Confused - recent ex-girlfriend who I still love is sending very mixed messages. Help please!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts! :) My ex and I are both 24, she's 25 in November. My now ex-girlfriend of 2 years 5 months dumped me a week ago after a very unfortunate situation. I yelled at her whilst under immense stress, left her house, and didn't answer...
A. 28 October 2012: HI
A couple of things you have said concern me..1 having SEX. if you really love someone most people would term that as making love. and 2 you mention premium seats which leads me to believe your more concerned about how much the seating ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can you be in love with someone you have never seen???
Q. Hi I really need some advice. I have been talkin to a guy over the phone for 4 months. I know him since over a year since we used to Facebook chat regularly. I'm 18 and he is 25. Our families know each other very well and are practically fami...
A. 28 October 2012: Aunt honesty has pretty much said all really. I know you must be feeling more than besides yourself right now, but you have to let this one go and move on. I think it's a case of what will be will be. He gets the attention from you via text or email ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I've lost myself . I love him but I've changed. how do I tell him I need "time out" without hurting him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years. We love each other and all, but we've broken up and made up numerous times. I feel I've changed drastically from being the fun girl to being the obsessed girlfriend. I feel as if I...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
Yes please do keep me posted, and i'm sure it will all work out for the best. Just remember YOU have to be happy for you both to be happy and vice verser.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
Help me make a list of everything I need to take with me!
Q. I'm really looking forward to tomorrow. About mid afternoon I am meeting up with my boyfriend and going for a walk around a local park. Then we are going back to his house to get ready to go out to a mutual friend's birthday party, I will be ...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
all of the above but I would also take my hair dryer and straightners just incase! and Condoms if your active he may have ran out.
Take a spar outfit just incas last minute change of mind, you want to be comfortable with what your wearing... (read in full...)
My due date is soon. I'm really scared. So how can I get this fear under control?
Q. When my mum had my youngest sister 6 years ago she had really bad complications in pregnancy (eclampsia) She ended up really sick and to be honest it frightend me to bits as being 18 at the time, the memory is very fresh. I'm now expecting my...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
Firstly I would like to say no pregnancy's are the same. I have 3 children and each one was different. All new mothers are scared of their first born, as you don't know what to expect, only by hearsay or videos or info from your Dr. I really... (read in full...)
How can I move on from my very loved ex? We broke up because he could not commit
Q. Hi there, Me and my newly ex boyfriend broke up a week ago because he decided he didn't have enough time in his life to commit so me and engage in a serious relationship that I really wanted, so we ended. We are still very much caring about eac...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
it's always going to be hard when ending a relationship, but it's even harder when you both end on good terms because there is nothing to get angry at, or point the blame towards. The only way your going to get through this quicker is compl... (read in full...)
He did things with three different girls, but only told me there was two. Should I trust him?
Q. I got back with my boyfriend two months ago after breaking up with him due to are relationship just being a real mess. We broke up for about a month before getting back together but during that month we both made mistakes and just moved on too quic...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
Firstly I feel you are so very young to have slept with his cousin, that said his cousin only used you to get at your ex because as he already told you he didn't get on with him. Your BF or ex BF will be chatting to girls and getting on with ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I've lost myself . I love him but I've changed. how do I tell him I need "time out" without hurting him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years. We love each other and all, but we've broken up and made up numerous times. I feel I've changed drastically from being the fun girl to being the obsessed girlfriend. I feel as if I...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
your not being selfish at all, your actually being very wise and also caring as you don't want to hurt him in any way. I would tell him that you need time to yourself, and that you really don't want to hurt him or end it with him, you just... (read in full...)
She was the ONE. I'm still getting over our break-up. I would love to hear your thoughts on my issues please?
Q. It's been almost three years since we first broke up. About two years since we actually spoke to each other even though we were hanging out within 5 feet at a friends about a year ago and still didn't actually speak. I don't know a lot obviously,...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
I'm sorry you still feel the way you do, but you Have to move on if you ever want a chance of being happy again. If she indeed went out with her best "friend" straight after ending things with you then she never really loved you. How coul... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting about porn I found on his laptop when I checked out things on his laptop?
