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My husband hates me

Q.   My husband and I have been married for less then a year. I love my husband very much, but lately I feel as tho he hates me. It hurts so bad the way he treats me. He calls me names, threatens divorce all the time and tells me he doesn't care about us ...

A.   21 January 2011: leave his ass. trust me there's someone out there who'll treat you a lot better than him. don't waste anymore years of your life in this unhappy marriage. divorce him and find someone who'll treat you with the respect you deserve.... (read in full...)

I sent a boy embarassing pictures of myself

Q.   Hello I'm seeking good advice these are the details to my DilEmma I'm an 18 tease old female soon to be 19 in a few months,I'm not a virgin but in FebuAry it will be a year since I decided sex is for marrige,the begginibg of my abstinence. Six mont...

A.   6 January 2011: well take it as a lesson learned but i wouldn't worry about it. you didn't show your face so you'll be fine.... (read in full...)

Stuck in a love triangle and needs help getting out of it!!! I don't know how to break up.

Q.   I’ve got quite a dilemma. I’ve been in such a sticky situation this past year that I need all the help and advice I can get right now. Please give I am in such a tough situation that to get the best advice from everyone, I will have to give a ...

A.   6 January 2011: Natasia is right, she's given you great advice. M in the long run would be the best choice. Not to mention he is the father of your child and happens to be a great guy from what you've described. So do the right thing and dump your boyfriend. You ... (read in full...)

Dating site guy coming on too strong?

Q.   i signed up on a dating site... this guy emailed me.. we've talked and he seems nice so far.. he thinks am gorgeous and hes smitten.. he emailed me this: him: can i be straight to the point i would love to have a long term relation...

A.   16 July 2010: seems a bit desperate. it would put me off as well.... (read in full...)

Why does he take a long time to reply to my emails?

Q.   I was dating a guy 8 years ago.One day a common friend told me that he graduated from graduate school.So, I wrote him an email to his job account saying congratulations for your graduation, what do you plan to do now. It took him a week to reply and ...

A.   16 July 2010: it could just be he's a busy man and simply doesn't have the time to reply as soon as you would like. doesn't mean he isn't interested just means he's busy. and if you want to know if he's single or not you should just ask him. as one person alre... (read in full...)

How can he love me from online chatting of 5 days?

Q.   Hello Recently a young man contacted me on a dating site he lives in france he had been on the site for 3 days he is 32 years old. He asked me if he could get to know me, i said yes so he would call me everyday send me messages every morning .H...

A.   4 July 2010: simple answer: he doesn't love you. no one falls in love that quickly with someone they hardly even know. he sounds like a weirdo. good thing you blocked him.... (read in full...)

Should I go back after what's happened?

Q.   I met my boyfriend online on a dating website. He was amazing! We would spend much time texting getting to know one another before meeting. It was about 2 months and we ended up getting an apartment together. I noticed a change that he would always ...

A.   6 April 2010: thabay408 - are you kidding? i guess you missed the part about him being possessive and controlling. sure everyone makes mistakes but the way he has to be in control of everything she does, brings up a lot of red flags. listen to your brain. s... (read in full...)

A guy proposed to me online, then he saw a photo of me and changed his mind. Now he just wants friendship. Please help!

Q.   so here is my problem....There is a boy whom i love madly. v met on facebook n then after some days of chatting, he proposed me. i told him to think again n see my photo 1st of all bt he said that he love me for what i am and will never leave me ...

A.   30 January 2010: first of all it's weird that the guy would propose to you after only a few days of chatting. that's a red flag right there. you didn't really know him anyway and thank god you know now what a complete ass he is. had you married this guy he would ... (read in full...)

Will he be disappointed if we don't have sex on our first date seeing as he's coming all this way to see me?

Q.   I met a man online and we are meeting face to face within a few weeks. He lives out of town about five hours a way. My question is, I do not have sex with a man, unless I fall in love with him. When I am emailing him, I am telling him about myself. ...

A.   3 January 2010: If you told him beforehand that there isn't going to be any sex then he shouldn't expect it when you meet him. Word of advice though - meet him at a public place, take your own car don't get into the car with him, and tell someone where you're goin... (read in full...)

I cant sleep I'm so hurt,i want to stop this pain,please help

Q.   Ive been talking to this guy from ireland on msn for about 7 months and im really in love with him. He told me he really wants to come see me and that hes saving up to see me. I never btw pushed him to come visit me it was all him and his idea. I ...

A.   3 January 2010: I think you should have a talk with him about this since he's obviously hurt you. After you talk things through maybe you'll have a sense of closure. After that you really should get off the computer for a while and do something more productive. ... (read in full...)

Do you think he hates me for all the stupid mistakes I've made?

Q.   this is a relatively long question/story, just warning you. In December of last year, I started visiting a chatroom especially for the iPod touch. I was pretty bored, telling people I was 17, and I'm 14 was 13 then. I did not have pics, since...

A.   30 December 2009: Maybe it's best that you just remain friends anyway if that's even possible at this point. Sure you can explain to him that your parents grounded you and that's why you couldn't get online to talk to him but that doesn't seem to be the only issue. ... (read in full...)

Should I go to Sydney to visit my online lover or forget about him completely?

Q.   I really need some advice regarding a long distance male I have had contact with for the last 6 months. He lives in Sydney. I live in Perth. To cut a long story short when I found him on Oasis I was quite vulnerable and hadn't been long out of ...

A.   29 July 2009: Clearly this guy isn't interested in anything else but sex. He's told you this on several occasions. For some reason you don't seem to get it. You'll definitely get hurt in the end if you don't leave this guy alone. Btw Jenny is most likely his ... (read in full...)

I'm not rdy to lose him in our long distance relationship...

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have 6mos relationship online with a guy from the US. I am from the Philippines. I loved the guy so much and I really care for him. We chatted everyday for more or less 1 hour. He was sweet to me when we were new. But lately...

A.   5 July 2009: sorry to say this sweetie but it looks like he's no longer interested. he's too much of a coward to tell you what's really going on so he's hiding. you should move on and find someone a little closer to home. long distance relationships are ... (read in full...)

He wants to see me in my underware on webcam

Q.   i've fallen in love with this guy i met online, i trust him completely... i know it sounds dodgy but, he's a friend of the family and they all trust him so i guess he's ok. i really like him, we speak every day but recently he's been wanting to see ...

A.   13 May 2009: this guy sounds like a loser. if he can't take no for an answer then he isn't worth your time. besides if he REALLY liked you he'd be more interested in getting to know you as a person and not be so adamant about wanting to see you half naked on ... (read in full...)

What do YOU think? I think my teacher is flirting with me...

Q.   Okay, my band teach is starting to act in a way that makes me think he kinda likes me, he's not married, no girlfriend, no kids, you get the point. I mean i liked him but i'm kinda over him. But, my name is Taillour [Taylor] and when he sees me me ...

A.   12 May 2009: yeah i'd also say his behavior is highly inappropriate. i'd tell him to back off, if anyone found out about all that he could lose his job or worse.... (read in full...)

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