She wont show me love, what can I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years in May with a girl i love with all my heart. She used to put everything she had into our relationship and i mean anything but we almost broke up and i moved to California but then we started talking again ...
A. 17 February 2010: The only way you can really make her show her love to you is to get her all on-her-mind-24-hours-a-day in love again with you. Maybe she's just used to being couple. Ruffle things up a bit, show some chemistry again. If you two are definitly worth ... (read in full...)
Why is everything I'm doing to make myself happier always so stupid?
Q. What is this indicating for my future? My boyfriend of over three years and I have been discussing marriage and babies for about a year now. And every time I tell him I want to work as well to bring in a second income and have only two or three ...
A. 3 February 2010: Well maybe your boyfriend is being stupid. He shouldn't call you that. If he's the only one that says it, then you shouldn't believe it even once. It's when everyone says it that you'll have a problem. Start shooting it back at him, see if he likes ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 3 February 2010: personally I don't have any problems with black women, I see the same things in them as any other woman. I couldn't tell you what's wrong but I can tell you that I don't think that way which says that there are definitly people who you have a shot ... (read in full...)
Will he ever wake up again...?
Q. Hey i wrote a question a while ago about my ex boyfriend sean. he has had his operation on his head but it didn`t go too well and he is in a coma and has been for a week or two will he ever wake up again ?...
A. 3 February 2010: we can't tell, it's all just a wait-and-see game... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I am going to ask out the girl that turned him down?
Q. There's a girl that my best m8 asked out and she said no but he still has fellings for her but me and this girl have been getting on really well and today she told me that if I ask her out she will say yes do I tell my friend about me asking her out ...
A. 3 February 2010: Yes, it will be a lot better if you let him know what you are going to do and try and be as respectful as possible about it. Let him know what you really feel and let him make up his mind. Convince him it's for the best :)... (read in full...)
She wont show me love, what can I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 2 years in May with a girl i love with all my heart. She used to put everything she had into our relationship and i mean anything but we almost broke up and i moved to California but then we started talking again ...
A. 3 February 2010: from what you've described, you haven't done anything wrong but hey maybe it's something else that's wrong... maybe it's your girl who has the problem... who knows? I once tried to convince my girl to get better friends and not start doing drugs too ... (read in full...)
I can tell her anything by text, but when she calls me I freak out.
Q. I have a problem. I have been talking to this girl that I REALLY like by texting but when she calls me I freak out and I get quiet so why when I am texting her I feel like I can tell her anything then she calls and I cant seem to say anything to ...
A. 3 February 2010: it's because your self esteem is not high enough... (read in full...)
When we make love, he does all the work.
Q. ok i have this boy problem an its about makin love.... ive done it but hes always the worker i don't do anything how do i move or.........
A. 28 January 2010: I'm answering to your first reply:
Years from now, after you finish highschool or maybe even while still on school, you both might change, become very different people and grow apart. You'll feel very different about each other than you do now beca... (read in full...)
My good friend is sick and is taking out her mood on me?
Q. I think i have done the wrong thing with a friend and am afraid of how she thinks of me now. sorry its long.. My good friend ( friend only!) is sick at the moment with headaches and back pain, she sleeps a lot and isnt able to work much,...
A. 27 January 2010: You haven't done anything wrong at all. It's only the way she must be when she's not feeling well. The fact that you only now realised makes me think you didn't notice this side from her before? I think that means she'll be the way you usually know ... (read in full...)
What kind of fetish is this?
Q. When I am doing anything sexual, I have found that animalistic things turn me on. For example, i wear a cat collar with a bell around my wrist, and my boyfriend wears a dog choker collar loosely around his neck, like a chain necklace. I'll use the ...
A. 26 January 2010: I think you just like it WILD :D... (read in full...)
2 guys! What do I do?
Q. well i liked a guy and he really likedmeback but i still had a little bit feelings for another guy but now the othe ne won't talk to me because i am aing his friend i feel horrible what should ido cupid and the obne already asked meon a date ... ...
A. 26 January 2010: choose the one who deserves you best and makes your heart beats fastest... (read in full...)
Things get complicated when we're in all the same classes...
Q. So, I moved to the UK in September to go to university, currently working through a Master's Degree, and I met a guy in one of my classes, and sooner than I realized we became very, very close and are practically best friends. Thing is, I have ...
A. 25 January 2010: You might have lost your 'best' friend but he'll still be your friend. You may not be too close anymore but he'll stick up for you when it comes down to it. Just accept it, it's for the best, make new friends, respect his decision and let him know ... (read in full...)
