My boyfriend can't climax with me... What am I doing wrong?
Q. i have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now and i cant get him to climax. in all the time that we have been together i swear i can count it on one hand how many times it has happened. he isnt my first and with the others i had no ...
A. 22 November 2007: Sounds like the problem lies with him, not you. Does he get erections, is he able to sustain them enough, or does he keep going and going and never "getting" there? Both alcohol and recreational drugs cause problems with delayed ejaculation. How ... (read in full...)
My bf is married. We are always thinking about each other, should I feel guilty? Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend is married. We've known one another for years and are best of friends. We are so comfortable with one another and can talk about anything with eachother. I love him with all my heart and my love only get stronger day by day. We are ...
A. 22 November 2007: Just wondering what kind of advice you're looking for, as it sounds like heaven from what you've written, or maybe that's how you see it? Thing is it's easy for us to project how we feel onto the person we love as in "we are thinking about each ... (read in full...)
The more my husband is promoted, he becomes more critical, insulting, demanding. I'm ignorant compared to his knowledge, and if I leave he'd take my children away from me. Help!
Q. where do I begin.... I have been married for almost 5 years. I have two beautiful children and thought myself to be happy... and yet the more my husband is promoted, he has become more critical, more insulting, more demanding, more controll...
A. 22 November 2007: Have you tried sitting him down and asking him what his problem is? I assume he was a bit more pleasant before he got promoted?! Tell him you find life with him unbearable and you expect him to help you find a solution for the problem. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what are your thoughts about tattoos? Can tattoos have a negative effect upon obtaining dates?
Q. Hey, so I'm wondering what most girls think of tattoos. I've already got one, a cross on my right bicep and I've never heard any complaints about it. But this Christmas I'm looking at getting a koi fish done on my forearm (half sleeve), and event...
A. 22 November 2007: Problem with tattoos, is that once you've got one you're stuck with it, for life! Unless you end up having it removed through surgery, which is major as you end up having to have a skin graft. You need to remember that what is fashionable now may ... (read in full...)
My guy seems to use me as a convenience to do his chores. What can I do about this?
Q. I am currently engaged to a wonderful man. We recently moved in together, and over the last couple months I have noticed something he does that drives me nuts. He is always asking me to do simple tasks for him - for instance, calling the cable ...
A. 21 November 2007: There should be a certain amount of give and take in a healthy relationship, but if you feel you're doing the bulk of the work, the balance is clearly wrong. If you're busy doing something, then tell him you're busy and he must sort it. You can say ... (read in full...)
Is this discharge an STD?
Q. Gel-like clearish discharge from vagina, more so when I'm aroused. What is this? I'm a virgin, so I don't think it could be STD, but I'm still worried. Is there any other way to get STD?? I've only been with one guy, and he was a virgin too, but ...
A. 21 November 2007: Don't worry! Everything is perfectly normal. Vaginal secretions are meant to be clear and are usually more thick and sticky as you near your period. When you get aroused your secretions build up and you get the wet sensation down there. At the same ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I smell down there. What could be wrong?
Q. Okay, so I'm a 16 year old girl and I've only been with one guy...and a few girls. My boyfriend hates the fact that down there isn't entirely pleasant smelling. It doesn't exactly smell fishy, but it smells, and I guess he notices it alot more than ...
A. 21 November 2007: It is normal for vaginal secretions to have a certain odour, but it's certainly not offensive provided you don't have thrush and you keep yourself clean. The scent and consistency changes all the time in a woman's body depending on time of month, ... (read in full...)
Should I get a third Hep B vaccine if its overdue? If not what should I do?
Q. Last july (2006) I was in a club and i thought someone had jabbed a needle into my arm. Anxious I went to the hospital and got a hep B vaccine. The doctor said it was unlikely to be a needle jab but I should still get the second vaccination a month ...
A. 21 November 2007: After 1.5 years it wouldn't do much good to have the 3rd vaccine, so you would be better off restarting the vaccine course. But before you do why don't you go to your GP's and get them to do a blood test and see how much protection you have. You may ... (read in full...)
How can I increase my libido?
Q. I have always had quite a low sex drive, my boyfriend, like most men, has quite a high sex drive. I'd like to have sex more, the thing is, I don't look forward to it but once I get into it I really enjoy it. My boyfriend is a very giving love...
A. 21 November 2007: The best sex is what goes on between your ears as well as your legs! You need to think about what turns you on, and use a bit of fantasy. Read a sexy novel, imagine your partner playing the main role. Wear clothes that make you feel sexy. Get him to ... (read in full...)
A boy called me a bimbo. What does this mean?
Q. ok this may sound like a silly question but recently in my english class a boy said i was a "bimbo" what did he mean by this was he calling me a slag....
A. 21 November 2007: Bimbo does not mean a slag. A bimbo is a term applied to girls who are giggly, ditzy types with not much of a brain...an airhead basically.... (read in full...)
Don't a lot of prostitutes have to sleep with overweight old men?? I feel like one if I have sex with my husband because of his weight-gain - he's clinically obese now and refuses diets.
Q. I'm 27 and have been married to my husband, who's 32, for 5 years now. He's become 26 stone and refuses to lose weight, despite me telling him that it could cause problems - but he insists "it's better to be fat and happy than thin and unhappy...
A. 20 November 2007: I agree with Eddie, and something about this story doesn't ring true. You don't reach 26 stone in a couple of months for a start, and if he is 26 stone, he IS clinically and morbidly obese. Withholding affection is not the solution, in fact, he'll ... (read in full...)
