Am I being played? Will I ever be happy?
Q. I really dont know where to start its been a rough few years but i guess ill start toward the beginning i was with "M" for 9 years and 3 kids and come one night about 5 years ago now she tells me she is seeing someone else. Well she only stayed at t...
A. 9 October 2011: You won't feel like this forever. We are all still learning life. And learning to plan around life's unexpected changes. You are not alone, there are people all over the world in the same position, suffering from heartache. So don't lose faith in ... (read in full...)
I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!
Q. I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. ...
A. 9 October 2011: We all get hurt. I'm sorry for your frustrations. This guy was a complete waste of time. Try thinking of the phrase "don't waste the pretty". To me that means, ok so you wasted your time talking to this jerk, but don't let the tears and anxiety you ... (read in full...)
My "best friend" (girl) walks around me naked, teases me, and then when I try to do something, she refuses sex saying it would ruin our friendship!!
Q. So this girl I met this year is like amazingly gorgeous, and she has been my supposed "best friend" for a couple months now, even tho ive never been in a platonic relationship. The thing is were both really attracted to each other and she "swears" ...
A. 9 October 2011: A woman who wants to "respect" her friendship with a male and not "ruin" it would NOT be naked in front of her male friend or even go anywhere near his penis, let a lone stroke it. This girl seems entertained by this torment she is causing. You are ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you" after an argument?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you _____ (my name)"? We had an argument on the phone last night about his hot and cold behavior with me which has been pretty consistent throughout our entire relationship (pr...
A. 7 October 2011: Call and schedule a chance to meet up with him. Then discuss your issues and why you are confused. (Honestly I don't think it means anything bad. I think he is trying to meet you on this but is having a hard time showing his emotions to you.)
T... (read in full...)
I think I've made the biggest mistake of my life ending my affair. Don't want to be hated. But how do I make this work out right?
Q. Hi, not sure how to start this but hoping to get some good advice. I have been with my wife for 9 years married for 4 and last year i had an affair for 3 months with a woman who is friends with one of my friends. There was a connection from ...
A. 7 October 2011: Leave if you are unhappy with your marriage. But never leave for someone else. You can never guarantee she will drop everything and leave her fiance and life behind. Maybe she is too afraid to take that risk. Especially after what you have told her. ... (read in full...)
I'm just not interested in having a relationship. What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm just gonna' jump right in here... Almost a year ago I lost my Dad. At the time I was in a relationship that was coming to an end. Anyway, when my Dad passed my partner at the time told me she was pregnant. But because of the timing of my Dad...
A. 7 October 2011: It sounds to me like you have a nice little quiet life you have built for yourself, a very controlled environment you like to keep. It's like a science lab. In your lab you have all your little gadgets and habits you are totally content with bec... (read in full...)
Am I being played? Will I ever be happy?
Q. I really dont know where to start its been a rough few years but i guess ill start toward the beginning i was with "M" for 9 years and 3 kids and come one night about 5 years ago now she tells me she is seeing someone else. Well she only stayed at t...
A. 6 October 2011: Wow. I understand your frustrations. I will tell you point blank. You need to move on and forget about both "B" and "M". Each for different reasons. "B" is in a relationship she has no control over. She says nothing is going on but is too afraid t... (read in full...)
My FWB is being far too casual with me. Is he losing interest?
Q. I don't understand my FWB guy. He seemed really into me and said that he just wanted "a bit of fun" I am fine with this. But what I don't get is that I just hardly ever hear from him. If I text him he doesn't always reply we're supposed to be m...
A. 6 October 2011: FWB arrangement does NOT lead to RELATIONSHIP. As everyone else said on here, It is FREE SEX. That's it. Really you are hardly even "friend status". Friends hang out and enjoy each others common interest. But obviously he's doesn't even care enough ... (read in full...)
Why has she stopped talking to me?
Q. Why has she stopped talking to me? She used to be clingy and text me all the time. Now she only texts if I do with at most two messages. I'd always get morning messages when I woke up and now she stopped. She's distant. As if she doesn't care to ...
A. 5 October 2011: You have to put as much work into a relationship as you would a job. She was the one showing interest, sending you morning messages, and she was the one taking time out of her day to let you know you were on her mind. Your reciprocation was ... (read in full...)
Am I just another good-hearted loser in this world?
Q. Hey Everyone, When it comes down to dating, sex, and the opposite sex I'm a very confused man.I have had at least 7+ females tell me in a blunt, sincere, and point blank manor that they find me to be physically attrracive and claim that they rea...
A. 4 October 2011: You just have to have a little more patience. I know that is easier said than done but unfortunately that is the best thing for you. Lets break this down a little. You continuing to do the hobbies you love increases the chance of you meeting a girl ... (read in full...)
Playing hard to get?
Q. Girls if you meet a guy and he's showing some signs of interest in you would you play hard to get just so he can chase you?...
A. 4 October 2011: If she is old fashion then you chasing her would be more appealing. If she is interested she will give you signs here and there to proceed, while at the same time pulling back so not to be mistaken as "easy". If you are persistent it would give her ... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get? Or did she pull a 180 and lose interest? Or is it that I'm feeling a bit impatient?
