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I'm 30, how do I get a boyfriend??

Q.   Hi there This may seem like a completely stupid question, but how do I get a boyfriend?!!!!! I can't believe I'm asking this! I'm 30 years old! Basically I've had 1 serious relationship which ended several years ago (not too badly) and si...

A.   10 January 2009: Thanks for all your advice, guess I'm just a bit lacking in self confidence at the moment, I know a guy is out there for me, it just gets a bit depressing when all my friends meet people and I don't!... (read in full...)

My ex wants no strings sex but I have feelings for her, help?

Q.   im so confused my girlfriend and i broke up 3 months ago then she just wanted to be friends i found this hard still love her she now wants to have sex with me but with no strings she said she still has feelings for me but doesnt want to get back ...

A.   16 December 2008: Don't say you'll never get close again! When you've had a chance to get over it (will take time) there will be someone else. And she will be worth it. Relationships are never easy and just because you've been hurt this time doesn't mean you will ... (read in full...)

Am I just kidding myself over this guy?

Q.   ok i have already posted this question. but i think i jumped around too much so i'll start from the begining. could get boring see this guy whom is 27, and i also work with him.it all started out innocent we flirted and joked at work with each ...

A.   16 December 2008: Seriously, you need to move on and forget about him. You're like me, sitting around waiting for the bloke to call the shots. You don't want to give up on him, but maybe you're deluding yourself. You want to give him more time, but how long? You ... (read in full...)

Am I just kidding myself over this guy?

Q.   ok i have already posted this question. but i think i jumped around too much so i'll start from the begining. could get boring see this guy whom is 27, and i also work with him.it all started out innocent we flirted and joked at work with each ...

A.   14 December 2008: I've been in similar situations so many times. LAst year I was kind of involved with a bloke thru work (he wasn't local so didn't really see him - just lots of phone calls and texts) The amount of times he said he fancied me, wanted to be with me, ... (read in full...)

Why did he suddenly decide to wipe me out of his life?

Q.   I asked a question on here about a week ago about a FWB relationship that I was in. Everyone was very helpful, but things have now changed and I would really appreciate a blokes point of view. The guy in question is away a lot so only really saw ...

A.   14 December 2008: I guess I'm just really hurting at the moment. Not sure if it's because of him or because it's another rejection. I'm actually terrified about seeing him again, which I probably will next week. I think he's going to be back round here for xmas and ... (read in full...)

My ex wants no strings sex but I have feelings for her, help?

Q.   im so confused my girlfriend and i broke up 3 months ago then she just wanted to be friends i found this hard still love her she now wants to have sex with me but with no strings she said she still has feelings for me but doesnt want to get back ...

A.   14 December 2008: Same thing happened to me a few years ago. We broke up (he liked someone else but didn't happen) then we started by hugging, then kissing, then sex. We did get back together but ended up breaking up again 6 months later. Coming out of a ... (read in full...)

Confusing FWB relationship with my boss

Q.   Hey frnds Please help me out! I have been in FWB relationship for 2 years with my married boss. He is very handsome, sexy and intelligent.WE are engaged in oral sex only. I love him very much, but he clearly says that he don't want emotional bond. ...

A.   14 December 2008: Ignoring that he's married, he's your boss! I was in a FWB with my boss for a bit, and I really liked him too and wanted more - didn't happen. Luckily no one at work found out about it, but when things didn't work out I found it really hard to be ... (read in full...)

Why did he suddenly decide to wipe me out of his life?

Q.   I asked a question on here about a week ago about a FWB relationship that I was in. Everyone was very helpful, but things have now changed and I would really appreciate a blokes point of view. The guy in question is away a lot so only really saw ...

A.   14 December 2008: Thank you all for your comments. I know exactly where you're coming from and if it was someone else saying this I'd be saying exactly the same! It's just difficult, I just want to find someone! I really did think that it could lead somewhere, I ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant or is my period just disrupted?

Q.   Hi, I am going through the same situation... I am 23 years old. I always get my period 4-5 days earlier than the last one. I had sex 2 weeks after my period for the first time. I did bleed a lot, and we had it again the next day... I started...

A.   13 December 2008: Do a pregnancy test and if it's negative and keeps happening - go to the doctors and get it cheked out! It's probbaly nothing but it's better to put your mind at rest.... (read in full...)

Does he really care, or is it just lust?

Q.   If a guy gets hard almost every time he spends time with you and hugs you, does it mean that he's only driven by lust? I have known this guy for over a year, and we have only recently started touching, I haven't kissed him yet, but will soon. ...

A.   13 December 2008: It's arousal. He obviously finds you attractive. You've known him a long time and he's going at your pace, what's the problem? If it was just lust he'd probably have tried to push you a bit further by now!... (read in full...)

She's ignoring me so should I forget about her?

Q.   My friend of over 6 months is completely ignoring me. It was a complicated relationship but to get to the point, we both knew we loved each other and she had to clear some things from her past in order for her to move on with me, so I gave her ...