Is it true most girls prefer taller men?
Q. Hi there I'm very worried about my height being a bloke, 18 and only bout 4ft 10 to 5ft tall n Im probably not going to worry. Is it really true that most girls prefer taller men and if so why would u reckon so? I personally find it harsh not just...
A. 7 November 2007: Some girls prefer short guys, some prefer tall guys, some like them skinny, some like their blokes cuddly! Basically at the end of the day it depends on what kind of person you are. Looks may play a part in getting you noticed, but the appeal won't ... (read in full...)
Broken hearted now we have moved so far apart...
Q. What should I do? I lived in a place down the South of England and I had my first ever boyfriend which means so much to me, but my dad got a new job and so we've moved way up to the North and now he's about 4 hours away from me. I miss him so much ...
A. 5 November 2007: How does your boyfriend feel about your move?
If he's equally upset, keep in touch by writing to each other, phoning,emailing. Nowadays it's so easy to keep in touch and distance is no longer an issue. 4 hours is no distance if you love each othe... (read in full...)
Are women better than men in life?
Q. If this world is heading towards being more female, then what is the point for a guy to try to do anything in life. It doesn't help when your mum says us women are better than you lot at evrything. I've tried to prove her wrong but I've failed i...
A. 5 November 2007: Men and women are very different in many ways but certainly one is not "better" than the other. It's very sad that your mother is so bitter from her own experiences that she's passing her negative emotions on to you. The fantastic thing about men ... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but am I just a booty call to him?
Q. How do I know if this guy is into me? I have been seeing/dating this guy since August. We have been intimate sexually with each other. For him to contact me, I have to text him. If I dont text him, he doesnt contact me nor call me. If I send hi...
A. 5 November 2007: It doesn't sound to me like he's into you much. It's not a good sign that you are doing all the running. Why don't you hold off contacting him and see what happens? If anything that would give him the message that you're not there at his beck and ... (read in full...)
Reading body language - does he like me? I already told him I like him more than a friend!
Q. If a guy does these things: - folds his arms, often/contantly - is very quiet/shy suddenly when around you - laughs nervously - won't look me in the eye/avoids eye contact - looks uncomfortable - smiles slightly to himself, and looks downwards ...
A. 1 November 2007: Hmmm
I'm not convinced! A guy who folds his arms often creates a barrier instinctively between himself and the person who feels uncomfortable with, add to that the fact he avoids eye contact would indicate he feels uncomfortable with you. Now this... (read in full...)
How do I focus on my marriage, when I still think about the man I couldn't date as he was my brother's best friend?
Q. I have beening carrying a flame for my brother best friend for a long time, I was his 1st but we never dated because of my brother, we had a fling for a while without him know and hooked up again, I am now married for one year, but I think of him a ...
A. 28 October 2007: Hmmm, difficult one. I guess the question is do you love your husband? Did you get married for the right reasons? If yes, then definitely you need to clear your mind of this other bloke and focus on your marriage. If no, this longing will take over ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying a relationship with someone that wasn't ready 5 yrs ago?
Q. Once again I've sabotaged what could have been a potential relationship with a man I still have strong feelings for! I'm a fairly confident woman around men, but as soon as I'm attracted to someone and I develop feelings for them, I turn into one of ...
A. 11 October 2007: Thanks for the link baby duck. I've vowed not to go anywhere near R until I can say with certainty that I want him but do not need him! Should things work out, this is one relationship I want to nurture and not screw up.
Tommy, I am married but it h... (read in full...)
I used to be such a strong willed person and this situation is just draining me.
Q. I've been having the worst time of my life over the past year. I was made redundant last July 06 and haven't found a permanent job yet! I've just finished a 6 month fixed term job; had 4 interviews last months and still no job. I'm also in the ...
A. 17 August 2007: I'm in a very similar situation to you. Over the last 5 years I have changed and become someone I don't like very much. If I'm really honest with myself it's because I'm in a marriage that I'm not strong enough to end. You are clearly unhappy in ... (read in full...)
I'm at my wits end over this... WHO DO I CHOOSE???
Q. My marriage of 12 years broke down and as soon as I was financially stable enough I moved out to give our relationship complete space. I had never lived on my own before and found it quite a struggle emotionally. I met up with my husband once a ...
A. 16 August 2007: You say that your marriage broke down and I wonder if you and your husband have spoken about and dealt with what caused the breakdown in the first place.
While you still have emotions for your husband, I think it would be a huge mistake to reloc... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage and involved with a neighbour.. what should I do?
Q. I married my best friend in 1996. Although physical attraction was not a priority for me, I do love this man as he's good and kind.We do not have children. We probably would have plodded on had I not met a man 15 years older who happens to live in ...
A. 13 August 2007: You're very right C, and I need distance from this situation which is very unhealthy and I need to get perspective! We're moving away soon to another county and selling our house. Although for me this will be extremely traumatic, I also see this as ... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage and involved with a neighbour.. what should I do?
Q. I married my best friend in 1996. Although physical attraction was not a priority for me, I do love this man as he's good and kind.We do not have children. We probably would have plodded on had I not met a man 15 years older who happens to live in ...
A. 13 August 2007: C, thanks for your response ;-)
R is indeed a special man and the very things that hurt me are the things I respect about him!
When we first met and my feelings started to grow I certainly wasn't looking for anyone to "save" me but the situatio... (read in full...)
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