Q. So here's the thing I'm wondering: Backstory: I met this one girl many years ago through mutual friends but thought nothing of it. 2 years ago, we see each other again and started talking. We went on one date. We planned many things but then she...
A. 21 September 2011: I think she is still interested in you but is conflicted with quite an number of issues. She has a lot to consider being a single parent. She may have trust issues with men and scared to let another man close to her heart again. She says she "doe... (read in full...)
I always make fun of girlfriend's class and stuffs...How should I get rid of this habit?
Q. Dear Cupid, I always make fun of my girlfriend’s class and her middle class dressing and stuffs . Actually she is from middle class and I am from extremely rich family and we are in a relationship for the last four years and will make it off...
A. 21 September 2011: ABSOLUTELY! She is not bluffing and I don't know what makes you think it is okay to make fun of less fortunate people, let alone your own girlfriend. Matters such as money and status shouldn't be a joke. What she wears is what she can afford a... (read in full...)
Do you think having sex too much, can make him lose interest in a relationship with me? Help!!
Q. So me and this guy have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now, like we are basically together but just without the official title. Like we act like we are together, just basically how everything between us is how it would be if we were ...
A. 20 September 2011: In this situation, YES. He's doesn't really need a relationship status with you because he can "have his cake and eat it too" as things are. He's having the best time of his life right now(I'm sure you are too, physically). But for a relationship to ... (read in full...)
How do you keep friendships? How do you make yourself happy? How do you stay happy?
Q. The last four years of my life were so valuable to me because I was blessed with some very valuable friendships. In college the girlfriends I made were understanding, loyal and wild. I loved them. Any given time other than class and work might find ...
A. 20 September 2011: Looks like your energy needs to be redirected else where. That's basically what happens when people "move on". The distance you feel from former friends is because their focus and energy is invested some where else. There's nothing wrong with that, ... (read in full...)
High school drama!
Q. So I am almost nineteen years old and my bf just turned seventeen in aug. I have already graduated highschool and have a fulltime job. My boyfriend on the other hand has just started a new school and is in eleventh grade, he failed awhile back. We ...
A. 20 September 2011: You are done with High school so "High School Drama" should not even apply to you anymore. Evaluate how you feel about him. Evaluate what you want in life, and where you are going. You should have started mapping out your future if you haven't ... (read in full...)
I can't stop the porn and masturbating habits! Help!
Q. I am addicted to porn and masturbating and I can't stop, I've tried many things but i just can't do it help please!...
A. 20 September 2011: I'd say stay away from computers and television for a couple of days. (If you have magazines, get them out of sight). Create a To-Do list which includes everything from working out and exercising to cleaning and organizing your home. This is how you ... (read in full...)
I need some insight into the female mind!
Q. I need some insight into the female mind. I am away from home right now. Been away for about 4 weeks, and I have two more to go. My wife and I video chatted today, but the whole day she has been short on calls/texts. She seemed super tired (yaw...
A. 20 September 2011: Other than it possibly being a mood change and She may simply be missing you and is not looking forward to you traveling again. You say you have more to go, maybe the loneliness you absence causes comes out in anger and irritability. Stress and ... (read in full...)
If your love letter goes unanswered?
Q. I've been dating a gentleman for about four months. In the beginning I never doubted if he was interested or not. After all he was the one taking all of the initiative(once he got over his nerves). He's a shy type, from what I've seen. He would ...
A. 19 September 2011: We are not dating now. He has moved away. I sent him this letter a couple weeks after he moved. Although our conversations are easy we have not talked about making plans to meet up......With that said it definitely looks like it's time to forget ... (read in full...)
I thought we were making progress and he's dropped off the face of the earth!
Q. This is my first time using this, so sorry if I get long winded. I realized I liked my close guy friend 2 years ago. I always had but never pursued it. Well, I asked him out on his birthday this summer. And he didn't really give me an answer. So...
A. 19 September 2011: This guy has more issues to deal with than he can handle. I don't think it is wise to consider a relationship with him until he gets his life together. You mentioned how he was going through some personal drama and remembered only good times with ... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby with this married man?
Q. I have a serious question that I know will ruffle A LOT of feathers but I'm sorry, I really need advice, I've been seeing a married man for a while and were very close, best friends more than lovers. Recently I have been getting urges to have a ...
A. 18 September 2011: NO. Be realistic here. Think about the type of "father figure" this man would give your child. How can he be capable of devoting ANYTHING to a baby if he can't do the same for you let alone his own WIFE.
And MONEY! He may have money, lots of it a... (read in full...)
Fwb ignoring me done nothing wrong
Q. Hi this is my problem my fwb who I have been having sex with for the past 6 months has just recently started ignoring me I text him last wednesday and got no reply and today he completely blanked me and walked straight past me what have I done wrong ...
A. 18 September 2011: He is most likely done with the benefits he had with you. He may have met someone and wants to be completely honest and open with only her. We know that men rarely get serious with a girl who carries on this type of (FWB)relationship. And honestly ... (read in full...)
