Neither of us is ready for parenting, so why do I keep thinking about having his child?
Q. Before I begin, I would really love it if nobody judged me or made fun of me. Because I know my feelings are wrong but I just want to know what is making me feel this way. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 21. We've been dating for almost 8 months ...
A. 20 August 2014: It's very common to have these feelings. You are still essentially a child yourself; I'm 19 and I feel like a "child" still, but I take on a few adult responsibilities to progress into adulthood. Maybe if you took on one or two adult ... (read in full...)
Can I still pull it off with my childish underwear?
Q. I've never been sexually active with someone else before and never saw a need to impress. I'm having sex soon and don't know if my cotton polka dotted panties and plain bras will pull off the seductive look. I'm low on cash so can't go buying ...
A. 20 August 2014: Forgot to say, if he's not your boyfriend, but he is a good guy, he won't care.
Make sure you use condoms AND birth control! Stay safe and make sure you trust him to be gentle (tell him) first.... (read in full...)
Can I still pull it off with my childish underwear?
Q. I've never been sexually active with someone else before and never saw a need to impress. I'm having sex soon and don't know if my cotton polka dotted panties and plain bras will pull off the seductive look. I'm low on cash so can't go buying ...
A. 20 August 2014: He shouldn't care because you won't be wearing it long. If he's a good boyfriend, he won't mind. If he's not your boyfriend or if he's a dodgy boyfriend, he will mind and you can dump him because he's not worth it.... (read in full...)
Why do people have issues with adoption?
Q. I grew up in a household that was very strict and very religious. When my school taught sex-ed, they separated the boys from the girls in grades 6-12. Now, that makes sense because when you're young, puberty is scary and embarrassing and you're more ...
A. 19 August 2014: My answer is going to be short. In a way, I agree with Cerberus; it's frustrates me that so many women (not the majority, but a lot of women) use abortion and adoption as birth control. I am going to adopt, so I do see the benefit in the option, BUT ... (read in full...)
I want to take up playing the drums like my dad but my mom will refuse because dad wasn't really the best role model for us. What do I do?
Q. This is an unusual question but- I'm a 15 year old girl and I want to take up playing the drums. I've been thinking about this for a while so it's not a 'spur of the moment ' thing. The only problem is that my dad is a professional drummer and he ...
A. 19 August 2014: I hope you don't blame your mother for cutting all ties with your father after everything it included?
See if there's a free drum club or something that you can join. Or wait until you move out for uni and get a drum kit that you can plug headphon... (read in full...)
Momma's boy's Momma found my panties!
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I recently spent a couple days at his place. He's a bit of a mommas boy so of course his mom goes over to clean his apartment and finds my underwear in his sheets. I'm completely mortified! ...
A. 17 August 2014: She knows you're a young woman and he's a young man, she won't be surprised.
Though, you should consider if you want to be with a man who acts like a boy by not cleaning up after himself, and will need a replacement mother - a.k.a you - if you m... (read in full...)
Crushes on a friend and a cousin
Q. I am bisexual and have a very strong crush on one of my girl friends, S. However, if that isnt bad enough, I have recently developed a crush on my male cousin A. I know that S will hate me for loveing her, but i have reason to suspect that A reterns ...
A. 17 August 2014: As said, crushes on cousins are normal, but do NOT act on it because it will cause MAJOR problems in your family and that is NOT fair to do to them all. Do NOT flirt any more even if he does! It's okay to have the crush, but stop acting on it, ... (read in full...)
We've been together seven years and I'm ready to start a life away from our parents, but he wants to wait
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together 7 years. We started dating in high school so of course back then we weren't thinking about marriage and children. I have always wanted to wait anyways until I was done with school (college too) and had a good ...
A. 16 August 2014: You wanted to wait until you had a great job, now it would seem that he wants to wait until his business is stable. You wanted the same thing, his is just taking longer than yours did.
You also said you could afford your own place and you wrote it... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated and got another girl pregnant but I still love him
Q. my boyfriend made another facebook account hidden from me and the cover photo was a picture with this girl whom i do not know. i accidentally saw their pictures on july 2 2014 and i confronted him but he said that its not what i think thats why i ...
A. 16 August 2014: I think you're over complicating this. Answer these questions:
Do you want to be with him?
You can't test him, you have to either trust him or not. Do you trust him still?
If you forgive him, you have to start fresh like it never happened. ... (read in full...)
Can you cheat in an open relationship?
Q. So I've been in a long term relationship with my partner for the past 9 years. We talk about having children one day and getting married and we already own a home together. We have an extremely happy and healthy relationship and are very open and ...
A. 14 August 2014: It would be cheating. What you haven't acknowledged here is that he persuaded/manipulated you into accepting his desires to cheat and make them okay in your relationship - as long as YOU don't have the same options to "stray". So, forget about the ... (read in full...)
I did not just expect him to pay for his share only! Is this a sign of cheapness?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a month and a half. This past weekend we went on a mini weekend trip with another couple. The other couple had bought all the food for the trip and paid for the accommodations and at the end they were going to let us ...
A. 14 August 2014: He's barely your boyfriend, so you should know that paying for a trip is a LOT different than paying for your meal.... (read in full...)
Have I been over-thinking the issues surrounding bringing a dog into our new home?
Q. I really need some advice. This is something I'm getting all OCD about! For my entire life, I have always wanted a dog. My partner and I have a brand new home, we're yet to have children and it just seems like a good time to bring that speci...
A. 4 August 2014: Ultimately, going to a reputable rescue centre, they will do extensive checks, tell you as much as they know about the dog, even recommend a professional dog trainer, if you ask. You never give a dog OR puppy the run of the house before you can t... (read in full...)
Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person?
Q. Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person? My husband barely makes enough to support us. We don't even have children. We have talked about adoption in the future when we are better off. We're in our mid twenties. I ofte...
A. 8 July 2014: I could talk to you about this more in depth as I think I could relate a lot, but you don't have your name available. I don't necessarily think you're spoilt, but I DO think you have issues you NEED to work on because going to work is not optional ... (read in full...)
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