Is it true that love can grow?
Q. Met this girl at school in October. She came off a bad break up with her "first love" in July and took it really hard as lots of promises were given and what not. He broke up with her. They fought alot, etc. All in all he was insecure so I think ...
A. 25 January 2010: love CAN grow, look on tv! couples grow in love all the time, it's based on what people really want. People will amaze you any time for the rest of your life and love will evolve and grow every time you step into it. You have a right to be worried ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend liking big breasts makes me insecure.
Q. I'm a 20 yrs old, and have been with my boyfriend for only 2 months... hes a lovely boy, but ive noticed he only really seems to find big breasted women attractive.. he mentions other womens breasts a lot, and it annoys me because im quite small up ...
A. 25 January 2010: You're beautiful the way you are. Simple as that. Your body has nothing wrong. He just seems to fall for a simple physical trait. Nothing you can do about it. I'd definitely disadvise trying to have bigger breasts because it simple isn't the way. He ... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to approach him. What should I do/
Q. There is a senior i like so much. I use to say hey to him at the begining at the year but i stoped after like 2 weeks cuz he didnt say anything back. Well for the last couple of weeks everytime i walk past him i see him looking at me. I never talk ...
A. 25 January 2010: Bump into him and help him pick up the books he dropped or spill coffee on him, simple old tricks :D any face to face time you can get with him will do. He won't remember you if he doesn't get to talk to you even if it's just for a 15 second moment ... (read in full...)
Lapse of judgement or liar
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for about a year. He recently moved in to my house. He tends to be a bit odd he has been cheated on and so- he tends to peek thru my phone and I don't mind because I have done nothing wrong. I had anouther ...
A. 25 January 2010: Everybody has issues, the best way to deal with them is to have all your cards in the open, that means both of you. Convince him to be completely honest in a good way and do it by showing him you are doing the same. Do and say all that needs to be ... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him and now I feel foolish
Q. He and I have been dating for 4 months, but known each other for 5 years. We actually dated for a year, but remained friends all this time. On wednesday while we were out to dinner, I told him that I love him. He didnt say it back, but he said ...
A. 25 January 2010: Love doesn't have to be said, he'll say it when he's ready. If his eyes show it to you, then that'll be enough. Wait. Be patient for him to say it because one day he might and it will be tons more romantic and he will as long as his eyes show you ... (read in full...)
When we make love, he does all the work.
Q. ok i have this boy problem an its about makin love.... ive done it but hes always the worker i don't do anything how do i move or.........
A. 25 January 2010: you're 13-15 years old, you're not supposed to be doing that good yet. Connect with each other in another way. Love is more important than sex will ever be.... (read in full...)
Should I worry that I'm gonna get dropped soon?
Q. hi, my gf's ex bf emailed me today, something thats kinda irratated me, i dont approve of my gf's actions regarding her ex on this one, well not alot of her actions with him i really like... i havent talked to her about it because shes accused me ...
A. 25 January 2010: If she wants fun, she'll go to her ex, if she wants love, she'll come to you. Let her make the choice. Let her know you'll love her truly (if you really will) and let her make the choice once and for all because what happens now is not healthy and ... (read in full...)
Breaking up after 7 years, but none of his reasons are true..
Q. I need help, my life has just gone down the drain. my boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years,living together for 6 and half., I am 24 his 29. we had a huge fight over the weekend, he has now started clearing out his stuff, I asked ...
A. 25 January 2010: First of all, your life has NOT gone down the drain
You are a beautiful young person that needs to evolve and tinker with herself a little.
Basschick's response is completely right.
A big problem is that you've been with him since you probably lef... (read in full...)
Any tips on making friends?
Q. So my problem is I can't make friends. I mean I hang out with a group of people at school but we don't talk outside of school or anything and so it feels like I have no friends. I am in clubs and stuff but I can't seem to make friends. I've lived in ...
A. 25 January 2010: Just be patient and it will come by itself. Build yourself up to a really great person, try to be wonderful to hang around with and don't be a jackass. At some point you'll have made a great friend and you won't even know it yet. Have some great ho... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to know..why do I want to have a baby?
Q. I am fifteen(10th grade) and I want to be pregnant. Plz don't say I'm stupid cuz I'm not going to become pregnant I just want to know why I feel this way. My bf and I are very serious, like engaged serious, we are sexually active and everything and ...
