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writes:Ok,so I am 20 and I have a younger sister who is 18.When we were kids,we used to get along really well,until I fell in love with someone I met online when I was like 15.Since then,I felt she started losing respect for me.When I was 17 I left the country to go to college in a different area,and came back when I was 19.The situation got even worse,as I saw we got more distant with each other.The problem is she doesn't respect me.An example of this is,she's going to move in with me in September,but her classes start in october.So I asked her to stay so she can help me with my exams.She agreed and added she might also take driving lessons before school starts.Today,she mentioned she found a part time job in our hometown and can't really be of much help to me.Now,she is not in need of money,and this "job" isn't something important.It's for like a week.So I ask her why she didn't let me know before,and she rudely responded "Do I need to tell u everything?".There are many examples like this,the most recent one is I was typing on my laptop 10 mins ago,and she comes and closes my door,added by a "You're making too much noise" and she didn't even say goodnight.I was on this website,so it hit me right there I should ask for your guys help.It's kinda ridiculous,since everyone I know respects me,and my own sister treats me like I'm special ed.Whenever she fucks up,she just says she was sorry,and expects me to treat her well. How should I go about this situation?Especially now that we're gonna be living together? Should I talk to her? Or make her understand some things with my behavior? It pisses me off,and whenever me and her are in an arguement in front of our parents,they take her side,and when I sit down and analyze things 80% of the times they realize I was right. It makes me feel like I'm still 16 and makes me wanna spend less time with them when she's around. Whenever its only me and them,we hardly ever have issues. Thanks for ur help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): well im the big sister...and my little sister would do anything for me...i once had her lick bird poop off of a telephone pole in front of my friends...just because i could. today we are the best of friends....
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (23 August 2010):
mizz.butterflies is verified as being by the original poster of the question About the job thing,it's not like she has a boss or she will get paid. It's 3 dollars per hour (ridiculous) and she just wants to help her friend.I don't care about it,but i care about the fact that she should have told me before she agreed to stay in the city and help me. That was only an example though. I don't have a major problem with her,as we still get along most of the time,but sometimes her attitude leaves me in a state of "HUh?!". And the thing is,since I was abroad,I wonder how living with her will be now that I'm back.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Ehhh I think that's just par for the course. She's young and trying to look cool and 'cool' ends up being making other people feel like crap. my sister did the same thing to me. I don't think there's much wrong with her being independent ie. taking a job for a little bit, it'll be good for her resume and really, you're 20 years old, at this point, you should be self-sufficient in the whole studying department by now, you've had almost 20 years of practice after all.
I think you could preface living together with her and say that this living arrangment is only really going to work if I feel like I am being treated as an equal. Treat me only as you would want to be treated. But again, I'd try to do this with my sister, but she wouldn't really GET how hurtful she was. She grew out of it, though, and I think if your sister is about to start school, you guys may become closer cause you're far along with your studies, and will have tips for her. Try not to let her bring you down too badly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): It doesnt really sound like shes doing anything bad...
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