2) You prepared to visit your OBGYN? Can you even do that without your parents at 15? You will no doubt encounter STI's along the way, so you had better be prepared to hand... (read in full...)

What do you guys think... Should I tell him I love him?

Q.   I was dating this guy a couple years ago and during the summer he kissed me. The next day he told me that he regretted kissing me. After that summer he stopped talking to me. The next year my mom invited him to my graduation party. When we were ...

A.   11 February 2010: WAIT. You'll scare him off. See how it goes. ... (read in full...)

What sort of questions can I expect at my job interview?

Q.   hi all im going for an interview soon and is is to work with children (cache course level 3) i wondered what type of questions they will be asking exactly. i have a rough preporation but need some more ideas.. thanks darlings. ohh and has ...

A.   11 February 2010: 1) Do you have any questions for me (the interviewee). - Research the company that you are going to work for well, and DO ask questions when given the opportunity, it shows you have done your homework. 2) Where do you see yourself in 1 year? 2... (read in full...)

Taking our bedroom secrets to the webcam!

Q.   hi all, I don't know where to start. My husband (of 3 yrs) wants us to take our bedroom secrets to webcam. I'm confused about it all, I used to think its all wrong but now its like a big question mark. Let's say if I was to do it how many people ...

A.   27 July 2009: The internet is forever. Did you know that there are actually sites dedicated to posting naked pictures of girlfriends/exgirlfriends/wives ? Seriously, google it. Scary stuff. I wldnt recommend it. But the dirty talk is fine, I enjoy dirty talk... (read in full...)

He's so verbally abusive

Q.   I'm so confused, me and my boyfriend have a relationship of 5 years. When he gets angry he says really hurtful things like " you bitch, your deaf, you dumb slut" he tells me he has a short fuse and can't controll himself. Last night I had enough a...

A.   27 July 2009: you did nothing wrong. get out. leave him.... (read in full...)

He put his penis in me but we didn't have full intercourse. Am I still a virgin?

Q.   am i still a virgin? last night me and this boy were making out on his couch i was on top and he took off my pants and my underwear and then his. at first he was just fingering me and stuff then he put his penus in me and like it hurt really bad im ...

A.   27 July 2009: Also, I didn't bleed after my first time. Or my second. Or at all actually so thats not much of an indicator. And women get discharge all the time its unrelated to whether or not you are sexually active it just means you were turned on.... (read in full...)

He put his penis in me but we didn't have full intercourse. Am I still a virgin?

Q.   am i still a virgin? last night me and this boy were making out on his couch i was on top and he took off my pants and my underwear and then his. at first he was just fingering me and stuff then he put his penus in me and like it hurt really bad im ...

A.   27 July 2009: Virginity depends on your definition. Everyone defines it differently. But really, if your age is accurate, and you arent on BC you need to wait until you are at least on the pill. Did you know that precum can actually carry sperm? He doesn'... (read in full...)

Husband wants to stay in the family home while continuing his affair

Q.   Hi there I would really appreciate people's perspective on my situation. I'm dealing with a lot of emotional pain having learnt that my husband of nearly 21 years has been seeing another woman. Admittedly our marriage was a struggle wi...

A.   27 July 2009: He wants to have his cake and eat it too. NO cuddles. Tell him to move next door.... (read in full...)

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