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writes:I'm a very shy guy and don't have many friends and have only dated one girl in my life. We were together for about a year but she ended it and it tore me up but as time has gone by I've gotten over it (2 months now). Anyway a friend of mine suggested one of her girlfriends is a great girl, my age, lives somewhat close to me. My friend tells me she is a fun girl and would be a great platonic friend to go to the movies with or get a cup of coffee with. I rarely mix my social life with my personal life but was feeling kinda lonely and on my friends advice, I contacted the lady via myspace. We've hit it off fairly well, have some common interests and both enjoy hanging out in the big city. We've only been talking for about a week now but not being too experienced with basic human communication I'm not sure how to procede. I want to ask her as a friend if she'd be interestd in visiting the city with me. But since we don't really know each other yet, I'm thinking maybe I'd just ask her if she'd like to get some coffee. What do you think? Should I take a chance for the city or should I wait till we know each other a little better first?
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (7 August 2009):
If you have no romantic interest in each other then I would say just ask her and if she says no then no harm done, At this point you have nothing to lose. First ask her out for coffee, or lunch. Then ask her at coffee if she would be interested in going to the city and let her know you thought of her and thought she would enjoy it. I am sure she will go because she has no reason not too. Stop worrying you are fine .
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reader, deadduderc +, writes (7 August 2009):
If the woman is physically attractive to you, then you might want to take some more time to get to know her just to make sure that you can just be friends with her.
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 August 2009):
 If this worries you, meet for coffee, early, then if everything is going well, suggest the city, and proceed there from coffee. This way you can break the ice, the move in the direction the day takes you.
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 well..rush never be the best option.
I think, since you just knew her, and you said that you dont really know each other yet..coffee is a better option. hmmm...
how about coffee, then going for a small picnic in the park or book store..then end it by you taking her home?
i think that can be a meaningfull start for her.
And, don't forget to call her after the date, if you think you like her.
good luck! ^-^
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