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I'm afraid to tell him of the abuse in my past in case I'll be seen as "too much work"

Q.   I have just started seeing a guy that I like so much, but i'm held back by two things. I was sexually abused for years as a kid which made me really shy and scared about sex. My last boyfriend -the first I had truly slept with - complain...

A.   18 August 2009: First of all, a REAL man would never yell at you if you were sexually abused. However, a REAL man also deserves to be with a woman who can be completely upfront with him, so you really should be honest with him before your relationship gets any ... (read in full...)

One of my ex-girlfriends keeps trying to get back with me because she thinks I took her virginity, but did I?

Q.   One of my ex-girlfriends keeps trying to get back into my life because she keeps claiming that we are destined to be together because I took her virginity. But I really don't think that what I did with her really counted. Sure, we had all sorts of ...

A.   18 August 2009: I wanted to thank all of you for the excellent feedback!!!... (read in full...)

Is it true that masturbating tightens up the vaginal muscles?

Q.   Ok I masterbate with my finger on my clit about every two or three days..I heard from one of my friends that masterbating tightens up your vagina wall muscles....Is this True?? If so am i making it difficult to have sex?...

A.   18 August 2009: You're most welcome!... (read in full...)

Why does he lose his erection when he's about to ejaculate?

Q.   The sex is great but y does he loose his irection when it's time to cum. The only way he does cum is by oral or a handjob. It's frustrating he can't finish inside me. What can be wrong ? ...

A.   7 August 2009: Well you should still try blowing him for a while before having regular intercourse and it'll probably happen for you.... (read in full...)

Doesn't express his feelings, should I say something?

Q.   Okay, so I've known this guy for about 10 months. I started dating him about a month after we met... things were good for about 3 months and then he broke up with me saying that i wasnt "his type" and he just wanted to be single, which was fine with ...

A.   7 August 2009: You should probably stop asking him about his feelings. Maybe you can stick around since you really like him, but definitely keep your options open so that you won't turn other guys away who will accept you just the way you are.... (read in full...)

Do you think I can get my friend back?

Q.   I had a friend I'll call Alexa. We met about 18 months ago and hit it off well. We were FWB; at one time I think I had a thing for her, but we remained friends more than anything else. She is a very "sensitive" girl imo. She can take the lit...

A.   7 August 2009: It sounds like that girl will never get over what happened, so it's probably best if you move on. The only possibility to patch things up would be through mutual friends, but based on what you have said, I doubt even they could help out at this ... (read in full...)

Is it OK to be 34 and be strictly platonic friends with a 15 year old girl?

Q.   I know that guys in their mid-30's shouldn't really be friends with teenagers (especially girls), but one of my friends has a 15-year-old daughter who really wants to be my friend. I think she is really awesome and I would like to be her friend ...

A.   7 August 2009: I really appreciated all of the candid advice from all of you. I'm a big kid and I tend to get along with people younger than me, but all of you have made some very valid points and I need to think things out a lot more...... (read in full...)

Totally confused woman!

Q.   im from England, aged 24, and i used to work on cruise ships in 2007 and had the time of my life!!! i loved the lifestyle as i was constantly busy and meeting new people from all over the world. while i was there, i met a man who was from America ...

A.   7 August 2009: Since he won't leave America, then go ahead and make the sacrifices for him, but only do that if you are totally sure that you would marry him in a heartbeat if he ever asked you to.... (read in full...)

Did you ever go back?

Q.   have you ever been the person who broke up with someone, regretted it and then tried to reconcile? please share your story. How long did it take you to realize you made a mistake?...

A.   7 August 2009: I broke up with my girlfriend after high school and ended up getting back together with her about 7 years later. It was one of the worst mistakes of my life.... (read in full...)

Why does he lose his erection when he's about to ejaculate?

Q.   The sex is great but y does he loose his irection when it's time to cum. The only way he does cum is by oral or a handjob. It's frustrating he can't finish inside me. What can be wrong ? ...

A.   7 August 2009: Perhaps vaginal sex doesn't excite your man very much. You might want to try blowing him until he is very close to orgasm and then quickly grind into him and see what happens.... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity to my friend's brother?

Q.   Ok I have a very important question......One night when I spent the night over my friend house her brother and I did some freaky stuff..and now since that night I been thinking that I wanted to loose my virginity to him he's 15 and im 14.....should ...

A.   7 August 2009: Before you do anything, you should ask your friend what she would think if you slept with her brother. If she tells you that she has no problem with it and just as long as you feel like you are ready to lose your virginity, then go for it but you ... (read in full...)

Is it true that masturbating tightens up the vaginal muscles?

Q.   Ok I masterbate with my finger on my clit about every two or three days..I heard from one of my friends that masterbating tightens up your vagina wall muscles....Is this True?? If so am i making it difficult to have sex?...

A.   7 August 2009: All I can tell you is that the women I have been with that masturbated frequently were usually looser than the women who didn't. But you probably want to be a little loose anyways because I have heard that sex can be quite painful for a woman if ... (read in full...)

Am I foolish in thinking we could rekindle what we once had?

Q.   I have recently been talking to an ex-girlfriend for whom i have not seen or spoken too for many years,i guess she was ok at the time but unfortunately it did not work out between us due to my insecurities the thing is i am in a relationship with a ...

A.   7 August 2009: All I can tell you is that I made one of the worst mistakes in my life by getting back together with one of my ex-girlfriends after we were apart for several years and the second breakup was even worse. Everyone's situation is different but most ... (read in full...)

Am I moving to fast in this friendhship?

Q.   I'm a very shy guy and don't have many friends and have only dated one girl in my life. We were together for about a year but she ended it and it tore me up but as time has gone by I've gotten over it (2 months now). Anyway a friend of mine s...

A.   7 August 2009: If the woman is physically attractive to you, then you might want to take some more time to get to know her just to make sure that you can just be friends with her.... (read in full...)

Does watching gay porn make me gay?

Q.   hi, i am 14, and a male, and i am straight, but sometimes when im watching porn i like to go to gay porn and watch it and when doing so i fantasize about my male best friend and i like it alot and it turns me on more than women do, but when ive ...

A.   7 August 2009: Watching gay porn doesn't automatically make you gay, but if you're fantasizing about sleeping with someone of the same gender then it's possible. In your case, I think it's probably more likely that you're either just hornier than the average guy ... (read in full...)

Men: Why do you check out other women when you have a girlfriend?

Q.   Why do men always check out other women when they have a girlfriend? I know all the theory of men instinctively wanting variety in women, but I'd still like a male perspective on it. Particularly when the guy is actually with his girlfriend. I don't ...

A.   7 August 2009: It's because there are TOO many beautiful women in this world to completely focus on just one. But a guy is NOT cheating on you if he simply looks at other females, so don't make an issue of it or he might dump you!... (read in full...)

How is this even possible?

Q.   I just read an article about a young woman who came forward several years after some guy had supposedly forced her to give him a blowjob at a party. She claims that when this alleged assault was over with that most of the semen ended up in her ...

A.   7 August 2009: I wanted to thank everyone for their most excellent answers, especially the lady who suggested that I go to that snopes site to see if the story was even true in the first place.... (read in full...)

What is it like to swallow semen?

Q.   What is swallowing like? I want to swallow my bf's semen but I'm kinda afraid because some people say they gag. What do they gag from? Do they gag from the taste? or the semen going in their mouth and down their throat? I have horrible gag ...

A.   6 August 2009: This one time, my ex-wife asked me to lick one of my loads off of her face and hooters. While it did have an odd smell and very salty taste, swallowing it was fine except I almost gagged because the texture of it reminded me of a goober and I ... (read in full...)

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