A.   13 December 2008: Sorry to be hard but if she loves you, she wouldn't be doing this. Tell her either you sit down & talk things through and get together properly and help her through the stuff or she just leaves you alone to get on with your life. It's not fair on ... (read in full...)

Why did he suddenly decide to wipe me out of his life?

Q.   I asked a question on here about a week ago about a FWB relationship that I was in. Everyone was very helpful, but things have now changed and I would really appreciate a blokes point of view. The guy in question is away a lot so only really saw ...

A.   13 December 2008: Thanks but you're wrong, I know his friend did die and he's borrowed money before and always paid me back!... (read in full...)

We're friends who have sex, but are we really friends?

Q.   Yet again I find myself let down. Story of my life really. I seem to meet blokes who constantly lie to me and use me. Anyway point of this question is that I met a guy a few months ago, who I really like - I think he's totally amazing! He lives ...

A.   6 December 2008: Thanks for all your comments. It's just difficult, cos we have spent a lot of time talking as well. I know what I want to believe, and I know that I shouldn't and should just cut my losses and get out. Only thing is that it is a small town whe... (read in full...)

We're friends who have sex, but are we really friends?

Q.   Yet again I find myself let down. Story of my life really. I seem to meet blokes who constantly lie to me and use me. Anyway point of this question is that I met a guy a few months ago, who I really like - I think he's totally amazing! He lives ...

A.   6 December 2008: I know what you're saying. But I suppose I'm just hurt because we were getting on well then suddenly nothing! I know he was busy, but how long does it take to send a text saying "I'm ok, really busy at moment will speak soon"? I just don't get ... (read in full...)

Pro's and Con's of being friends with benefits for a guy who's never had a girlfriend...

Q.   I have read lot about FWB( Freinds with benefit) Relationship. Some are having it with one, Some are simultaneously having it with 2-3 partners. Some are involved in it premarital, some are inovolved in it after being married also. I am 20Y old....

A.   6 December 2008: Depends what you want! If you can handle sleeping with a guy where you have no say over what else he does great! I've been there, if you fall for the guy or get emotiionally attached chances are you're gonna get hurt! You've said you have no ... (read in full...)

Do I date my male manager or female co-worker?

Q.   Dear Cupid Members, I need some killer advice... I am 19m and I am bisexual. I have a crush on my manager he is a sweet caring guy and we flirt all the time, but I dont know what his sexuality is he found out I thought he maybe gay, and h...

A.   6 December 2008: Just want to say that it's never a good idea getting involved with your boss! Particularly if he's still in the closet! If it doesn't work it can cause problems at work for both of you. And if you like him more that the female, maybe you should ... (read in full...)

What if she takes it the wrong way?

Q.   Ok, well, i slept with a friend of mine, that i havent known for all that long, guys have used her in the past for sex but we got drunk, 1 thing led to another, and yea. But i genuinly like her, what happened happened i cant do anything about that, ...

A.   10 November 2007: Tell her how you feel and ask her out. Even if she thinks you're only after sex once you've been out a few times she'll know that you're not.... (read in full...)

How do I get true love?

Q.   thank you. dear Andrew. i am betty from ethiopia. i am 19 years single pretty girl.now i need true love.i need help....

A.   10 November 2007: I think everyone wants someone they can love and be loved by in return, but you can't make it happen. All you can do is enjoy your life and you'll find him, it may not happen straight away but he will be out there somewhere. Just be patient.... (read in full...)

It's difficult to leave, hot to save myself?

Q.   hie how do you let go of a guy who you know is just using you but does not love you who wants sex from you only but you want more from him, i have tried leaving such a guy but its been difficult.how do i save myself?...

A.   10 November 2007: Been there - it's so hard to break away, especially when everytime he calls you go running, you're probably thinking this time things will be different and he really does want you. If you don't end things on your terms now, he will eventually meet ... (read in full...)

My friend's boyfriend is a control freak. What advice can I give her?

Q.   ok so I have a friend who has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is telling her who she can and can't talk with she likes him but he has taken it to far from telling her when she can drive and how loong she can stay out and she wants to break up with him ...

A.   8 November 2007: It's seems obvious that she should break up with him, but the question is, does she want to? It sounds like she thinks she's in love with him or maybe she is. You can encourage her to break up with him all you like but if she doesn't want to she ... (read in full...)

How can I get my friend to speak to me? Did I do something wrong?

Q.   Hi all, would like an opinion on this please. I had a firework party the other night. Inviting all the people that I care about and all my friends. The trouble is that two of them used to date, and although they are really cool about the situatio...

A.   8 November 2007: I think that it sounds like your friend is upset with you because you were with the other girl, you may have been supporting her by trying to calm the drunk girl down, but maybe she needed you to talk to her on that evening to reassure her. If she ... (read in full...)