Q. Hi. I'm a 25yr old Female. I have been with my bf for 6yrs now.both of us studied in the same uni where we met through common friends. A year later we moved in together.we have had few ups and downs but he has been an amazing bf through out. Abou...
A. 27 October 2012: HI
Firstly he trusted you enough to leave his computer with you so you could watch movies ( not snoop into his private files) secondly many men look at porn, and if he is still a virgin as are you it's no wonder why. He has to have some outl... (read in full...)
How does he always seem to turn up?
Q. theres this boy who is always just turning up when I arrive in the cafeteria and I dont even have a really regular set routine. So how is it when I choose to go early there he is? When I choose to sit outside he just happens to walk up the path ...
A. 26 October 2012: HI
I agree with everyone here, I don't think it's anything other thn just being friendly and giving you someone to chat to. Maybe next time you see him say you always seem to be around when I expect it! and see what he says. But keep it in a ... (read in full...)
Can you guide me towards better choices? Why does he not bother with me at all anymore?
Q. My boyfriend and I (together for 2 and half years) are going through a really bad phase of our relationship and it doesn't seem to be letting up any time soon. Our relationship has hit rock bottom and I'm driving my self mad trying to figure...
A. 26 October 2012: HI
As you already know the answers your going to get to this question I feel your making progress to a better future. Walking away is the best and only way your going to ever have a chance to be happy again. This will make him open his eyes as ... (read in full...)
Was he fake or for real?
Q. I'd appreciate some thoughts on this situation. Recently on a business holiday, I met a man in fairly unusual circumstances. We clicked instantly. There was a very strong attraction both physical and spiritual. I think it kind of shocked us both ...
A. 26 October 2012: HI
That is almost Identical to what happened to me a couple of months ago. And even still he texts me saying how he has never felt this way about anyone but me, and how I must know deep down inside he speaks only the truth. His messages in the b... (read in full...)
I want to be friends, he wants a FWB
Q. This may be odd...but i need help. I met this guy at the beginning of my senior year, same age as me, and we obviously liked each other. We hung out once at his house and chilled and almost kissed. Then a week later he got into a relationship that ...
A. 26 October 2012: HI
I would just say that it's great your friends, and a good job that's all you are as you would'nt want to loose the friendship, simple as that. Personally I feel the only reason he wants to be FWB is because his not that into you, harsh bu... (read in full...)
Why would an almost stranger go through my bag in these circumstances?
Q. This is a very little matter indeed, but I come to you to find out (or confirm) if it is weird. I'm working with a family - a Father and daughter... they have asked me to adapt their daughter's book that she wrote when she was 6 into a play. Alr...
A. 26 October 2012: HI
Maybe he has the hots for you, so in by using your chapstick he feels closer to you. He knows you MUST know where in YOUR bag you left it, so can't get out of saying "not me" lol but yes very very weird, to the point that I would NOT want... (read in full...)
Why do I keep on wanting what I can't have, namely: married men? Is there something wrong with me? What can I do?
Q. Why do I go for married men? Even though I know it never works! I really like this guy, who is quite a lot older than I am; and married! He confessed he had fallen for me, I tried to convince him he hadn't because he was married, but I knew that ...
A. 23 October 2012: HI
I think you have massive commitment issues as well as a Husband thief. You go for married men because you know you wont have to commit, it'S ALL ABOUT THE CHASE, the sex, and the heated moments were you know you could BOTH get caught. ... (read in full...)
What's his game? Is he trying to use me as a booty call?
Q. I met this guy at a club. He had dinner and we went his place but I refused to have sex. Two days later he invited me to come to his brother's birthday party. I went there but we didn't had sex. then he invited me to come over his place to...
A. 23 October 2012: HI
That's not a booty call hun, that was a booooo call. You scared him off because your too serious. To have a booty call you need to be giving him the booty!! you only JUST met him and already your expecting his undivided attention. So he in... (read in full...)
