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writes:I'm 18 and going to college and generally excited to be on my own. The only thing I'm worried about is that I have practically zero experience with guys. I've only had one boyfriend and that was a year ago, but I only went out with him because I was desperate. I'm still a virgin obviously and it's starting to bother me. I really want to meet guys, but I either freak out when they show interest or like the ones who are unavailable. Help!?
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reader, KidfromLA93 +, writes (2 August 2010):
I know what you go thru , but it should not bother you are still a virgin ,you just did the right decision to wait for the right person , you should not care about what others say , most of them lose their virginity when they are drunk or not with the person they are attracted to , just to say "i did it" only to impress people.
Maybe you should start with guys to flirt ,because you can't wait for the right person always to come to you. Give a guy you like a smile which says " your hot and cute" then it will play his mind if you are his type he will talk to you.
You should not like a guy for the way he dresses or his looks , you should like him for the way he is, if you feel attracted to him then give him a sign ( the smile i mentioned ) before you have a relationship with a person ,get to know that person and only be with a person you really like.
If you are depressed or having problems with yourself , solve that first , because you can't love somebody else if you don't love yourself. Building up your confidence and your self esteem is also very important , because persons can feel if you are depressed or not and guys don't like depressed girls.
You have to overcome you shyness ,because people feel rejected if you don't react.
Just say to yourself "i can do it , i want to do it and i grab this chance and don't let it go away again , because i am smart and beautiful and he is a really cute person".
You only get the experience if you start to flirt with guys and overcome your shyness , it sounds extremely hard for you , but if you did it once or twice its getting easier for you each time it does not matter if they did like you or not ,only thing that matters that you were able to do it with pushing your fears back. Mostly love comes unexpectedly.
I wish you the best luck and i hope my advices helped you , if you have additional questions i don't mind if you ask me them , i answer them with pleasure .
Goodbye:-)
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (2 August 2010):
 why dont you just focus on your school work getting involved with guys will just lead to problems.
dont tell them your a virgin either and dont believe anything guys tell you..thats my advice.
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reader, Kevin.st1  +, writes (2 August 2010):
Ok, I'm my opinion the first thing you need to do is take a breath and calm down. It's actually a lot more common for people to be virgins at our age than you think. I only lost my virginity 4 months ago, but I know loads of people who say that have but actually haven't. The key is not to rush into a relationship just because you want sex. Your relationships should be based on mutual love and respect for one another.With regards to how you act around boys, just remember one thing: be yourself! One day a boy will come along who will find you amazing just the way you are. He will find it cute that when you first met you stumbled over your words! :)Hope that was helpful, and good luck!
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reader, luvingme21 +, writes (2 August 2010):
 There's nothing to be nervous about. I use to be the same exact way. Boys use to have to cooties for God's sake! LOL. Don't worry, I'm sure you'll met a great guy who'll understand and he'll learn to be extra careful with you. Don't ever be desperate, still having your V-card at this age is a miracle. Don't be like the other girls rushing and then later on regretting. Be a leader not a follower. Be the girl that plays her own drum while all the others follow. Hope my advice helped =)
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