Should I tell her that her husband is cheating?

Q.   There is this party store right by my house, and I know for a fact that the woman who runs the counter, her husband has been sleeping with this girl I know. I used to be friends with this girl, but I cut her out of my life as she's been acting ...

A.   8 November 2007: I think that if it was just cheating,I'd say to leave it and not get involved - she may be aware of it but not appreciate it been pointed out by someone else. But becuse of the herpes and possible other diseases, she should know so that she can get ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is busy all the time and doesn't have time for me, what shall I do?

Q.   I dont know what to do im gettin really depressed.. my boyfriend is ignoring me a lot lately he likes to spend time with his friends more, he was never like this before.. hes busy playing "playstation" with his friends, and going karting. i feel ...

A.   8 November 2007: Have you tried doing your own thing? If you start spending time with your friends and having less time for him it may snap him out of it or it could cause more problems. If it's not meant to be, it's not. If you spend more time with your friends ... (read in full...)

Is he for real this time? Should I take him back?

Q.   hello everyone! wow i havent asked a question on here in a while so here it goes. okay me and my ex split up about 2 weeks ago. my mom took my phone away so i didnt read any messages but hes been trying to talk to me and asking me to please talk to ...

A.   8 November 2007: You didn't say why you split up, so it's hard to give advice on this. Only you know if there is still something there I think you should talk to each other face to face discuss what went wrong and figure out if you can resolve it there's no point ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to date a younger guy?

Q.   I like this guy for long time. We have been friends for almost 4 years and i seem to have not lost interest in him. I have tried so hard to stop liking him because he is a year younger than me but it's really hard. I even dated other guys to try ...

A.   8 November 2007: A year makes no difference - my mum is a year older than my dad and they've been together over thirty years! Although age can make a difference, if your older a year means nothing and if you're in your teens the only problem you'll have is your ... (read in full...)

He went from being obsessed with me to being totally indifferent. Why?

Q.   I met a guy (who was single and wished to stay that way, due to a recent break up). Even though he knew he couldn't go out with me he text me loads, called, wanted to see me etc, basically obsessed! This continued for a month or so, then he turned ...

A.   8 November 2007: I think that maybe he's talked himself out of it. Have you asked why the change in behaviour? I he was hurt really badly, he's probably terrified of getting hurt again (men sometimes find it hard to admit this!) He may have taken a step back and ... (read in full...)

I need to end a relationship but how do I do that without the rest of the semester being horrible?

Q.   I've come to the point in a relationship where something feels... off. I can't shake off this feeling and I think I need to end the relationship. I have a class with him though, and I don't know how to break it to him without the rest of the ...

A.   18 September 2007: I was in a similar situation a few years back, he'd broken up with me so I had no choice, I wasn't going to let my education suffer because of it. In the class we had together, I sat away from him with other people I knew and tried to make the ... (read in full...)

Want to lose weight by not eating.

Q.   Ok well i'm 14 and i want to loose weight as im 9 stone which is like pretty bad for my age i'm fat really..i wanna loose weight by not eatin..but i wanna know what will happen to my boobs? will they shrink?? please answer thanks xxx...

A.   14 September 2007: When I was twelve I was a size 14 and I didn't start losing weight until I was about 15, when I went down to a size 10. At this time I'd just turned veggie but I certainly wasn't not eating. Since then my size has fluctuated a lot (smallest size 8, ... (read in full...)

It's been 2 months since our break-up, but my feelings for him just keep getting stronger!

Q.   Hi, im 15 and have just come out of a seriouse relationship it has been two months now and i am still not over him. i like him more than ever Is he the one?...

A.   14 September 2007: Sorry if i sound patronising, but you are still young and it's very unlikely that he is the one. When I was about 15 (and 18 and 23 and 27) I went through the same feelings. You will know when you meet the one - he is out there, to move on all you ... (read in full...)

I always have to be right and my bf just agrees to avoid arguments. How can I stop this behavior??

Q.   hi i have a problem that is going to soon end my current relationship(its partly the reason my other relationship ended), my boyfriend brought a subject up last night which he told me that i "also have to be right" and that he just agrees with me ...

A.   14 September 2007: I totally sympathize - I always have to be right as well, and I know how frustrating it is in a relationship. All I can say is that in some circumstances you have to learn to bite your tounge! And if he is wrong - don't say that you knew better. If ... (read in full...)

My bf of 2 months told me to F%*K off in front of his friends and I left the bar in tears! Should I move on?

Q.   I had a row with my bf last nite (we have been together only 2 months) and it was over nothing - mostly my fault. But when I tried to apologise he told me to F%*K off in front of his friends and I left the bar in tears. Usually when we argue I ...

A.   14 September 2007: You said it was mostly your fault - Why? Was it really your fault or are you just thinking that you must have done something really bad to make him react that way? Maybe he over reacted? Also you left the bar clearly upset, if he really cares for ... (read in full...)

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