Would you put up with a jealous man just so you could get the other nice things back?
Q. I recently split up with my boyfriend because I found him on a dating site and even when I confronted him he said it wasn't him and even blamed me for setting it up. Well he wasn't very nice to me, very paranoid, jealous and angry a lot. I decided ...
A. 23 October 2012: HI
No I certainly would not. You will find this in another man again one day, but without all the drama that went with it. You will only regret going back with him . If he is like that now it could get even worse if your relationship progress... (read in full...)
In Love with a boy I can't have help me!
Q. Here goes i was talking to this amazing lad for about a year on facebook yesterday we met uo for about 5 minutes and i felt something ive never felt with anyone else before and i know i love him its not lust etc, and i know he doesnt feel the same, ...
A. 21 October 2012: HI
Obviously this boy is still playing the field, he seems like a guy who probably don't have confidence so the only way he boosts himself his flirtting with all the girls. Right now I would NOT tell him you love him, he will run a mile. Bu... (read in full...)
My studies are suffering from having a crush!
Q. Hello I am a student in middle-school(Korea) and I am school vice-president. I am the top in my school in grades and I have many friends(btw I am korean but I am fluent in English). Whenever I like someone, I felt good when something we did matched ...
A. 21 October 2012: HI
The good thing is you have noticed now that this crush is spoiling your chances of getting good if not great grades. I think the best thing for you to do is just tell her how you feel, this way you will know one way or another if she feels th... (read in full...)
Feels like he's cheating, looks like he's cheating. But why would he get someone else to send me a romantic message when in six years he's never done that ever?
Q. Hi all. I just want know if its okay of me to think like this. I've never cheated in my whole life whereas my boyfriend has done it a numerous times at once he had a baby with someone else because of that. He can't type and send a romantic sms...
A. 17 October 2012: HI
No one can say if it's wrong or not, only you will know in your heart what you feel. However don't stress unless you have PROOF that it was someone else sending the message on his behalf. That said I think it's kinda sweet that he wanted t... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend possibly controlling and abusive? Is he playful or hurtful?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very playful relationship but sometimes he can take things too far. The other night we were playing around he hit my chest really hard so I backed if and that made him upset. So I pulled him outside to talk. And he was ...
A. 16 October 2012: HI
Sounds like you and your boyfriend need to grow up or split up. As for the rough play, it don't start like that then turn abusive, you just need to make it clear that you don't like to play rough, if he continues to then tell him stop or ... (read in full...)
My ex passed away and left me money, should I give it to his family?
Q. Hey everyone, I was dating this man for about 4 years after which we broke up,let's call him mark..so I broke up with mark cuz he cheated on me,and he begged for forgiveness I let it go once but I just cldnt get over the fact that he cheated ...
A. 16 October 2012: HI
I'm sorry for your loss. It must be very hard for you right now having to deal with his family too. However he LOVED you and wanted to leave you his money and what ever else he thought you should have, I understand your worry but If he wante... (read in full...)
My wife has secrets. Do I sit on this? Or tell her I know everything?
Q. Hello everyone im back!!!! My wife and i have been together for thirteen years. I was her first for everything. The problem with my wife is she has regrets for things she missed out on. I know cause when ever she makes comments like ho...
A. 16 October 2012: HI
you need to read back what you have written, and there is your answer.......this man goes to great lengths to flatter your wife!!!! maybe because you don't anymore and she is feeling nelected? sounds like she needs attention and if your not... (read in full...)
How do I tell my b/f of 1 week that I'd prefer he didn't take drugs?
Q. Hi there, Me and my boyfriend (who have been together for just over a week now)have really fallen deeply for each other. We get on so well, have the same sense of humour, music tastes, etc..almost everything I've ever wanted in man I've found i...
A. 16 October 2012: HI Again
please don't be naive in this sitution. Most drug users will tell you anything you want to hear, do you think after years of taking drugs it takes one person to say " it's me or the drugs" and they stop? NO he will either h... (read in full...)
