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I'm a 20 something lady. In a long term LDR, bisexual but monogamous, very liberal teacher. Actually in the US.
My qualifications include my personal experiences and the many experiences of the diverse group of people I am surrounded with.
Every now and then I will post questions, in need of serious advice, so please bear with me and take good care of me, everyone. |
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I feel my best friend is being controlled by her boyfriend and I don't know what to do about it
Q. The other day I got into a little spat with my best friend who is my ex. we went out for about 7 months and ever since have been really close and we call each other super best friends or best friends plus 1. Anyways I haven't been able to see her ...
A. 30 January 2013: First off, I don't want you to be offended by this, but really ask yourself how you feel about this girl. Because to me it seems like your feelings go far beyond a friendship, and if her boyfriend is feeling this also, whether or not you or her n... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my gay friend is coming onto me! How do I stop this?
Q. I am twenty-one and straight female and I think as confusing as it is that my gay male friend likes me more than a friend. We have been friends for 5 yrs and lately he has been kissing me on my cheek and telling me he loves me more and more and ...
A. 30 January 2013: I've been kissed on the lips by one of my gay friends, but yeah, I don't think that's acceptable, whether he's gay or not. Discuss what you think is appropriate or inappropriate with him, you know, set some boundaries.
In my opinion, it sounds like... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a male friend who keeps hitting on her. How am I supposed to act?
Q. I'll try and be brief. My girlfriend met this guy (I'll say Matt) at a house party a couple of months ago - introduced to her through a friend (I'll say Chris). They met up as a group, since Chris began to take an interest with her friend. Whilst ...
A. 30 January 2013: To add to llifton's response, do your best to not feel bad if she does try to manipulate you even further by blaming it on you 'insecurities', even though anyone would feel uncomfortable and annoyed in this situation. She may also accuse you of ... (read in full...)
Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?
Q. How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...
A. 30 January 2013: If she doesn't plan to be faithful in the first place, she's no good. There shouldn't be anything that you have to do to keep her from cheating.
BUT I will recommend meeting her emotional and physical needs, spending time with her, etc. Just sati... (read in full...)
I told a friend how I feel and now she's not responding to my messages. Did I mess things up, how do I fix this?
Q. this friend i have we've met quite a few time and texted abit as well. we've always met with her friends. Then a few days ago she texted me to meet up after i had college and it was just me and her. we walked around and eventually sat down and just ...
A. 1 December 2012: Wait a few days and if she doesn't respond, it wouldn't hurt to wait a little longer and tell her that you just had to say it to get it off your chest. Tell her that you wouldn't mind staying friends with her. The worst thing you could do is talk to ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 15, nearing 16.
Q. First off, I'm well aware of the age of consent and such, and neither of us plan to have sex with each other any time soon. (Well, we haven't talked about anything sexual and I fully intend to wait until he is of age before anything like that ...
A. 1 December 2012: Oh, and please, no one make assumptions about either of our character. I just want to know the answer to that one question, given the listed circumstances. Thanks :)... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 15, nearing 16.
Q. First off, I'm well aware of the age of consent and such, and neither of us plan to have sex with each other any time soon. (Well, we haven't talked about anything sexual and I fully intend to wait until he is of age before anything like that ...
A. 1 December 2012: I've made it clear that I'm very in control and I don't intend to have sex with him since it's illegal, but thanks for the input anyway.... (read in full...)
I had a crush on my teacher. I moved away but I still want to keep in touch.
Q. So i had a crush on my science teacher but then I moved away. On the last day of school she told me to say good bye to her. Naturally I forgot but the day before I said a goodbye and gave her a hug. It's been about two weeks and i've settled into my ...
A. 1 December 2012: You really shouldn't. It sounds to me like you're just crushing on your old teacher and I'm sure it will be a passing feeling. In many states, it is illegal to friend a student on Facebook, and even though you moved away, if someone at her work wer... (read in full...)
Would you consider an internet romance to be cheating?
Q. Would it be cheating if my girlfriend went on internet and talked to some guy and they had a little romance over the internet for not a long time before i cought her. She then told me they did nothing. But I read the email and they were flirting and ...
A. 1 December 2012: Definitely cheating. Seems like if you didn't catch her she might have taken things further, so yes. Especially since she was doing these things without you knowing. If it would have been something she talked to you about and you explicitly ... (read in full...)
I desperatly need help from the male readers to understand my husbands behaviour.
Q. I desperatly need help from the male readers to understand my husbands behaviour. We have a very active,loving(sometimes wild!) and happy sex life. So what does it tell me, if he sometimes has to sit down at the computer watching porn to please h...
A. 1 December 2012: I'm not a male, but I think you should just ask him about it. It could be a problem, but it could also be a number of other small things. It sounds to me like maybe he's just trying not to bother you with more sex. Some women find it hard to ... (read in full...)
What's best? My friends say "give him the shove" but I have a major crush on him.
Q. A lad and I who i work with having been seeing each other for a few weeks, just sex nothing serious. I fancied him from the second i met him ( 7 months ago ) but he was with his ex. We flirted a lot till i found out he had a girlfriend f...
A. 1 December 2012: Simple. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, more than sex, it will be. If he insists on only sex, let him go. If you have feelings for him, things will only get more complicated with time. If sex isn't enough for you, but it's all he's ... (read in full...)
Do I need to stop flirting with female friends?
Q. Hello, i am feeling guilty because i talk to a girl online through facebook, skype and sometimes over xbox live and i think she likes me where as i just flirt because i like it. i do not mean to sound bad here but i do not find her at all physically ...
A. 1 December 2012: If you don't intend to date her, don't flirt. Put yourself in her place. What if someone you liked flirted with you all the time but didn't want to date you? In flirting with her, you really are playing with her emotions. If you keep it up, she may ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm in love with a man and I'm in love with my professor who is a woman.
Q. I have a situation. I am in love with two people. The big thing here is: I am in a relationship with a man and we have been together for a year now. The other person I am in love with is another woman. She is a professor at my school. She is...
A. 30 November 2012: I think it would be best to wait this one out. First off, it is very bad for a professor to have a relationship with their student, or at least an intimate one. Secondly, this could just be a passing feeling as far as it goes with her. I'm also bis... (read in full...)
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