A. 25 January 2010: It's mainly because you're a girl who wants to grow up fast. You should remember you should only have fun at your age now. Keep the baby ideas for later, like 4 years from now, after finishing school more importantly and when you’re mentally mature ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm..is something wrong with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are madly in love with eachother, and when he touches me it's the best feeling ever, but I have a problem. When he really turns me on and tries to get me to orgasm I can't do it. My whole body will shake and I just can't. Is ...
A. 25 January 2010: I dont know, maybe it's something physical or it's something mental. If physical, ask a doctor. If mental, ask yourself what you're thinking or feeling, REALLY thinking or feeling.... (read in full...)
Should I let her back in my life?
Q. Hey. Heres the story... I have a friend lets call her *K* and we have been really close for just over 4 years. In september we moved up to college, and she was doing a diploma and i was doing A-levels. We didnt see each other as often but we still ...
A. 22 January 2010: I'd forgive her, I'll never say it will be easy but it will be worth it. Forgive her but help her too. Get her out of the bad circle she's in. I don't know if she'll want to, but it'll just have to be great timing. Be there at the times she'll need ... (read in full...)
I really want the old her back so damn bad...
Q. Me and my girl have been together for a year now, and back when we were on our third month, i kinda kissed her best friend for a sec. when she found out, she was of course devastated and hurt, and didnt wanna talk to neither one us at the time. then ...
A. 22 January 2010: She's evolved, she's learned, she's going to be this person without you or not. Learn to love her for who she is or it won't work out. Maybe she has the same thought about you. The mistakes you've done is not something she believed you'd be able to ... (read in full...)
What does he mean when he says I'm in trouble?
Q. I made a silly mistake of having a one week affair with a man on my job. He was the cutest thing I had ever seen. I just wanted to sleep with him and nothing more-especially since he is married 33 yrs. I heard he was a play boy and run through ...
A. 21 January 2010: You'll know when you're in trouble when you actually see it or feel it but just by him telling you that, it doesn't mean you are actually in trouble. Ignore it or confront him where he can't ignore you and if his answer is crap than he must be full ... (read in full...)
My long distance relationship girlfriend doesn't want to share he problems with me.
Q. Hi there, so me and my gf have been in a Long distance relationship for about a month and 18 days now, but recently something really strange happened last week. I called and texed her but she didn't reply or call back (which she usually does). i...
A. 20 January 2010: Maybe she just can't talk about anything about it. Simple as that. I think the best thing you can do is be an understanding boyfriend and give her the time she needs to get back on her feet herself. Time is all it will take from you. You're not to ... (read in full...)
Should I speak to him?
Q. i just found out my first bf i havent dated anyone since because of trust issues he lied. and said we slept together when we didnt. its been over a year since i have spoken to him. im completely over him. a mutual friend jus told me his mother died ...
A. 20 January 2010: Ok, I know it's hard, believe me I feel the same about an ex of mine. But in the end I think that forgiving her would be the best thing for me to move on myself and then I pictured my whole time with her again and tried to find out if I could ... (read in full...)
Should I speak to him?
Q. i just found out my first bf i havent dated anyone since because of trust issues he lied. and said we slept together when we didnt. its been over a year since i have spoken to him. im completely over him. a mutual friend jus told me his mother died ...
A. 20 January 2010: It couldn't hurt, eh
It's simply the way you'll do it that will decide the outcome. Maybe put a little heart in it. Careful that you don't get wrapped up in his life again huh because if he really was a bad bf it wouldn't be good if he cont... (read in full...)
Where do you go to meet nice guys?
Q. I've been single for a while now and so I'm curious about where you would go to meet nice guys? I'm not interested in anyone I work with and I've been going to a few language and dance night classes lately but I haven't met anyone I click with. I've ...
A. 20 January 2010: Oh, you just find them anywhere, you just have to be patient and stumble upon some of them here and there to finally find one that makes your heart really beat faster. The way you continue from there is just being smart ;)
You don't need to flir... (read in full...)
Is it possible to leave everything behind and start a new life?
Q. hi i have a very honest question to ask you and would like some honest opinions! i am a 21 year old girl, quite pretty with a pleasant,gentle and unique personality! at this point in my life i should be brimming with excitement, boys and nig...
A. 20 January 2010: I think you’re brave because I really truly feel what you’re going through and it’s hard to deal with. I barely hold on not letting anyone see and it’s become automatic and it’s killing me.
I'm just going to answer two simple honest things: ... (read in full...)
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