I'm back in touch with b/f from 18 years ago. I want to be with him but have a boyfriend!
Q. hi ive been with my partner for ten years but recently ive been in contact with an old boyfriend from 18 years ago i loved my old boyfriend then but we were too young,now were bk in touch my feelings have returned!i want to b with him what do i do?...
A. 15 October 2012: HI
I think you should leave the past were it was. in the past. The thought of all the old romance is just that, people change over the years and 18 is a long time to pass, you don't really know what his like now. he could be many things, ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my b/f of 1 week that I'd prefer he didn't take drugs?
Q. Hi there, Me and my boyfriend (who have been together for just over a week now)have really fallen deeply for each other. We get on so well, have the same sense of humour, music tastes, etc..almost everything I've ever wanted in man I've found i...
A. 15 October 2012: HI
I don't think you ready to tell him what he can or can't do, one week is a ridiculas amount of time to say your deeply inlove with him, thats is nowhere near long enough to even know him enough. It sounds like you both have some growing... (read in full...)
I am not interested in this 50 year old married man at work. So how do I discourage him effectively? And before he gets any more ideas please.
Q. Recently a married man at work has been flirting with me and jokingly we bantered, but nothing serious to start with as I am 22 and he 50, but in the past 3 months he's started heavily flirting to the point people have started commenting on it! F...
A. 7 October 2012: HI
I think you need to approach your conversastions more tactfully in the future, if you already know he takes everything in a rude context you shouldn't encourage him. That said you need to make it perfectly clear to him...." I found your com... (read in full...)
I can't satisfy my husband in bed. I feel a failure. Is this relationship going no where?
Q. Hi. I cant satisfy my husband. It has always been hit and miss and I have tried to leave him too, this was one of the reasons. He says that I don't 'join' with him referring to his sick ways. It has put me under a lot of pressure and guilt. If I...
A. 7 October 2012: HI
No it means your Husband is selfish and it's either his way or the high way. If you are being made to feel pressured into something you are NOT comfortable with what does that say about him? I think maybe its time to sit him down and tell... (read in full...)
How can I get her to love and trust me again?
Q. Hello Everyone, I am hoping I reach someone who has some actual knowledge in relationships. I am just unsure of what to do. I have been married for 9 years come November (2012), and my wife is no longer in love with me because I destroyed her tr...
A. 4 October 2012: HI
I would just continue to do what your doing, when the time is right she will rememeber all the reasons why she fell in love with you in the first place. But you will have to get yourself a hobbie, i;e gym, golf,extra tuition. somethin... (read in full...)
Married to a Serial Cheater. Our baby will be born in January. And your advice about what to do about this situation would be?
Q. I am married to what I think is a serial cheater. We have been together 7 years married for 4 years. Once caught him on sex dating websites, with hidden email accounts and we put an end to it and communicated on what and why he did it and some of h...
A. 4 October 2012: HI
I'm sorry to say but he will never change. He has constantly repeated his actions in regaurds to these sites, and you have repeatedly forgiven him and moved on which in turn is letting him know what ever he does your going to talk about it... (read in full...)
Her Mom has agreed to keep it secret. But do I tell my new Gf that I had sex with her Mom in the past?
Q. I have been dating a woman for a few months now and all is going really great. Recently she introduced me to her mother and immediately we recognized each other. A few years earlier we were in a bar and started talking to each other. She is was o...
A. 1 October 2012: HI
I would just walk away from it. what can possibly be gained by telling her what happened if your not going to be with her? if her mother wants to cheat with younger men than that is her buisness she will be caught out one day im sure, bu... (read in full...)
I'm confused about becoming aroused from dirty talk on a teen site
Q. Hey everyone. I recently was on a teen chat room and a guy private messages me. He started talking dirty and at first I laughed but I became aroused. I eventually engaged in the chat and got off on it. After I was done I was shocked and scar...