If your love letter goes unanswered?
Q. I've been dating a gentleman for about four months. In the beginning I never doubted if he was interested or not. After all he was the one taking all of the initiative(once he got over his nerves). He's a shy type, from what I've seen. He would ...
A. 18 September 2011: I should maybe also say that "in the beginning" means 3months prior to our four month dating period. I knew him for three months before he finally asked me out on a date. The first three months where of him flirting and me resisting until eventually ... (read in full...)
If your love letter goes unanswered?
Q. I've been dating a gentleman for about four months. In the beginning I never doubted if he was interested or not. After all he was the one taking all of the initiative(once he got over his nerves). He's a shy type, from what I've seen. He would ...
A. 18 September 2011: I see what you mean, Cindycares. Thank you all for the input. This situation is very frustrating. He recently contacted me again just to see how I was doing. This was nice but all it does is get my hopes up and thinking that he cares more than he ... (read in full...)
How do I get a good girlfriend?
Q. Dear cupid please advice me on how to get a good girlfriend. I really need one. even if i found one how should i treat her please advice me.The once i had before do not understand my kind of person they always want things to go their own way. ...
A. 18 September 2011: Well In theory you should be treating your girlfriend special and different from the rest. So while at the same time you are being you, you are also stepping up your game. When you meet that special woman who takes your breath away and remains on ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a reaction a girl gave me
Q. Okay... I was seeing this girl kinda casually... We talked everyday and I even brought her to her graduation... The night of her graduation we both got really drunk... I went to bed early and she followed an hour later... I was completely passe...
A. 17 September 2011: She may be freaked out because you heard and remembered her saying it. She was probably thinking that her casual drunken slip up was unheard by anyone yet liked the idea of kind-of telling you. Maybe once you acknowledged it she was taken off guard ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 17 September 2011: Try not to over react about things. Nothing has really been a huge red flag except for him coming out of a long term relationship and your prior conversations with him focusing on the topic of sex. I wouldn't say that he used you, but I would sa... (read in full...)
Everyone around me is either getting engaged or married but I feel like I'm going to be single forever..
Q. I feel like I'm going to be single forever. I just turned 25 and I feel so alone. Everyone around me is either getting engaged or married. It's lonely when my friends are talking about wedding dresses and center pieces and I have no one. I find ...
A. 17 September 2011: Feeling lonely is never a good enough reason to call up someone, especially an ex. You are using them, and in the end it will come back to bite you in the rare. ESPECIALLY if you produce a family out of it. All that will bring you is worse heart ... (read in full...)
I've gained 40 lbs since he seen me last. Should I postphone meeting till I lose the weight?
Q. 6 years ago I regretably broke up with the greatest man I have ever been with. He recently found me. My concern is that at the time, when we were together, I was drop dead gorgeous. Since then, I have gained 40 pounds! I am scared to death of what ...
A. 16 September 2011: I understand you're in panic mode. Men are visual creatures. The best advise I'd give you is this, if you can't feel comfortable enough to function then don't see him. You want to be able to receive a person in the the dating world. You have to be ... (read in full...)
I never normally go for younger guys...but he seems really mature!
Q. Hey everyone, Im in a bit of a dilemma and I need your help.I am currently 18 and going to be 19 in two weeks. Anyway there's this guy who I like who's 16,that's just started college. Now my problem is I NEVER go for guys younger than my age,but ...
A. 15 September 2011: Sixteen is too young. Legally it would be an issue. I would suggest spending lots of time with students your age until he gets a little older. Hopefully by then you will have met some one else who is the complete package, eligible, and age ... (read in full...)
Why do guys flirt one day and act distant the next?
Q. So this is just a random question that I just wish I knew the answer to. Yes we all know how the male specie is so confusing and how they frustrate us women. So anyway, I just wanted to know what you aunts and uncles think about why guys act ...
A. 15 September 2011: Could be a number of things why people(guys) do that. Some people use flirting as a way to boost their our self esteem. The act of knowing you are desired by some one else. This is when he or she clearly doesn't like you that much, just entertaining ... (read in full...)
If your love letter goes unanswered?
Q. I've been dating a gentleman for about four months. In the beginning I never doubted if he was interested or not. After all he was the one taking all of the initiative(once he got over his nerves). He's a shy type, from what I've seen. He would ...
A. 15 September 2011: We were dating, never discussed commitment. I don't want to be in the "could have-should have" regretful stage either. I don't feel the conversations we have are just him being courteous. He will answer if I call. If its a bad time he'll say I'll ... (read in full...)
I seem incapable of having an orgasm
Q. I'm in need of some serious help. I think I'm incapable of having an orgasm. When I have sex it feels good of course, but seems like no matter what is done I just can't orgasm. Even when I masturbate I can't seem to orgasm. I've tried toys of all ...
A. 15 September 2011: For some women the mental and emotional connection has to be there before she can reach orgasm. In other words, ANYTHING can cause a mental blockage and prevent you from climaxing. Self-esteem can easily keep you from relaxing. At least for me, when ... (read in full...)
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