A. 30 September 2012: HI
I agree with' so very confused' it just makes you human. when your reading a book that has raunchy or sexual wording, it will arouse you, so texting or emailing is the same, just words. Your young and learning things every day, I would ad... (read in full...)
If you won money, how much would you give your guardian?
Q. Hey everyone, This is not a relationship question, it's a "what if" question. Ok, let's say you are 17 years old and you've been living with somebody like a guardian since you were 16, you don't have any parents, and you pay the person $300 ever...
A. 30 September 2012: HI
I must agree with many on here, why ARE you paying your guardian $300 a month? they should be paid by the goverment not you. And IF you won/inherited $35.000 for your 18th I would use it for something constructive like passing my driving ... (read in full...)
Her Mom has agreed to keep it secret. But do I tell my new Gf that I had sex with her Mom in the past?
Q. I have been dating a woman for a few months now and all is going really great. Recently she introduced me to her mother and immediately we recognized each other. A few years earlier we were in a bar and started talking to each other. She is was o...
A. 30 September 2012: HI
Personally I would be too weirded out to continue a relationship with someone if I had slept with his father, but that is just me. I would tell her though, but I would tell the mother first about your plans so she gets a heads up before h... (read in full...)
Should I feel threatened that she wants him back? Do I stay out of this, or do I mark my territory?
Q. A while ago I met a great guy after 3 years of being single. It took me along time to get over my marriage to my previous husband and spent my single time having fun and enjoying life and trying to repair any damaged caused from that marr...
A. 8 September 2012: HI
I would advise him NOT to see her without the solicitor being involved, she could be up tp something more than just trying to win him back. However there is nothing stopping you from also going to visit him ( surprise visit) that way you ... (read in full...)
Can you see why I am so angry? My husband thinks his job will be at stake if he stands up to his supervisor. She sends him texts about her sex life!.
Q. Ok, here's my problem. Been with bf for 5 and a 1/2 yrs, engaged have a little boy together, and boyfriend took on my 3 kids:) He started a new job in jan this year, and seems to like it now he's settled there a bit. His direct supervisor is fem...
A. 6 September 2012: HI
I am so sorry for how your husband is treating you, but I have seen this many times and it's not good i'm afraid. It sounds like to me your husband is enjoying this cheap talk, I am not saying they are up tp anything else, but it would be... (read in full...)
How do cope with my Gf''s request and suggestion? She wants space, plus she suggested I date her friend.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now, and i love her to bits. we recently moved in together and it seemed perfect, but 2 weeks later she told me she was unhappy. we used to say we wanted to get married, and live a long l...
A. 4 September 2012: HI
Seems to me your girlfriend has made a point, if she is thinking about this guy at work and now you can see yourself with her friend it says it all, your not meant for each other. I would take this as a polite hint that its over between ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to leave me alone?
Q. There's this woman that I work with that took a liking to me. At first she would subtly show interest by asking me how I was and if I needed anything, I could ask her. I never thought anything of it so I started to talk to her on a friendly basis ...
A. 20 August 2012: HI
I would tell the manager straight away, this is now sexual harrassment. I don't think your shallow for not taking an interest in plus size women, we all have our own taste in people. However make sure you also keep your opinions to yourself... (read in full...)
Driving accident wasn't my fault. Should I pursue it?
Q. I was driving home tonight from town and i was on the stretch to my house when i turned a corner slowly and as i was coming up the road a car passed me on my side and broke my wing mirror. i was was really shocked and nearly shit myself. the drivers ...
A. 19 August 2012: Hi
I would persue it, he was in the wrong here.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
He's acting more distant. But I can't see what I did wrong. What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing someone and we have been getting on so well he knows a lot of my friends too so it's not like I am any girl. He has just acted so distant and failed to make plans with me over the last few weeks! I have seen him as we have all ...
A. 15 August 2012: HI
If your looking for an honest opinion, then I think you should just move on. It sounds like he got what he wanted and was just a weak man, so rather than tell you the truth he was stringing you along in hoping you would just leave him alone. I... (read in full...)
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